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    CONFUSED. my ex texts me out of nowhere

    ok so after she broke up with me i was left with crazy oneitis for a long time. after a while i had to unfriend her from facebook cuz seeing her name pop up made me sick to my stomache. eventually got over it and started getting back into the game. well, over thanksgiving break she texts me something stupid like "i heard u were sick, feel better". i gave her a pretty closed response "yea thanks". w\e that was the end of that.
    this morning i woke up and i had a text from her saying "hi". she does this alot just to start conversations pretty much. so i reply "hey happy hanukkah" just to be polite. then hours later i get "thanks. merry christmas. do u want to be friends". ughhhhh wtf. i had her completely out of my life! ive already responded to this but i wanna know wut u guys would do at this point.
    so i say "hah, well that was straight to the point. sure but under one condition". i did this cuz i felt i played it off like i was unaffected and that SHE has to do something to become friends with ME.
    then she obv asks wut this condition is.
    i reply "u have to help me plot against my sisters new bf" (she knows im very protective)
    she laughed and agreed n i left the convo at that.

    so questions.
    does it sound like i played this right?
    does she want something from me? i dont get y she texts this out of nowhere
    do i even bother making an effort to talk to her?
    how would u guys handle this type of situation?


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    and another thing. it would be great to make her want me again. not cuz i want her but because id want her begging for me back. i dont just want to try n game her like any other girl, or shold i? is there a certain type of "ex game" lol?
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    I was in the same situation as you 3 or 4 months ago and sorta blew it trying a little too hard. It's not possible if you do that. After that I pretty much started ignoring her and just had a great time this past semester, barely even thinking about her. And what do you know, this break she IMed me and pretty much asked me to be fuck buddies, which is just about all I'd seriously want from her at this point now.

    You really only have one move here man. You NEED to act like you've moved on and want nothing from her, but you really have to convince yourself that. Whether or not you want her back that's really you're only play. You need to show her you're the man and seem like you're better off now. Just live your life, show her how awesome you are and she'll come back. Only question is whether or not you'll take her back.

    I also agree with the previous poster:
    "it would be great to make her want me again. not cuz i want her but because id want her begging for me back." This tells me you want her back and you are denying it but you want her crawling back but even if she didn't come crawling back you would still take her if she said "I want to be with you.".

    He's dead on with that. You really have to just let her go and have some fun, and she may just come back begging as you'd like her to. When she does, don't seem eager to take her back.

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    great posts guys. thanks for the advice. i guess i rly needed other ppl to tell me that stuff before i did something stupid again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sylo View Post
    great posts guys. thanks for the advice. i guess i rly needed other ppl to tell me that stuff before i did something stupid again.
    some people just send out "hi" or "wassap" to everyone in their phone at once when they have nothing to do.

    maybe she just kept your number and when she got a reply from you started the wanna be friends stuff.

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    I don't know anyone who does what the above poster said people do. But I guess possibly they do...

    I am having a similar problem with an ex, and realizing a lot of my sticking points are coming from her. My answer to this situation is "fuck her" and not in the good way, in the, ignore her texts and her IMs and everything else. It would be great to have her begging, I feel for you there, but it also won't happen. She will wrap you right back around your finger because that is now how your brain is emotionally trained to respond to her.

    This is a fight that is nearly impossible to win and not worth the emotional damage it is likely to cause, not only you, but potentially both of you. Forget about her. She's the reason that sexist behavior exists amongst some men. Warranted or not, idk, you were probably an AFC, but still, don't let her loop you back in.

    The other night my ex IMd me, I didn't respond. This should be your attitude too. It feels great.

    Edit: Oh, a factual issue, girl:guy ratio is not 3:1 in the U.S. It is more 1:1 (source: https://www.cia.gov/library/publicat.../print/us.html)
    But still, there is lots of women out there for you.

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    yea huge AFC with her, no doubt. i cant believe some of the stupid stuff i thought was benefitial to the relationship hahaha. and yea, thanks guys. probly rite, shes not worth it.
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    SYLO I want you to this seeing your trying to get this girl out of your life... Delete her number! Then next time she text you, say sorry who is this... Then she'll know that you are over her. I did that and man she realized i had put her out of my life for good. Were still friends, but she knows i am over her.
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    wow holy shit clik. get out of my mind! hahaha. i got a new fone as a gift so of course i made one of those "need ur numbers" groups on facebook. but like i said i unfriended her already so the next time she texts i wont know its her cuz i actually dont have her number. good point and even better timing lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sylo View Post
    ok so after she broke up with me i was left with crazy oneitis for a long time. after a while i had to unfriend her from facebook cuz seeing her name pop up made me sick to my stomache. ......


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    do i even bother making an effort to talk to her?
    how would u guys handle this type of situation?
    If she had such an emotional impact on you, i would stay away.

    You will just go back into same emotional roller coaster.

    Play hard to get and game other girls. No point of chasing this one. This only spells trouble.
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