Im going to try and make this as brief as possible. But a quick overview. We met at work, we have the same schedule, but we dont work together, I just see her walking in and leaving.
Please tell me I'm down but not out....
The ex girl pulls me aside about 2 weeks ago and gives the "im not happy, im confused, idk what i want." After 11 mos of dating. She packs up her stuff and Me like an idiot is pleading his heart out telling her not to go. She says she wants space.
2 days go by and I was making her a cheesy love book when I found that she was messaging another guy on FB a week before she dumped me. The chat was for like 2 hrs and ended with "here's my number, lets keep this on the dl."
I give her the book and ask about the guy. She says he's a "friend." This really pisses me off and makes me angry so I pack up all her stuff that she had left at my house and leave it at her front door. She calls, I ignore, she plays the "give me respect" and so I answer. I drive back over to her house and tell her how upset she made me and what else was I supposed to do. Convo goes "Yes im interested in him, im not gonna lie to you about it out of respect."
We have a huge blowout where things that should not have been said get said. I leave and we decide not to talk to each other for awhile.
A week goes by with no communication and of course I'm devastated. So I felt that if I told her how I felt about her and that I do care about saving the relationship then the ball would be in her court. It started with a call then I got sick of just telling her how I felt so I thought I would show her and bring her flowers. She let me in, and invited me to her room to talk. I told her everything that I was feeling and how I don't want anyone else but her.
She basically responded with "IDK, i dont want to hurt the other guy, you've hurt me so much already and I dont think he will hurt me." At this point I'm just hopeless so I tell her all the reasons why I want to be with her and she listens then asks me to tell her a story, I tell her the story of how we first met and she asks me to rub her back. She tells me that she feels like she wants to build a new relationship with him and that he wont hurt her.
At the end I say, I wanted you to know that I care, I kiss her on the forehead and grab my stuff and she says she will walk me to my car.
We get to my car and so I make a joke to lighten the mood, and she hugs me and notices how I've gotten slimmer from working out and how she "misses her honey bear." She asks me what time I will be at the gym tomorrow and that she might go. I hug her back, kiss her on the side of the head and tell her to go and I drive away. At this point I feel relieved because I've gotten everything off of my chest and feel like I can focus on being me now because I've said everything there is.
Morning comes, I see her in the parking lot, she walks with the "guy" every morning and when she leaves. Yes he is from our same workplace and works with her.
I dont say anything I just walk into work. I drive home and I'm really close to her mom and she has expressed that she is worried about me. So i decide to call her, she doesnt pick up. Next my Ex girl calls and asks "did you call my mom?" I said yes and why I called her. Then asked her if she was going to the gym. She says "no, i got somethings to do but I will go either weds or thurs." Her tone of voice is more happy and says that it was nice to say "hi" to me. I say ok Im still gonna go, bye.
So what kind of angles can I play this from? I know she texts this guy, she has openly expressed interest in him and she doesnt want to hurt him. I know, move on, F her and all that. But... I legitimately love this girl and want to be with her, I love her family and friends and I just have a "feeling" about her I can't explain.
Oh, she has even told me that it didnt seem like I cared because of my FB posts, (pics of me going out and getting coffee and stuff) how can I take advantage of the fact that she wonders what I'm doing.
I want this girl back and I feel like im finally out of the desperation phase and ready to get on a gameplan. I know I made some very amateur moves but I dont think all is lost just yet.