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    Your comments about spending "every second with her until i die" and the whole thing about worship are big red flags. She knows she has you in the palm of her hand so why not flirt and live a little? At 21 she probably isn't as ready as you believe to make a life long commitment to anything. You demanded that she quit contacting him yet she did anyway. Got news for ya, demanding that your girl stop contacting other guys, especially guys she's hiding from you will have the exact opposite effect....she'll want to seek them out even more IMO. Life is too short and there are too many girls out there to be playing spy by checking her phone and earning trust in that manner. My guess is they slept together and he was a romantic fling that is far more exciting then your one year old relationship defined by clingyness. Just my opinion however...



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    Quote Originally Posted by BnG View Post
    Ok man, here's the one secret to stopping this. Trust me, it works and you can be happy again. It's honestly the best routine you can do in a situation like this.

    Ok..so you have to make sure you're standing or this wont work, ideally she should be sitting.

    Look her in the eyes and watch where her hands go (to detect lying)

    Now slowly tell her this. "I'm sorry, but I can't play this game anymore". NOW as you say this do about a one hundred and eighty degree turn, put your left foot in front of your other, and push off with your right.

    AND FUCKING RUN LIKE THE WIND.
    LOL... Good advice. Be glad you're not married.

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    @OP, this isn't about anything other than the fact you're dating a dishonest person. That's all you need to know. There is no reason to 'give her another chance' because things will not change. If this guy gets pushed aside, a few months later another will take his place. I'm sorry you so poorly picked a girl to worship, because she doesn't deserve it from you.

    Unless you're cool with dating a liar for the rest of your life and having her seeing/sleeping with other men behind your back forever...you need to jet. There are exactly two options here.

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    You should dump her. She should dump you. You should dump her because she was into another guy and lying. She should dump you because you are invading her privacy. Neither of you is going to dump the other, because crazy attracts crazy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BnG View Post
    Ok..so you have to make sure you're standing or this wont work, ideally she should be sitting.

    Look her in the eyes and watch where her hands go (to detect lying)

    Now slowly tell her this. "I'm sorry, but I can't play this game anymore". NOW as you say this do about a one hundred and eighty degree turn, put your left foot in front of your other, and push off with your right.

    AND FUCKING RUN LIKE THE WIND.
    Love this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Modern View Post
    You should dump her. She should dump you. You should dump her because she was into another guy and lying. She should dump you because you are invading her privacy. Neither of you is going to dump the other, because crazy attracts crazy.
    haha

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    Quote Originally Posted by sam_3h
    Do you think I should be giving her one last chance?
    Not if you have any self-respect. If she has a hot friend, you could take one last look at that Blackberry to get the number, but otherwise you need to be out of there right now. Get your shit together, leave her to the new guy, no doubt she'll be lying to him soon enough.

    Best way to leave her is very alpha, don't say too much, strong and silent, think about Clint Eastwood or something. If she asks why, just look down at the silly little girl until she admits that she knows why you are leaving.

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    Sounds very similar to my previous situation. My relationship was going OK, but not great. She gave me plenty of reasons to distrust her in the past, so my "radar" was on and I caught on to her being flirty with a guy just like you.

    Also similar to your situation, we had a long and painful conversation, and at the end of it she sent a text to the guy telling him she's not interested.

    However, it didn't sit well with me that 1) I had to force her to do it and 2) she was in general still being evasive. Everything in my gut told me that if I stayed with her all I would get would be more lies and more headache. So, I broke up with her a day after.

    It's been 6 months, and I haven't texted her once, I blocked her on facebook, and I haven't seen / heard from / or spoken to her since. And guess what? I feel great. It took a bit but I got my mojo back, my career took off right after the breakup and I'm making good money, I took up MMA/kickboxing finally, I've been hitting the gym like a beast, and I've been having much better luck with women.

    Grow some balls. Dump her and the heartache and get on with your life.

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    Do you have any self respect at all? You have to end it right away. As TheRogue said, she doesn't respect you at all...

    I can't believe that we have to tell you this, would a confident guy with lots of options put up with this?

    And I'm even more surprised that she's not dumping you, who wants to be with a guy that asks her every morning if she texted another guy?

    How did you plan on continuing your life with her by having to spy on her every day?

    Sent from my HTC Desire using Tapatalk

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    She's just going to get you worked up if you stay with her. Like you said, she grew distant and wasn't being upfront with you. She lied multiple times, and that's not a great way to build a relationship.

    You've seen for yourself that she was thinking about other guys since she's been with you. Even if you agree to work things out with her, over time she's going to get bored and start looking around.

    By leaving her, all you're doing is giving a blow to her ego that you rejected her, and she prob. cares more about that than what she did to you.

    If you were her life, she'd give everything up to be with you. I'm sure she cares about you, but at the same time she's not ready to be in a serious relationship.

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