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I've been dating this girl a while, already f-closed enough times ...
Kino escalation during dates
I've been dating this girl a while, already f-closed enough times to be comfortable, but... there's no kino early on anytime we get together.
This was examplified last time we met for a dinner date.
I come to pick her up from her house. She invites me in for a few seconds, grabs her stuff them we leave. Usually in this time period I either go for a peck on the lips to say 'hi' or boringly say hi and smile like an idiot. On this occasion I didn't even touch her, just waited for her to get into the car.
20-30 minute ride, I've nothing to say because I don't feel comfortable and nothing's happening to talk about. I end up saying the same old stuff which is boring! same few in jokes etc. ARH! If I talk about the same shit anymore with this girl I'll go insane.
Anyway, we arrive and I still barely touch her, throughout dinner I don't touch her... I finally take her to a bar and she leans against me and I go for my first kiss of the evening. Now I'm comfortable, everything is well. Too bad it took a few hours.
By the end of the night she's touching me up, I'm jumping on her, It's not rape, it's suprise sex, she's easier to talk to, all is well. Now how do I get to that level instantly and cut all the bullshit beforehand? I could just jump on her as soon as she opens the door but it just wouldn't feel right... and would probably freak her out. I could use 'the same old routines' which for me aren't really old and being as I've never used them they aren't the same but I want to know how you guys in long term relationships start meetings off with a buzz.
Secret handshakes, crazy nicknames (eg...uhhh..."my crazy little nest biddy")...
Anything that gets her touching you. If she has music playing when you arrive at her house, grab her and pretend to do tango, and overexaggerate it as much as possible.
Is this an exclusive LTR or mLTR or a FB or what? How far into the realationship are you?
If she's an exclusive LTR, you don't have to worry about things much. Just be fun and playful, especially since you've already had sex with her multiple times. When she opens the door, give her a big hug. Then increase the space a little bit, look at her, kiss her or hug her again. Tell her she looks fucking hot. Grab her ass a little bit and squeeze her tits. Pinch her nipples a little bit while laughing. Throw her against the wall and start making out with her for a few seconds then ok let's go. She's your girlfriend bro, treat her like it. Enjoy each other. Have fun.
Cheers for the advice, her definition (LTR, mLTR, FB) is hazy as hell, I don't even know myself.
I'll do what both of you said, I'll post back in a few days/weeks to tell you if increased the buildup.
Agree with the above posts.
Also, trust, comfort, kino - EVERYTHING - must start with you. You have to be the leader of everything - not in just the activities you decide for the two of you, but also in how you act and behave with each other.
If you arrive at her house and you think 'It's always awkward until later on', why are you surprised when this is exactly what happens? What do you think it would be like if your thought patterns were more positive?
Arriving at her house and giving her a tentative peck on the lips sounds a little bit weak and AFC to me. Show her that you are pleased to see her! Be a man! She is a girl - so she is naturally the one to let you lead. So let go of the old AFC nice guy thought patterns and be the strong, dominant man she fantasises about.
What would happen if you were to greet her with a big smile, be really dominant like the man that you are and pulled her close and gave her a really deep passionate kiss as soon as you meet?
Let her know that you are pleased to see her - remember - every emotion you want from her begins with you.
You are the leader, you are the man. Never forget it!