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High, I recently got with this HB7 like around ...
Girlfriend is disgustingly selfish in bed!
High, I recently got with this HB7 like around a month ago. We have been "together" atleast 10 times and I have never came close to being satisfied. She will either stop when things start to get good because she is "getting tired", I will give her directions and she will do her own thing, or she will complain about how its taking to long which turns me off, or keep asking if im almost "done". Keep in mind that I make sure she "comes" every time if time allows, and if we barely have anytime I will offer to get her off. After she has "come" she will either role over and go to bed or do some b.s which feel so unpleasing. I have tried talking and giving directions, but Im started to get frustrated(afc..I know). Any advice will be helpful.
Fuck that noise. You should be enjoying yourself before she gets off. I would tell her she can't get you off "even if she tried." Tease the shit out of her. neg her and make her know this isn't just about her.
Just have intercourse the first time and don't bother trying to please her until later, wash up, go for round 2 and then go for the pleasing part. Getting her wet shouldn't be an issue. If she complains, tell her you didn't want her to get tired and give her a big hug and kiss.
And don't worry about whether or not she's having an orgasm each and every time. It's a nice thing to have, but they're usually fine with having orgasms half the time. Sometimes they just want to go for it and get in the moment.
I have a feeling she won't give you the answers you're looking for.... like I can discuss sex with someone in their 20s and 30s, and I remember when I went through my jailbait phase at 18-20 it was extremely difficult to get any real answer, indecisive, and learned later on it was lack of experience and not knowing their bodies well enough until they got older and were able to speak up, because they got tired of guys fumbling around.
Real time for intercourse should be 5-10 minutes. Check the national averages... it might even be less. 20 is nice but not all women can handle it for that long, it gets numb after a while, sometimes raw (even for guys).
When she's on top it's nice because you can figure her rhythm and pace out. Some like it fast, some like it slow,but everyone has their own pace. But do be careful because if you slip out, it can damage the goods, but all this time I've been fine whenever I've done it.
It's a legit frustration that most guys go through, not AFC. If anything the AFC part is trying to please her 100 percent of the time and not being a little selfish yourself.
Originally Posted by SwiftPlay
Thank you guys, I will take your advice and be little more selfish. Its starting to get out of hand, she's even brought up me masturbating so she could see me "come". Its really not just sex but in general I feel as if she's not as giving as I am.
Hey just be careful with sex in relationships SwiftPlay I had a similar situation with my LTR and women and sex are real sensitive. You really just have to sit her down and talk about it if she is a selfish person in nature I would ask why are you dating her and take charge, punish her for bad behavior by withdrawing attention and take control of the relationship. Be careful with the words you use because they could come back to haunt you sex is a real sensitive subject for most females and even more sensitive for females in a monogamous relationships. What I would suggest is do a position you like and cum quick and see how she reacts. I think she might like that every once in a while. I know its always about satisfying the girl, but girls never feel like the sex is complete unless you cum too regardless of what she is telling you. Also the way you describe it maybe she feels defensive because of her inadequacy to get you off before her. You should try this: Having sex in different places in as many different positions as you can there are sex position books you can buy at Spencers and such, also never ever masturbate in the relationship this will force you to get off from the sex regardless of how bad it is. Like I said before tho just be real real careful about the way you discuss sex with her its a very touchy subject.
How long does it take you to finish?
I was just about to ask that!
Originally Posted by Vapor
Look, obviously your girlfriend is being selfish in bed. But if you're taking a long time to finish, I can kinda see where she's coming from. From a girl's pov, it can seriously get tiring and boring (and even painful) if you're just there pounding away for ages. This is why she suggested you masturbate to finish. That at least shows that she WANTS you to come - she may be feeling frustrated that she hasn't been able to do it herself yet.
However, if you really only take 5-15 minutes and she still refuses to play for the whole game, maybe it's worth considering whether you really want to be with her? You're only a month in and sex is an important part of a relationship.
Also, keep in mind what Stryke said about sex being a sensitive topic for most girls and make sure you approach the issue carefully and sensitively.
Lol @ how this chick gets off and then tries to go to sleep. Try watchin porn with her. Somethin that'll stimulate her.
I dont chase 'em I replace 'em, and if I'm caressin her I'm undressin her.
Well, to answer your questions, we can be fooling around for like 20 min and I will not "come". I decided to talk to her about it, after suggesting that we just avoid sex. She tried hard that night but still no luck. Also, she is the only girl that I have had sex with so the problem may be within me, I wonder if anybody else has this problem, I really feel no great pleasure during sex like I thought I would.
Couldn't agree more with this.
Originally Posted by Stryke
Got drunk a few weeks ago, saw her really really late. I was in the mood, she wasn't (it was like 4 am so...) but I got pissed off (drunk and dumb) because we hadn't had sex in like 2 weeks with everything going on.
I'm just now gaining some ground back with this chick.
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