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    Is there anyway to salvage my current situation??



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    I think your worries and lack of confidence in the relationship is going to cause it to end. Worrying about cheating...a lot of times people cheat because they wrongly assumed (but sometimes rightly assumed) that their partner cheated on them.

    I think that you don't need to open your life completely up in a relationship, either. Some guys do this, and sometimes too much is revealed.

    Everything in a relationship is a learning lesson, just don't do anything that could cause you major headaches or "seemed good at the time" (moving in together, joint bank accounts, co-signing for a car that she's going to be driving).

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    Is there anyway to salvage my current situation??
    Well, what do you want to salvage? Looks like you got it under control:

    I am going to meet her tomorrow at her place and i will definately refrain from talking about 'feelings' cause even i admit, ITS ANNOYING, if its the only topic thats constantly discussed. I believe however that congruency is another issue here. I am congruent and confident when discussing matters of my feelings so I do it with confidence and i dont beg. I simply state the facts and refrain from letting her tears effect my judgment.
    1) i will make sure that she does know that i am not messing around and that if she crosses the line i will leave
    Dude , read FemmeFatale's posts again. She hit your nail on the head. Err, so to speak...
    Deep down, I'm very superficial...

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    limg,

    REFRAIN FROM ULTIMATUMS! These destroy relationships single-handedly. Never use these; they are threatening and a clear sign of fear of loss. You need to relax, trust yourself and HER, and enjoy what you share. If you spend the whole time stressing about the semantics of your relationship, you won't enjoy it like it's meant to be enjoyed.

    Don't ever let her walk all over you, obviously. But when you are with a close buddy, you don't constantly worry that he's going to pull out a knife and stick it in your gut, right? lol Sorta the same thing.

    I'll use my gardener example. If you spend all your time working hard to make the plants grow healthy, you never get to enjoy them. Sometimes you need to sit back, and eat some carrots!


    Read the links I posted for you, I think you'll find those quite resourceful.

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