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    Over-cozy LTR

    Let me just start out with saying that next-ing her is not an option. Don't make me explain, but just deal with it. Next is not an option in this case.

    Thing is that, she has a very good male-friend which she has been best-friends with long time before I came into the picture.

    And they have a very cozy relationship, they are just friends, it will never happen anything more to it than that (trust me, I've done the research).

    Like when they're sitting in the couch, they're lying next to each other and holding around each other while we're watching TV. Today for example, it was me, them and 2 friends.

    But I want her to stop that because I really don't like it! Call it jealousy, call it anger, call it fear, whatever.

    But I really want to stop it while still them being friends and I'm still her LTR.


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    Why don't you just calmly tell her to cut back on the hugginess? Don't make a big deal of it, just say it's kind of weird and could she tone it down while you're around?

    If she's your LTR, you should be able to talk about these things.

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    I agree with TheRogue. But if it doesnt work out then i would try to amog him every time they get into that comfort zone, eventually he'll feel so awkward that he would be embarassed to do it all together. Just try not to let her see what your trying to do.
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    Well, I solved the problem now, here's what I did: (for further notice)

    I said to her that if my brother's fiancÚ saw my brother doing something like that, she would break up on the spot.
    So I told her that it's okay that they're good friends, I don't mind that, but I said that that's something you really don't do with other than your boyfriend/girlfriend!
    And I also said the following to her: I am not willing to live the rest of my life with you with that behavior, but I am willing to live the rest of my life with you without that behavior"
    So I told her that it's something you really don't do with others, only something between you and your BF/GF. And I don't feel as special when she does it, and it really annoys me.

    So it ended up with her saying that she couldn't possibly risk losing me, so she said that she would stop immediately, and she's never done it since.

    By the way, all this was said to her in a... Not aggressive, but a little disappointed/frustrated tone. Like if your daughter broke a vase, don't do that again, you get the point.

    Hope this helps guys, and it's hopefully a good guide to all of you out there
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    Dude if you really like this girl to make it work and keep it working then dont next her. keep up the good work. What you did was on que and you did it well with t he tone and words that you used. just keep me posted bout the sitch and i'll try to give you some ideas.
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    The situation is solved guys... Read my post to learn, and then move on.
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    have a girl (friends) and do exactly what she does . would be better if you tell this girl teh situation and she helps you well

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