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    Why do girls keep going back with their douche-bag ex bfs?

    I've seen this happen all the time. I know a HB10 that broke up with her bf 6 months ago for cheating on her, and for the last 6 months since they broke up their relationship has been going "on" and "off"! He treats her like shit and he's been laying a lot of girls into bed during this period and has cheated on her like million times before.. and she still runs back to him! They fight and then get back together, then fight again then get back together again... etc. wtf? I heard they haven't been officially back with each other since they first officially broke up but they've been seeing each other "on" and "off" unofficially during the last 6 months. And they had a fight again last weekend so their relationship is off at the moment.. (hope it stays like this forever)..

    I've been gaming this girl and I can feel that she's confused between me and her ex, so I got a lot of IOIs.. she told me she loves gazing into my eyes.. blah blah, she even initiated kino and slapped my ass... etc. so I asked her out and she flaked (genuine excuse, I knew through her mum), asked her out again and she flaked again.. I went no contact with her for two months (she initiated texting about 2-3 times during the 2 months).

    Knocking common sense in her will never work.. since we all know girls don't function by logic but through emotions. So telling her that she deserves better than him and that he treats like dirt.. blah blah is never gonna work. Is there anything I can do to guide her or help through the process of getting over him and moving on and taking right decision? (they went out with each other for 2 years) and she's 19

    She has never mentioned her ex to me, but a mutual friend that is close with both of us told me all these stories about her ex being the biggest dickhead.. etc. Apparently he's not even good on looks, he's short and stuff! don't know what he has going on for him?



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    Why do girls love douches?

    The short answer is of course: Douches aren't boring - they are exciting. They bring emotions, and lots of it, to the table. And even though they probably do not respect their girls, they do respect themselves.

    Do not try to be a douche, but there are lessons to be learnt from the bad guys. Don't be boring, be exciting, respect yourself. Be a little selfish (not in a douche way, but in a not begin a door mat kind of way).

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    Three reasons:
    1) Most likely, the sex. He's probably great in bed. Is she fucking anyone else?
    2) The psychological / emotional factor that she can't believe he's treated her so badly, and so to feel good emotionally she needs to prove to herself that he still cares about her, and she can only test that by getting back with him (even though logic should tell her that that will work out the same way as it did last time).
    3) He's probably the most non-needy guy in her phonebook, and non-needy is very attractive to girls (especially hot girls), it's the only true chick magnet.

    If you want her as bad as you say you do, you need to drop your AFC ways, and dominate her. Why are you not initiating kino and slapping her ass? Why the f*** are you gazing into her eyes? Why are you interpreting every little IOI she gives you instead of just going for it? Sounds to me like you are on your way to the friendzone. To change all that, you will need to be even more dominant and bad-ass than the ex. Or make her jealous by making out and grinding with an even hotter girl, right in front of her.

    By the way I highly doubt she is a genuine HB10, they are extremely rare. Because you are calling her a HB10, it sounds to me like you have her on a pedestal. Once again, as long as you keep on thinking like this, you will never get this girl. I'll bet the ex does not call her a HB10, to him she is just some chick.

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    It's addiction at its core. Addiction comes from the awesomeness we fill followed by the withdraws of not having it. Those douche bags aren't always douche bags to her, or they are really good in bed, or they are possessive, but protective and make her feel safe... All good feelings... Then the girl goes through withdrawals of not having it when he's a douche. Over time they become addicted to it. Unlike when an AFC is just nice after nice after nice... She doesn't become addicted. Sure she likes it for a short time, but then it gets boring. So to counter this, a PUA uses boundaries and take-aways (Credit: Braddock). It creates the same addiction without the doucheness. Give them the feeling of loss and they will chase what they once had. It's nature.


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    Quote Originally Posted by TheCockOfZeus View Post
    History.
    True as well. Girls are more likely to choose the person they've invested more in... From talking and confiding to just time and shared experiences.


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    I would never pass as an AFC!

    Quote Originally Posted by Headman View Post
    Three reasons:
    1) Most likely, the sex. He's probably great in bed. Is she fucking anyone else?
    Form what I've heard through mutual friends is that she isn't having sex with anyone else, I've heard also that she hasn't hooked up with anyone else since they broke up 6 months ago..

