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    How to reinitiate contact with Ex

    Hey Guys,

    Here's a little background info:

    My Ex, a solid 10, and I haven't spoken since we ended over a month ago. In retrospect, I'm ashamed of the way I behaved towards the end of our relationship: I was way too needy and clingy. As a result, she ended things with me.

    After we broke up, I feel as though I had a million epiphanies and took drastic steps towards improving myself. In truth, I feel like a completely different person. So, here's my question:

    How do I go about contacting her without seeming needy? We went out for nearly 2 years, and I can honestly say that she's the greatest girl I've ever met. While she does have her flaws, I believe my failure to maintain attraction - mainly my manliness - was the reason for our demise.

    Any input you guys can offer would be greatly appreciated, thanks.



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    Dont contact her, if she wants you she will come to you...

    Just go about improving yourself and meeting lots of new women, if your ex is from the same area as you she will eventually hear about how well you are getting on and if she still has feelings she will make contact.

    The worst thing you could do right now is contact her, give each other some space !

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    Thanks for the reply. Yeah, that's not the answer that I wanted, but it's probably the correct one.

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    I know its no the answer you wanted but trust me, its what you need to do! The only way you can ever get an ex to come back is by completly shutting her out of your life. She has got to come back on her own accord, not by you trying to entice her back.

    Im speaking from personal experience aswell !!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bucks View Post
    The only way you can ever get an ex to come back is by completly shutting her out of your life. She has got to come back on her own accord, not by you trying to entice her back.
    Completely true. I second this. If you contact her, you're fucked. She'll either think you want to be friends, or that you're not over her. Always let them come back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whwssor1005 View Post
    Hey Guys,

    Here's a little background info:

    My Ex, a solid 10, and I haven't spoken since we ended over a month ago. In retrospect, I'm ashamed of the way I behaved towards the end of our relationship: I was way too needy and clingy. As a result, she ended things with me.

    After we broke up, I feel as though I had a million epiphanies and took drastic steps towards improving myself. In truth, I feel like a completely different person. So, here's my question:

    How do I go about contacting her without seeming needy? We went out for nearly 2 years, and I can honestly say that she's the greatest girl I've ever met. While she does have her flaws, I believe my failure to maintain attraction - mainly my manliness - was the reason for our demise.

    Any input you guys can offer would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
    Sorry to hijack this thread but, hopefully it will benefit the OP if this is answered...

    I am in a similar situation, went out with a HB8.5 in a LTR who through the exact same mistakes as whwssor1005 our relationship ended 8 months ago. It was tough and that is when I read the Game.

    I changed my life, lost loads of weight & fitter than now than ever, got my social life back together, new friends, a raise at work. Through the last 8 months I have been tough with myself and barely contacted her. Which was hard because everyday I think about her.

    If any contact has been made, it has been from her & I have given polite reply, nothing more. We then went the last 2 months with no contact, then just the other day she text me asking how I was doing. From what I can see not much has changed for her, she asked what I'm up to, I didn't tell her too much, more just replied to specific questions that she asked like, if I was getting out much, how my family is etc. So I mentioned that I am going on a few holidays with new mates (which is true). I will wait several hours before replying, so to avoid the neediness I once expressed during the relationship.

    Now the question is, she has ended the last text with "Spk later, Keep in touch" quite what it means I don't know, because she has never been the clingy type, not sure whether or not I should reply to her. I would like to see her again but I don't want to DLV. So should I reply to her bearing in mind I would like to see her again? Is she just being polite in texting to ask how I am?

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    Quote Originally Posted by whwssor1005 View Post
    ..My Ex, a solid 10,...
    If you still think your Ex is a 10, you're not over her. And you need to move on.

    Quote Originally Posted by whwssor1005 View Post
    ..How do I go about contacting her without seeming needy? We went out for nearly 2 years, and I can honestly say that she's the greatest girl I've ever met. While she does have her flaws, I believe my failure to maintain attraction - mainly my manliness - was the reason for our demise...
    This is one-itis. Next.
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    So when she does come back???

    1 = She got in and might sucker punch you again.
    2. From my stand point on everything I learned its liek james bond "Never go back."

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