I am fairly good at getting girls, having sex, and starting relationships, but I completely suck at breakups. Usually I pull a bitch move like email or text break ups, make up some false story, be blunt and rude, or simply stop talking to them--all in all, I cannot maintain a relationship of any sort after break up cause I'm so terrible at it.
How do you break up with a GF and still be friends??
Let me cliff you on my current situation: I met a girl 2 months ago, it was instant connection, and we immediately started dating. I've never experienced such an emotional/physical/sexual connection with anyone, and it was quite mutual, so we became a couple within a week. I like everything about this girl emotionally and physically, but when logic kicks in, I realize I can't be with her any more. To sum it up, she's a pill-popping party girl alcoholic, with no education, and no aspiration to become anything but a career waitress. I'm doing a double-masters on a full ride scholarship at a top university with grand dreams for my life. Simply put, as rude and condescending as it sounds, this cannot be a long term relationship, so it's best to end it now.
The problem is I'd like to break up with her and still be able to maintain some sort of relationship to accomplish the following selfish goals, in order of importance:
1. She's real fun to hang out with, would like to continue partying with her occasionally.
2. Physical connection is great, so sex is pretty damn good. Would love to continue that as well.
3. She pretty much knows everyone in town. If I break up with her badly, I may have a bad reputation.
Is this doable at all? And if I can't accomplish any of the above goals, can I at least break up with her in a way that won't hurt her feelings and make her hate me? I would appreciate a pretty explicit answer on what to say/how to approach this cause I really am clueless.
Thanks and sorry for the long post.