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    Ex is not knowing what she wants

    Broke up last weekend because girlfriend doesn't feel the same way anymore. The next day we slept together. Had a few more fights over the next few days here and there about her not knowing what she wants and her being afraid to get back into a relationship with me because she might not get those feelings back etc.

    Last night we again slept together and did all the normal cute stuff a normal couple would do.

    I'm mainly getting the impression another guy is involved, might be might not be, but I've told her " It's not a revolving door, it's either in or out. Contact me when you know what you want"

    Good idea?

    P.s Any takes on why women say these kinds of things and being so hot and cold, this is one of the areas of game im weakest in.

    Cheers guys.


    Suit up!

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    You just need the time apart from her, even if she wants to come over and be with you sexually, but being able to reject her for guaranteed sex will give you the empowerment to make her an option and can choose whether or not you want to be with her. Right now it's too soon to think clearly, and the faster you're moving on, the better you'll feel. She'll still be confused, but you'll feel more secure once you're out on a couple of dates with different women. Think of it as companionship, not rebounding. If any of them say they won't have sex unless they're in a relationship, just go "I"m just taking it easy right now, no pressures".

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    This is exactly the same situation as me. My gf broke up with me saying she didnt know what she wanted yet she continued to sleep with me and act like we were still together. Every time I brought up talking about our relationship it caused an argument. I went away for two weeks and when I came back saw her slept with her again, but I realised that she was not going to take me back. I had to make the hardest decision ever and tell her we cant be friends anymore and I cant see her anymore because it was hurting me too much. So now I have to move on when I would like nothing more than to be with her. I couldn't figure out how to get her back so I hope you have better luck than me.

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    the girlfriend wants to browse other men because she has lost attraction for you...due to some reason which you have to evaluate.

    she isnt cheating on you or hasnt found a guy yet who will commit..thats why shes still fuking u...but shes keeping the door open and cant be with you in a relationship because she has lost her feelings for u.


    maybe there is another guy in the picture and shes planning to monkey branch..but its too soon..so shes still seeing u.

    pls cut contact because u r gonna end up getting hurt sooner or later.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DarthWayne View Post
    monkey branch
    Is that what it's called? I'm guilty of monkey branching, lol
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/sex/141465-why-you-need-quit-porn-now.html

    Women have two types of toys: teddy bears and vibrators. Teddy bears are for when they are emotional and want to watch romcoms, and vibrators for when they want to get off. What toy are you?

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    how do i react with the no contact rule if she keeps phoning me? she will inevitably get pissed off what do i say when she does? and do i answer once in a while and pretend i dont really care or just blank completely no matter what?

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    I told you in the last thread that being AFC never works. You are being needy and feminine at least in her eyes. Think about it, she's playing aloof, fucking every now and then while you bring up relationship talk all the time and you want something more. You keep getting frusturated cause you think shes playing with you, etc. THIS IS REVERSED ROLES. If you had told the story only mentioning person A and person B without revealing the sexes. Everyone would think Person A was the man (her) and person B was the woman (you) because typically thats how some relationships are and that's why she overpowered you. I'm not trying to insult here, just want you to realize what is actually happening.

    Best thing you can do now is reflect, maybe read some psychology books about women and relationships to give you better insight. Try to learn from your mistakes and work on your sticking points. There are much better girls then this one trust me. You can either keep banging her while picking up other women or if that would hurt you then dump her cause if you keep giving her an ultimatum, she will dump you.

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    My 2 cents.

    Before you do anything, ask yourself how SHE would interpret it considering your current dynamic. Don't answer that question looking through your eyes. Don't think if I phoned her and she didn't answer, I would feel X-emotion. I promise, she will feel Y-emotion at the moment. She thinks she knows you right now, she thinks that she has you at her disposal. She decides your fate. You don't have that same power right now so you have to change that. Make her realize that you're not her little puppy anymore. You have options, you can move on (honestly, she sounds like a bad apple and i think you should but you have to decide that.)

    Move on for now, work on YOU. Have fun. You can try get back with her whenever you like, it doesn't have to be, and shouldn't be, now. you're not in the right frame of mind and I promise if you guys decide to get back together now, you won't have grown at all and she'll probably just end up cheating on you or dumping you.

    You have to go into a relationship (this one or the next) as a man. A man dependent on no one. You don't need her. I know you can't see this right now but I believe it. Now you need to believe it. Prove it to yourself. Then to her. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sly_Wolf View Post
    I told you in the last thread that being AFC never works. You are being needy and feminine at least in her eyes. Think about it, she's playing aloof, fucking every now and then while you bring up relationship talk all the time and you want something more. You keep getting frusturated cause you think shes playing with you, etc. THIS IS REVERSED ROLES. If you had told the story only mentioning person A and person B without revealing the sexes. Everyone would think Person A was the man (her) and person B was the woman (you) because typically thats how some relationships are and that's why she overpowered you. I'm not trying to insult here, just want you to realize what is actually happening.

    Best thing you can do now is reflect, maybe read some psychology books about women and relationships to give you better insight. Try to learn from your mistakes and work on your sticking points. There are much better girls then this one trust me. You can either keep banging her while picking up other women or if that would hurt you then dump her cause if you keep giving her an ultimatum, she will dump you.
    have you noticed how some girls will deliberately try to reverse roles by withdrawing attention or crossing boundaries or testing the man?

    i end it right there if she is unwilling to change her behaviour..because i know its only gonna end badly..and it does without a doubt.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DarthWayne View Post
    have you noticed how some girls will deliberately try to reverse roles by withdrawing attention or crossing boundaries or testing the man?

    i end it right there if she is unwilling to change her behaviour..because i know its only gonna end badly..and it does without a doubt.
    yea, I think most of the time they do it just to test you, whether it's continuously or subconsciously doesn't really matter. In a way I don't blame them. They have met guys in the past who appeared alpha and then turned out to be an AFC who put the girl on a pedestal. All you can do is pass their tests, stay congruent, set up boundaries and if she messes up too much, then either next her or just bang her and nothing else. Whatever fits your style.

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