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Relationship Advice on a Girl Who Still has Issues with Her Ex-Boyfriend
I'm posting now because I have a bit of a relationship issue and don't know exactly how to proceed. I hope you guys can help.
I've been seeing this girl for about 5 months now. It started out very casual as neither one of us were looking for anything serious. Eventually, we started spending more time together, and naturally, we became exclusive. I always knew that she had some ongoing issues with her ex-boyfriend. I actually told myself not to get involved with her seriously until those issues had subsided, however, I figured that maybe her entering into a new relationship with me would help her overcome some of these issues. I am certain that she believed the same.
About a month ago, she got really drunk and ended up sleeping over at her ex's place. She told me nothing happened, and I believe her. Let's just accept that as fact. Regardless, I was upset and we talked it out. Since nothing happened, I was willing to brush it off and move on towards making us work. She promised it would never happen again. Recently, about 3 days ago. She got much too intoxicated again and we ran into her ex at a nightclub. She kept trying to get his attention and blatantly used me in an attempt to make him jealous.
I saw what was going on, and tried to get her to leave. She refused to go and decided to stay. Long story short, I left her there and eventually, her ex drove her back to his place where she spent the night. Again, we talked it over and I am confident that she did not have sex with him, though she did sleep in his bed.
I know it sounds bad, and with any other situation, I would walk away. Don't get me wrong, I have seriously considered leaving. I know that I would be fine and sure, there'd be someone better, but this is where I have my conflict. I know she wants to make things work with me. She's got all these great qualities and she's taken me on trips to San Francisco and booked me an all-expenses-paid vacation to Cancun in a couple of weeks for my birthday. Since our last talk, I told her that we would work through this issue at least until we come back from our trip. After that time, we would decide where we want this relationship to go.
She hates her ex with a passion, but a piece of her is still stuck on him. He treated her poorly, cheating on her, sleeping around with different girls, verbally abusive, etc. He never gave her what she wanted and she tried so hard to make things work with him. I understand where she's coming from - she is in this constant struggle between her emotions and logic. She knows that the guy's a dick and that it would never work, but she can't completely let go.
I'm just curious as to what you guys would do. Any great advice out there? Let me know if you need any additional details. Thanks in advance, guys!