It's different when you pay something off for piece of mind vs someone telling you to do it.
The best way to deal with someone vindictive is to take reasons away for them to be pissed off at you. All she'll be able to do is bitch and complain about you, but then their friends and family are going to go "but he paid your bill, move on with your life already".
I cannot really add anything new to this thread except i love the feeling of togetherness and support here...
Besides, you seem to be handling it pretty well which I am genuinely glad for.
about the phone bill, I think she deserves to pay everything but I'd pay for it just go get out of her reach and have some piece of mind.
And I have to say, laughed my ass off with your fireworks comment!!
So many fantastic replies with allot of good advice. Personally. I wouldn't pay it. I would not have contact with her at all. I would reply to her next text with "Leave me alone. Do not contact me again. You are dead to me" and then really move on with your life. Go talk to other women. Do things with your friends. Take up Salsa Dancing . You will be surprised how much you do not care about her when you have a better quality woman/women in your life. If you have a new phone and number. Turn the old one off for good. She has treated you very poorly and her life and her choices are not your responsibility. She sounds toxic and you do not need someone in your life like that. But on saying all this... This is your life. What do you want to do with the bill? It's you who has to live with this. Not us.
Still no word from her. I spoke to her next door neighbor (who has become a friend of mine since I lived there for 2 years) and she mentioned that there's been no "overnight visitors" at her place since the day I caught her.
I've been keeping super busy and appreciate everyone's encouragement and postings. Despite being busy, I still have my moments of sadness but not enough to even THINK about reaching out to her.
I'm going to my cousin's 30th birthday party tonight. She's a nurse so I'm sure a lot of her hot nurse friends will be in attendance. Time to work out the rust in my game and chat them up!
Cheers guys have a great weekend!!
Just read some more into the thread! You're doing great man! Sounds like she did you a hella favor the hell with that crazy bitch and her phone bill. Glad to hear you're doing good man! She's gonna miss the shit out of you! Don't ever look back man. Wont be long before she'll be wanting you back.
Shes a bartender right? let her pay her own damn bills. Honestly the best advice is to be non reactive to this whole thing (which is hard) and remove her from your life completely. The 23 yr old is going to get bored and she will come running back to you. In which hopefully you will not take her back. You are going to grow from this. It is not going to be easy, but you will. Out of sight out of mind my friend.
There's a support group for my ex's. They meet on wednesdays..
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The quickest route to celibacy is through marriage
I think some of us here hate her more than you do at this point hahaha. It's her dumbass fault for opening the lines and pulling this shit. Decision...consequence. Wonder what she's going to try and pull haha just stay strong man. If your ever having a hard time you obviously have support here.