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    Girlfriend checking out other guy?

    I was out with my girlfriend (of 9 months) on Saturday night (both in love with each other). We were walking to a club and we walk past a guy, I catch her checking him out hard. Whatever. We go into the club, we're dancing. Next thing I know I see the guy in the club and he is standing behind me. I constantly see my girl checking him out while we're dancing. I know it's natural to look, but to constantly check him out like that? It was pissing me off. Now, I obviously do not have irrefutable proof that she was checking him out constantly there. Maybe she was just looking around. But I am pretty damn sure that was what was happening.

    Now, I don't know if I handled this right, but after a while of it happening I just turned away from her and started walking towards a group of girls there dancing. She comes up behind me and grabs me and pulls me back towards her and starts kissing me. This was probably the wrong move seeing as we're in a long term relationship so we should be able to talk things out. But it does kind of confirm her checking him out. As if she realized she got caught and saw that I was pissed about it and about to go talk to other girls.

    We never talked about it Saturday and we also didn't talk about it Sunday. Is there anyway to bring this up without coming across as petty and insecure? It's bothering me a lot that she did this.



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    Sounds like you handled it perfectly dude.

    Nothing wrong with ur woman having a look, we all do it

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    Girlfriend checking out other guy?

    However you handle it.. I find it works well to avoid accusations and pointing fingers. They tend to tear people apart and destroy connections.

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    If you talk about it and let her know that it bothers you that she looks at other guys, it just show an insecurity in yourself that you think she will either act on her impulses, or that you dont measure up to these guys. I am 100% sure you would have checked out other girls in front of her. Dont have double standards. There is nothing wrong with a bit of a look.

    If she is gauking at someone, and its really giving you the shits make a joke out of it just to show that you have noticed. It must be light hearted, and nothig sinister, otherwise it will show that it really bothers you.

    "Have a good look baby "

    Then just keep dancing or whatever, and move on. She will probably stop looking.

    My ex had a MASSIVE thing for Irish guys. We got stuck on the back of a bus once after the pub, with this irish dude. She was absolutely frothing over his accent, and I just started making light of it, and telling him to get a towell. It was no biggie, everyone ended up having a good laugh.
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    She's bored with you..
    Doesn't mean its over but probably things are getting stale. Hence she quickly turned around once you started to almost flirt with other girls because it was a bit of drama.

    However be very very careful with her from now on.

    Girls with Alpha guys don't check out other women, they are busy keeping check on their man to notice

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    Quote Originally Posted by Portrait View Post
    If you talk about it and let her know that it bothers you that she looks at other guys, it just show an insecurity in yourself that you think she will either act on her impulses, or that you dont measure up to these guys. I am 100% sure you would have checked out other girls in front of her. Dont have double standards. There is nothing wrong with a bit of a look.

    If she is gauking at someone, and its really giving you the shits make a joke out of it just to show that you have noticed. It must be light hearted, and nothig sinister, otherwise it will show that it really bothers you.

    "Have a good look baby "

    Then just keep dancing or whatever, and move on. She will probably stop looking.

    My ex had a MASSIVE thing for Irish guys. We got stuck on the back of a bus once after the pub, with this irish dude. She was absolutely frothing over his accent, and I just started making light of it, and telling him to get a towell. It was no biggie, everyone ended up having a good laugh.
    Thanks for the advice man. I have already said something to her about it and it caused a bit of a fight. I know it was wrong to bring it up, but I felt compelled. And to be honest, the guy she was checking out was better looking than me, which is probably why I got insecure. I'll have to work on this.

    And I do check out other girls in front of her. But don't you think that constantly doing it, or gawking as you said, crosses the line?

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    And what do you guys think about sarflondoner's advice?

    I don't think she's getting bored with me. We're always trying new things in bed, keeping things exciting. Always telling me how much she loves me and how much she appreciates me. She's always the one to initiate contact (I'd say about 8 outta 10 times she initiates contact). Plus she knows how many other chicks wanna fuck me...but it's been a while since she's had a reminder of how many other options I have, maybe it's time she gets another reminder

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    It doesn't matter that she checked him out as long as she did not act on it. The question is if you were not there would her checking guy out stay just that, or will she act on it.

    If the answer is she would not act on it, than you have nothing to worry, people feel spikes of attraction all the time to random people, it is not such a big deal unless you know she might act on it if you not around.
    If you don't know in the first 20 minutes whether or not you are going to have sex with the women you just met, you are not a seductionist. - Svengali

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bogs View Post
    It doesn't matter that she checked him out as long as she did not act on it. The question is if you were not there would her checking guy out stay just that, or will she act on it.

    If the answer is she would not act on it, than you have nothing to worry, people feel spikes of attraction all the time to random people, it is not such a big deal unless you know she might act on it if you not around.

    I know she wouldn't act on it. But don't you think that checking him out excessively crosses a line?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PumpingIron View Post
    And what do you guys think about sarflondoner's advice?

    I don't think she's getting bored with me. We're always trying new things in bed, keeping things exciting. Always telling me how much she loves me and how much she appreciates me. She's always the one to initiate contact (I'd say about 8 outta 10 times she initiates contact). Plus she knows how many other chicks wanna fuck me...but it's been a while since she's had a reminder of how many other options I have, maybe it's time she gets another reminder
    Who cares what she tells you, it's the actions.
    Most girls will check other guys but they won't be blatant about it. You have been together for 9 months for you to notice her change in the way she checks other guys out. It shows disrespect from her.
    I can bet you the sex LATELY hasn't been that great and things have gone a bit stale.
    Now serious question do you want to be with a person that's easily bored or honest to yourself, have you got a bit boring and predictable yourself.
    I could tell you blah blah girls check out guys all the time, but in truth they don't do it blatantly with their BF there unless they are ready to move on.

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