    I am not by any means an AFC and I don't put girls on a pedestal.. In fact I treat them like shit and I come across like a dickhead myself! I am ruthless I make fun of everyone.. fat girls, ugly girls, retards!

    The reason I didn't slap her ass is coz I work with her, why would I want to slap her ass inside the shop and risk my job.. plus she has slapped my ass on the second or third time of working with her and I didn't know how receptive she would be to something like that so I never initiated it.. but I did initiate kino overall, like touching her hand, shoulders, gave her a massage before.. etc. I tried dominating her as well I pulled her ponytail before while ordering her to do stuff around the shop (she loved it).. I ran into her once and had a hickey on my neck.. she got jealous and kept calling me slut and skank and said something like she hates hickies (I think she was trying to dis the fact the I have a hickey coz she's jealous). I went no contact after she flaked which got her initiating texting with me.. I ignored her and replied to her texts with one word answers and sometimes replied after 24h.

    I know that I am her type, she's into Middle Eastern/Arabs, I am Egyptian [Christian orthodox] and her ex is Iraqi. I also know she's attracted to my looks coz she has complimented me before on my haircut, dark skin colour, eyes... etc. I have never ever complimented her on anything.. in fact she asked me once what do I want in a girl and I said "the opposite of you" and laughed and walked off..

    Quote Originally Posted by Headman View Post
    By the way I highly doubt she is a genuine HB10, they are extremely rare. Because you are calling her a HB10, it sounds to me like you have her on a pedestal. Once again, as long as you keep on thinking like this, you will never get this girl. I'll bet the ex does not call her a HB10, to him she is just some chick
    She's a brunette, big glamorous green eyes, olive tanned skin colour, perfect body (seems like she lives at the GYM).. she would get approached a minimum of 5-10 times a day. Call it HB9.5 if HB10 will make you upset! I saw AFCs [Customers] asking her out at work inside the shop and she always responds with "Sorry, I am seeing someone" The mutual friend that we have is my little spy, he's friendzoned with her and they talk a lot, he's the one that tells me if it's "on" or "off" with her ex. I noticed she tells guys asking her out that she's seeing someone whether the situation is "on" or "off" with her ex! Also my little spy told me that about 3 month ago he was trying to make her feel better about her ex's situation and told her that there plenty of fish in the sea and she replied back saying that she only wants that fish (her ex).. and she only loves this guy. This was before she met me.. also I think with every cycle of getting back together and breaking up her love for him fades a bit.. so I don't think she'll say something like that now. The only time she mentioned me to my little spy was just after I met her and she told him that she thinks I am cool, I think she knows that me and him are good friends although I said that I don't talk to him much (I lied coz I wanted her to start opening to him about me).. didn't work, damn it!

    It seems like it's a war between me and her ex about who's a more dominant mother fucker than the other!! he's already ahead of me coz she went out with him and slept with him before.. I didn't even hook up with her yet. He's my age and he is a drug dealer, so he's got better car and more money.. But I am academically smarter, I am in my third year uni studying pharmacy, so I should be having a better future/career but again girls doesn't work by logic... so she probably doesn't care about these stuff.

    Last time I worked with her, she was all over me and I rejected her and rejected all her advances.. she initiated kino and I pushed her hand away! broke eye contact, no smile and left without the usual kiss on the cheek and hug saying good bye.. she was pissed off. I can tell

    Is the never ending cycle of her keeping on going back to her ex ever going to break?? how do I break it? It seems I've tried everything.. I can't be fucked with this issue anymore, it's pissing me off.. It looks like I'll end up stabbing him or blowing up his house or something.. lol, just kidding!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mysterious7 View Post

    I am not by any means an AFC and I don't put girls on a pedestal.. In fact I treat them like shit and I come across like a dickhead myself! I am ruthless I make fun of everyone.. fat girls, ugly girls, retards!
    Gentlemen, I think we've found the root cause of his not getting women.



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    Kase, I thought the same thing when I saw that. That's not coming across as a dickhead, that's actually BEING a dickhead.

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