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    She loves me but shes not in love with me? WHAT?

    Yeah, she popped that statement and told me she loves me but shes not in love with me. So basically she doesn't feel attracted to me but she still likes me.. Though she claimed that she never was in love with me the whole year we've been together and she was trying to fall for me..


    What should I do?

    Other than dumping her and finding someone else.. because I can already do that.. But in a sense I wanna try to work it out and wanna know what my problem might be.



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    well since we're living together, shes been isolating me for a few days before she told me
    After that we went through a whole week of weird life together.. me thinking of how should I treat her...
    So in the end I end up telling her that I gotta move out for 2 weeks.. At least to let us think about what the hell we want.. And I asked her if we could give each other a month off and we'd start on a clean slate 1 month later from now and forget about the shit in the past

    and she was okay with it.. and started to cuddle me when we slept in our last night together. Of course refusing my advances. She didnt even allow a kiss.

    but hell has she messed up with my whole frame..

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    I don't know about a months break though...

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    Quote Originally Posted by wlp View Post
    Yeah, she popped that statement and told me she loves me but shes not in love with me. So basically she doesn't feel attracted to me but she still likes me.. Though she claimed that she never was in love with me the whole year we've been together and she was trying to fall for me..


    What should I do?

    Other than dumping her and finding someone else.. because I can already do that.. But in a sense I wanna try to work it out and wanna know what my problem might be.
    Her statement is basically saying she no longer sees you as someone she is sexually attracted to but still loves you in a way a mother loves her child.

    What's wrong with dumping her and finding someone else? Sometimes you can't fix a relationship and have to move on. Obviously she doesn't feel the same way as you do anymore. I'm not saying this is the answer to all relationship problems, but this seems to be a past a certain point.

    Anyway I strongly believe that the attitude of non neediness and knowing that you can always find someone better if this doesn't work out actually can solve a lot of relationship problems.

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    Actually I've been thinking about not acting needy and mentalities like that. Sometimes I don't really know where to start
    When a girl is used to you treating her in a certain way, wouldn't it be weird if you suddenly changed your attitude..
    I have insecurities in my freaking head telling me that she won't notice even if you change, or she won't even give a damn..

    At least it doesn't feel like shes giving a damn

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    start gaming other girls and keep her around as a girl you can talk to/maybe hook up with sometime...and use as a pivot/social proof
    "The bomb dropped as insanity coordinated the genetic code of human emotion."

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    well i left her hanging around for a week or so and I moved home after a huge fight with her
    after 2 days I was showing that i was with some other girl and all as i wrote on my blogs
    Her sister then told me that my girl asked her if I liked another girl or was dating someone else

    but shit happened as I went and had a talk to her as a friend sorta thing
    and said sorry for saying hurtful things during the fight
    but I will have to be moving back to her place in a few days cuz of school.. takes like an hour and a half to get to school from my original home, and only half the time from her house
    So moving might not be the best option for me functional wise

    Talked to a bunch of people about this situation. You think its best I just ignore her and go on with my life and game other girls and keep letting her know but still stay at her place? Make myself totally unavailable and come home uber late everynight and stuff like that.
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    now what shes telling me about the problem in our relationship is that she thinks she needs time cuz I hurt her feelings during our arguements and shit and she needs time to get over the feeling that i kinda betrayed her trust
    and not about liking or loving stuff..

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