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so ive been with this girl about 7 months, monogamous, ...
LTR's father is a bastard.
so ive been with this girl about 7 months, monogamous, honest, etc. we're really into each other, and its a good, beneficial relationship.
however, she's from an abusive home, and her father is a bastard. and i don't mean his parents weren't married. i mean that he shouts at his wife and both daughters, and used to physically abuse them(if he does it again, I'll kill him, easy solution). he works alot, and he's very very .....religious. and by that i mean hypocritical, like Christianity that tells people not to have any fun and live like a monk and all that crap. (i am a Christian, the kind that CAN have fun, without hypocrisy and hate. anyone who bashes religion in this thread, i will have the admins deal with you.) he calls my girl (and her sister) a slut because she dresses like most 9's do, and shes a very fashionable girl. respect is something he needs alot of, but being a bastard, he doesn't respect people.
the reason i ask for help now is because life seems to be escalating, and things are going down hill in the family. i need recommendations on how to deal with him so that he knows that i am an alpha male, and if he becomes a threat, i will deal with him.
personally, i am a bare-fist boxing champion, and he knows that, and physically i could tear him apart and he knows that too.
what would yall recommend as far as dealing with this?
if anyone has questions, let me know and i will fill in gaps.
Make her feel good about herself so she can leave home, but don't have her move in with you or be her provider.
She should be living by house rules if he's providing for her, feeding her, giving her a place to sleep. She needs to play the game for now until she's able to move out.
Obviously he needs help, and the best answer is that the more the daughters work on making a lives for themselves, the more insignificant they'll see him. Even if they have to work a crappy job and not dress as nice, piece of mind is worth it, and they can always buy nice stuff later.
Hitting her father shouldn't be an option unless you see him hitting her or coming at you. Should always be in self-defense.
Worry about yourself, you're 18 and don't need the added responsibility of looking after her. Don't try to save them, because she might flake out on you.
If she believes she's not a slut and can handle him at her age, don't worry about anything. If she's got healthy self-confidence, that's all that matters. These are issues that have gone on long before you knew her.
thanks man, thats a good set of reccomendations.
she's 17, and looking forward to college far away.
and i've already come to terms with the fact that if he ever hits her, he's dead. ive almost killed someone in the ring, i could take one more step.
i guess im just tryin to make sure im doing all i can for this girl, because (im a psychologist at heart) i feel a connection to this girl, damage or not.
Wow, that's more drama than I care to handle.
I don't don't think you should be in a relationship. You're 18! You love her? Maybe now, but that's because you've taken the role of the "protector".
She needs to seek outside help and handle her shit.
You said you were a Christian, Christians aren't supposed to "kill" their girlfriend's abusive father.
This thing is going to get worst before it gets better.