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    to tell or not to tell?

    so this guy I've been with for over a year just recently started to try and use techniques and games on me. Funny thing is, unlike most girls, I can tell when I'm being played with. So I did my research on some of the things he tried to pull, like the "5 question game" and I found these forums, which alas, he is a member of. Should I tell him I know? I've mentioned the past that I know a lot of the games he tries to pull, but I said that without REALLY knowing. I just think it's hilarious because boys don't need techniques and games to win a girl's heart. Listen up men, if you are really looking for love, this is not the way to go, and if you're just looking for a way to score women, you don't deserve one in the first place.

    Now should I know him that after reading the forums I know ALLLLL the games he tries to pull? Or should I just continue to let him try and laugh to myself because I know exactly how to spoil his games?



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    What's it matter? You seem cold hearted and dismissive.
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    i'm not cold hearted and dismissive. we were best friends before we started dating so i think it's funny he tries to use the techniques and games on me now when I already know him so well. If I was really cold hearted I'd tell the other girls he's dating as well about his games, but I'll just let those girls fall for pick up lines and tricks.

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    You're cold hearted and dismissive... You're not worth the precious principles Mystery has bestowed upon us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sillyboys View Post
    I just think it's hilarious because boys don't need techniques and games to win a girl's heart.
    Girls play more games than guys.

    Quote Originally Posted by sillyboys
    Listen up men, if you are really looking for love, this is not the way to go, and if you're just looking for a way to score women, you don't deserve one in the first place.
    Now now... We dont derserve one... We deserve three

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    Now wait a minute here. You're coming down on him for using games on you, but aren't you proposing using games right back on him? If you don't believe in games, isn't that a double standard? Why not just tell him "I was curious about that 5 question game so I googled it and found "the attraction forums." and see what he says. Just tell him you realize that he's been studying game, and you'd like him better if he'd just be himself around you.

    If all you want is to burn him back, you are no better than he is, and a hypocrite for playing games when you're criticizing him for doing exactly that.
    Last edited by Phateless; 06-14-2008 at 07:47 PM.

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    maybe i'm not explaining it right. I've known him since before he started reading these forums and I fell in love with him when he acted like himself, not trying to follow mystery's advice or anyone else's ideas of how to "seduce" a woman. He was quiet and shy and we just clicked. Now that he tries to play games, I still love him, but I want to let him know he doesn't have to use the techniques with me because I fell for him before he learned those. I don't know if it's just me but I'd rather be with a guy who I was attracted to because he was genuine and acted like himself rather than a guy who I found charming because he was using games. Yes girls play games, but I'm one of the few who makes a conscious effort not to. Eventually, constantly using techniques and games gets exhausting right? And if the relationship gets serious, you have to eventually drop the facade and just be yourself right? I don't care if guys use techniques on girls, hell I've dated a few guys who I fell for because of them, but when it comes to this guy, I like him a lot better without them. I just need to know if I should let him know I know all the tricks. I mean when he tries to use the text game or the day game I'll say "it's not going to work on me" because I don't want him to waste his time using these techniques on me when he's had me before them. But at the same time, I don't want to bruise his dating ego if I let him suddenly know that I know all the male tricks and secrets to getting women. I wasn't trying to put any guys down that read this forum or follow this advice, I just wanted to know if you guys think it would be a better idea to just humor him or let him know all about it? Sorry if it seemed as if I was attacking you.

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    phateless..that's what I've been considering doing. I don't like playing games but I feel like if I tell him i googled it he might feel like his game is hurt. I know I said I think its funny that I know everything he's going to say and do now because of the forum, but I don't intend on using that knowledge to play a game back. I don't want to make him upset by telling him, but I don't like when he tries to use the techniques on me when he should know by now he doesn't have to. thanks for the advice though, if I do tell him I'm going to be upfront about it and just let him know I was curious.

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    I dont see why it matters. You love him regardless so just ignore it. it's really obvious he is just getting into 'the game'. Therefore what he is doing is probably not being utilized correctly. The end point of all this stuff is to be original, yourself, and happy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sillyboys View Post
    phateless..that's what I've been considering doing. I don't like playing games but I feel like if I tell him i googled it he might feel like his game is hurt. I know I said I think its funny that I know everything he's going to say and do now because of the forum, but I don't intend on using that knowledge to play a game back. I don't want to make him upset by telling him, but I don't like when he tries to use the techniques on me when he should know by now he doesn't have to. thanks for the advice though, if I do tell him I'm going to be upfront about it and just let him know I was curious.
    He's going to feel stupider in the long run if he finds out that you've known he was running game but haven't said anything.

    Just talk to him...

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