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    Is it wrong that I just dont give a shit anymore?

    Ok, so I started learning game and all this stuff last year back in October. My wing and I went at it together going out on the weekends, approaching, number closing, K closing, all that good shit. Well I met a girl who I was attracted to in december of last yr. We've been kinda on off because of some personal stuff shes been going through but we've been offiically together for the past couple months. Now shes saying she doesnt seem like she can be fully comfortable with me and like its a forced convo on the phone sometimes. 1st I gotta say, she mumbles all the fucking time and I have to ask her to repeat herself almost after every sentence, so that sucks. 2nd, she just sits there sometimes and doesnt say shit. Like shes in a bum mood and doesnt have anything to say. Whatever. I do my best to be talkative and up beat.

    So im just sitting here thinking, "I dont care." I care about her and if we break up it will suck but I wont be all tore up from it. Im just thinking about how I'd feel about finding a new girl after her. Thats the thing, I dont care to. Its almost like its the same bullshit road with all these women so whats the point. Do you guys ever feel like relationships are just fucking pointless? Ive been in love twice (from what i know how it felt) and it was the best feeling ever. Now, it just seems like that feeling is so far gone or impossible because of how women are these days, why try? Its weird cuz this is the first time I've ever felt like this. I dont feel like gaming, dont feel like being in a relationship, I just feel like being me and living life. You guys ever get that feeling?


    If you want real passion, there has to be a ravisher and a ravishee; otherwise you have two buddies who decided to rub genitals in bed.

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    Take your own advice...DGAF.

    Relationships take time. If you're losing interest and so is she, it's just because no one wants to hurt the other in saying they want out.

    A good relationship takes time. A bad relationship usually means you assumed it was good until you're out of it and have some clarity to what was really going on.

    She's bummed you out, which means you're in a negative place right now.

    You should be having fun at 24.

    What happed to your wing?

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    My wing is still around, he just doesn't game anymore. Either its cuz im not and theres no motivation, or hes just been busy with other things. So its almost like she gave me a prebreakup speech. She said im just letting you know whats on my mind so nothing comes as a shocker. She wants to talk about it and I think im gonna let her know exactly how I feel about the whole ordeal. I think she just doesnt want to feel the guilt of ending the relationship so shes hoping I'll do it. Who knows.
    I know I should be out having the time of my life. Its just when i get bummed, im bummed and dont feel like doing anything. Its just seems like the same road over and over with women my age these days. Theyre all on medication to control their emotions or they just suck at life in general.
    If you want real passion, there has to be a ravisher and a ravishee; otherwise you have two buddies who decided to rub genitals in bed.

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    Why are you still with her if she brings you down so much? You aren't in love with her, why don't you find a girl who will make you happier, all the time? Yes it will be hard to do that but it's not impossible and by staying with this girl you are wasting time, if you just want to be happy then that's impossible to accomplish by staying with her it seems.

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    I've been in a similar mood lately. Getting sick of all the flirtations and complications and would rather just be me and have friends for a while. Too messy...

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    I'm getting that way too. Mainly because the parties around my area lately have been lame as fuck and all there is to do is go sarge at the bars/clubs. Now, I'm at the point where I have all these options but just feel too damn lazy and burnt out to spend the time and energy on them. I agree, women nowadays have so many damn issues.
    "Take the lead but don't show the need."

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    When you're fighting, at least theres still passion.

    When you just don't care anymore, that's when the relationship is in real trouble.

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    I'd call the wing up and tell him that it's been a while since you hung out. He might be a little hurt because you might have bailed on the friendship for the relationship, so it might take some time getting him warmed up to going out with you. It's a good time to look into it so you have some confidence about the options that are out there... but also keep in mind that you might not have any closes... it's like starting over again. Most important thing is to keep a positive frame and outlook.

    Everyone's got issues, some don't let it affect them. I agree about the meds, but as long as you're not the one taking them, life is good.

    As far as where to go, I don't think bars and nightclubs are the only place to go. I never have. You can run game in a laundromat, if it's in a semi-decent part of town and the homeless aren't hanging out. There's a place Ive gone to do laundry that had a waterfront view and a bar next door, and a coffeehouse a 1/2 block away. Running errands, you can run game. Post office.. paying in person vs paying online... shopping... farmer's markets. Even church can be a good social builder because they usually have something going on at nights, and I've met some girls that way, too. They weren't exactly "saving it for marriage" types. Some of them were divorced or didn't care for the types of guys who live in nightclubs, they wanted something a little more. Perception to them is that I don't drink, even though I love good beer and wine. Sometimes a Sunday afternoon bike ride to destinations unknown has had pretty good results. As long as I wasn't sweating like a pig...but even if I was it didn't matter. Sometimes I've gone on bike rides for wine or beer.. if it was just a few, no big deal... the ride home can be a challenge if you had ale.

    "24 and there's so much more" as Neil Young said. He also talked about searching for a heart of gold... that takes a long time. So if this doesn't work, keep on searching.

    I never overdid nightlife and found other activities that didn't involve getting dressed up and spending money on drinks. I can say that I'm not sick of the bar scene, and I like to lie on a beach, go running on a beach and go swimming, but not take walks unless it's to a secluded part.

    Quote Originally Posted by LiftinW8s View Post
    My wing is still around, he just doesn't game anymore. Either its cuz im not and theres no motivation, or hes just been busy with other things. So its almost like she gave me a prebreakup speech. She said im just letting you know whats on my mind so nothing comes as a shocker. She wants to talk about it and I think im gonna let her know exactly how I feel about the whole ordeal. I think she just doesnt want to feel the guilt of ending the relationship so shes hoping I'll do it. Who knows.
    I know I should be out having the time of my life. Its just when i get bummed, im bummed and dont feel like doing anything. Its just seems like the same road over and over with women my age these days. Theyre all on medication to control their emotions or they just suck at life in general.

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    i felt the same way bro, its just a phase, but when you find a cool girl to chill with your life will be cool

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