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    if we break up

    Wondering if i could get any advice on this;
    Situation: so been seeing this girl and she started talking about her ex and the conversation drifted over to subjuect of my ex's, i told that i don't talk to my exs any more, she asks why?.i tell her cuz it not worth telling. blah blah blah, she gets really upset, cuz shes doesn't want me to forgot her, n write her off like my ex, . she sasy she still wants us to be friends if any ever happens. I proceed by being unresponsble to her pleds, n so she gets frustated w/ me so tell her that i needed to leave, she wouldn't let me. My afc, side was telling me to say to yes i will still be friends but i do the oppostie. Cansomebody give me a better way to handle this, cuz this is the second time this subject been up, n i want to know how to handle it better w/ other girls..
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    tell her whatever the fuck u want it doesnt matter
    but when the time comes just NEXT her as you would a girl who you no longer pursue
    follow the rules
    dont answer her calls / texts
    delete her from internet
    dont initiate contact ever
    if u bump into her keep conversations polite and short and dont agree to meet her
    etc
    etc
    she cant keep you 2 friends just ignore the bitch. if u cant get anything outta her whtas the purpose in keepin in contact - there aint one!

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    my ex and i always swore we would be mates afterwards, no matter what happened, mostly this was at her insistence although i really wanted it as well to be honest.
    long story short she was the one who started compeletely ignoring me after we finished, she had a new guy, which i still would not have had a prob being m8s even tho she met him so soon after me.
    I basically looked at it that feelings would come back for me and things would get complicated. to be honest looking bak now i would have gotten my feelings bak for her too. The way she went about it was rly shite, but at the end of the day, we all say things that we change ou minds about.its a nice thought to think u'll always be friends, especially if ur in love.u dont doubt things like that at the time.its better just to break off in the long run.beam.

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    Quote Originally Posted by casendisez50
    Wondering if i could get any advice on this;
    Situation: so been seeing this girl and she started talking about her ex and the conversation drifted over to subjuect of my ex's, i told that i don't talk to my exs any more, she asks why?.i tell her cuz it not worth telling. blah blah blah, she gets really upset, cuz shes doesn't want me to forgot her, n write her off like my ex, . she sasy she still wants us to be friends if any ever happens. I proceed by being unresponsble to her pleds, n so she gets frustated w/ me so tell her that i needed to leave, she wouldn't let me. My afc, side was telling me to say to yes i will still be friends but i do the oppostie. Cansomebody give me a better way to handle this, cuz this is the second time this subject been up, n i want to know how to handle it better w/ other girls..
    This is where my age and wisdom shold help you younger guys out. First of all if you're a PUA then why have a girlfriend? Some may disagree but if you're sarging then you're cheating and it's only gonna hurt her.Make a choice, and remember you joined the community for some reason(and it wasn't to make your girlfriend happy). In some cases you can be friends with an ex. Think of this:"Why is it so important for her to be friends with someone she's not seeing anymore?" Women usually keep an ex around to fuck(especially WHEN you fuck up). I'm guessing that she's under 21 and women in the 18-24 bracket are usually not really sure what they want.In my AFC days I would cave in and say "yeah we'll be friends" but now I think I would say "It would depend on why we broke up!"...Look you're still a young guy my advice is "leave her, NOW". The harsh reality is that you're not going to marry her anyway and You will only wind up hurting her in the long run if you are going to be a PUA...Hope it helps-good luck

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    Tell her what she wants to hear...
    It`s ok to change your mind later..THEY do it all the time.
    You`re not lying..you`re just playing the game...
    "Act surprised...Show concern...Deny...Deny...Deny".

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    You mean women play the game and have double standards? NO WAY!!! All women are honest and truthful and mean exactly what they say. She said she would call me.. and she's not seeing anyone else..LOLOLOLOL Sorry guys couldnt keep that AFC shit up with a straight face. Doc has spoken and I agree so play on(she is)

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    My ex was always the same way. Wanting to stay friends with her exes. Don't ge me wrong, guy friends are okay, but when a chick still talks to somebody she fucked, sorry, I don't go for that.
    As far as what to tell her, the same as posted above: whatever she wants to hear, but only if she's worth keeping around.
    Cheers,
    D.

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    Thanks everyone for all the feedback. It good to get a different perspective on things. Sarge on

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