Thread: Broke up with her, now what should I do

I quit gaming for 2 months after meeting this woman.
I am 25 and she is a lot older than me (in her 30's)

met her at coffee shop to practice stuff. got her phone number and kept meeting her just to close the deal.(my first f close) I thought I was fooling around (so was she) but as we see each other more, we knew we were getting attached. we talked about our future and moving in together.

one day (yesterday), she became totally different person and broke up with me. If it was done nicely, I wouldn't be upset this much but like telling me she would call police if I show up at her house, totally broke my heart.

I still can't believe it really happened.

today at 2 am , she sent me txt saying how I was doing.

I really don't know what to do cuz she broke up with me like that and if I respond right away, I am just piece of sxxt.
But I do know that she can't just forget about me. I think she did that she can't see the future between us

should I wait for couple more txts and respond to her?

There's no future with you there, in my opinion. Girls will become to the biggest bitches towards you when you break up, mine went on a cockscapade and slept with as many of my friends as she could. That hurt, I'm still getting over it, too.

Don't reply, put her out of your life. If there's one thing experience has taught me, it's that you can't be friends with an ex without a considerable amount of time to let your old feelings die off.

I think if she treats you that bad, and you come running back to her like a puppy when she asks you to, you are in for a very unpleasant relationship.

If you decide to get back with her you need to make a VERY big deal out of this and make it very clear that this behavior is totally unacceptable, and tell her you will think about it and make her wait for one or two weeks before you agree to forgive her. If she's not going to sit around waiting for a couple of weeks it's not meant to be man... move on. If she does you will have set some solid boundaries and she'll think twice before pulling a stunt like that again.

If you let this kind of thing slide she is totally going to dominate your ass, especially with an age difference like that.

I would stop responding to her full stop.

Originally Posted by FemmeFatale

I would stop responding to her full stop.

this is the best choice.
delete all her pictures and ways you can contact her from your phone, PC etc.
go SARGE immediately!

I am 99% sure i know the exact scenario you're in:
she didn't see any future with you, and just fooled around ( doesn't matter if she said she didn't). now she found something better or just got bored or whatever. the reason she thinks shes texting you is because she feels guilty or just wants to be "friends" with you, or maybe even just to see how your doing.
now the REAL (subconscious) reason she is texting you is because she feels superiority and power over you and she wants to see you twitch and pain a bit,
also to play around with your emotions a little.

I know this might seem a bit over the top but i'm pretty much sure this is how it is. bottom lines are STAY AWAY FROM HER and SHE FEELS NOTHING TOWARDS YOU.

p.s I hope some more experienced guys can comment on this.

she is asking me to be her friend till she fixes her personal problems.
I can see her genuine feeling but still don't get it.

instead of saying bye , I will just repond to her txt or phone call like HB9 does to AFC
(reply with very short message, tell her I have something going on that day etc)

Why be her friend.. She treated you like shit when she ended things.. Who the heck says "I am going to call teh police if you show up". That is messed up!

Is that her in your avatar?

she is asking me to be her friend till she fixes her personal problems.
I can see her genuine feeling but still don't get it

AKA, "please be my emotional tampon whom I can dump on, yet withhold sex"

Don't do it, masterH.

FULL STOP. SARGE IMMEDIATELY.
!---FIND A WING ---!

-iWitness

I have to think of how I was in my early 20s. I made the mistake of growing attached to women I just wanted to have fun with.

You made the mistake of seeing her more than you should.

Why she acted so angry, she'll eventually explain. It's either PMS or her jumping to conclusions, but threats are never good. They can apologize and cry and beg you to come back, but assume you moved in with her and all your stuff is there AND she pulls that crap? You're out of a place, you might have a restraining order placed on you, and your life becomes a living hell.

Because she's older, she sees herself as having control over you. She also sees herself getting older, so she's got a ton of insecurities about that as well.

If she's open to you coming over, take her up, but don't fall into the trap of having sex with her. Goodbye kiss at the most, or you'll get the call "I'm late with my period" because you felt compelled to sleep with her. I can tell you that just from what happened to me,she'll just casually bring you into her bedroom and one thing will lead to another, and once it's done, the feeling of remorse is huge, and your self-respect for not being able to say no, is pretty much shot.

Have someone in the car closeby and have them call you, because if you're not interrupted, it's like being under a spell. It is dangerous to be alone with her because she is in a crazed emotional state.

Sometimes it's better to say goodbye over the phone, so if I was to pick one, do it over the phone and not in person. I asked a few female friends and they said phone breakups were easier than in person, but all agreed that text breakups are to be avoided.

She's "dumped" you, so the worst thing that's hurt is your pride, but you can move on from it. Just don't be so open next time.

She's lived more life than you have and has been manipulated in the past. She's doing the same to you.

Originally Posted by masterH

I quit gaming for 2 months after meeting this woman.
I am 25 and she is a lot older than me (in her 30's)

met her at coffee shop to practice stuff. got her phone number and kept meeting her just to close the deal.(my first f close) I thought I was fooling around (so was she) but as we see each other more, we knew we were getting attached. we talked about our future and moving in together.

one day (yesterday), she became totally different person and broke up with me. If it was done nicely, I wouldn't be upset this much but like telling me she would call police if I show up at her house, totally broke my heart.

I still can't believe it really happened.

today at 2 am , she sent me txt saying how I was doing.

I really don't know what to do cuz she broke up with me like that and if I respond right away, I am just piece of sxxt.
But I do know that she can't just forget about me. I think she did that she can't see the future between us

should I wait for couple more txts and respond to her?