I met up with my ex (#1) today for the first time since we broke up 4 weeks ago(We were together for 2 months). Started off with small talk about current events in our lives & things were going smooth. Eventually we got to talking about us (there is a reason why we did; just bare with me).
How do you regain ex gf's trust? Reason she lost it is not what you think.
A little background on her...Her previous relationship before me lasted 2 years; the guy was verbally and physically abusive. Only reason why they dated for so long was because of his little girl; my ex(#1) and her built a great relationship and wasn't so quick on the trigger to end it because of that. He would say one thing and do another, cheated on her all the time, etc. etc.
A little background on us...during the last two to three weeks of our relationship, she noticed that my ex(#2), before her, was texting me a lot trying to get back with me(nothing going on there). There was also one night where an old friend I play poker with was out with me and my ex (#1) at a bar and he mentioned her (#2's) name, asking where she was (last time i saw him, i was still with #2). Lastly, about two days before we split, #2's best friend posted a picture of me and her(#2) on FB (which is weird in and of itself) and #1 told me that it was extremely awkward.
OK...back to the original story. When we met today, I was spilling my heart about how I felt about her (I know it's not what you're "suppose" to do as it demonstrates neediness blah blah but given the circumstances, an exception was warranted and she needed the reassurance.), and while I was doing that, I could tell by the way she was looking at me (passionate smile, glowing eyes, biting bottom lip) that she wants to be with me. She even told me she's still very physically and emotionally attracted to me, but things were just "weird." So, on the drive home I pinpointed the problem...she lost trust. Because of her past and #2 coming up all the time, she had reasons to doubt me. But the kicker is that IT WASN'T MY FAULT! SO....How can I convince her that she can trust me? She obviously loves hearing me tell her how I feel; it doesn't feel unwelcome or unwarranted from either side; but words are never enough. Actions always speak louder than words so, again, how do I convince her that she can trust me?
P.S. She still initiates texts, asking me how things are going in my life (job interviews, work, etc.), things weren't weird between us at all the entire day today, felt at ease, very calm, cool, collected, and passionate.