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    ^^ That's never bad advice.

    Otherwise women will sometimes 'throw darts'. Read: Do little dumb shit to get you pissed off.....this is her brain's subconscious way of building emotional connection with you. She knows (subconsciously mind you) that if she can get you into an argument with her then you'll both get subjective (deep into your emotions) and come out of it with a greater emotional connection. Of course men don't really work that way, normally we'll do as you did and desire freedom. So if its not dealt with the darts get bigger and bigger.

    If you can develop a greater emotional connection with her (so that she 'feels felt' by you) then these darts will stop...for a time She'll also be more feminine (lubby dubby) with you, which is what you want. Actively listening and effectively communicating are what you need to do to stop this.

    Note: she has no idea she is doing this for the aforementioned reason, but that's why. Women must feel understood.

    PS: some women are just crazy, don't confuse throwing darts with being emotionally abusive and destructive. Most of you guys will though



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    Quote Originally Posted by D3tail View Post
    She knows that if she can get you into an argument with her then you'll both get subjective (deep into your emotions) and come out of it with a greater emotional connection.
    Is this true, or is it just what she believes? If I start arguments with girls who already somewhat like me, will it make them feel closer to me afterward?

    If you can develop a greater emotional connection with her (so that she 'feels felt' by you) then these darts will stop...for a time She'll also be more feminine (lubby dubby) with you, which is what you want.
    "develop a greater emotional connection" as in build comfort? or do you have specific things you do to do this?

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    In an LTR, sure. If you're talking about someone you're with for a few years, definitely good advice. Girls like this haven't really experienced "relationships" though. They're more like peer approved boyfriends and usually spend so much time together that one day out of the blue they can lose interest and start flirting with other guys, just like that. Nothing annoys boyfriends more than her constantly having her friends around. Eventually people get in serious relationships, and the circle of friends winds up being affected. Some girls want to stay single as long as possible, but some are craving for a solid relationship.

    Girls can get bored fast and ready to move on after a few months... or their entire world becomes about their boyfriend, and when it falls apart, she turns that love to hate.

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    It can get tricky after being with someone for a long time. Some couples feel that after a curtain amount of time it’s ok to put the relationship on autopilot. This is the biggest reason why couples start having problems. I strongly encourage you to introduce some excitement into your relationship. Traveling usually is the best thing for bringing life back in to a relationships. Think about fun activities that will make traveling more interesting. If you never went snow boarding for instance, then it might be a perfect opportunity for you both to learn something new. There is nothing more fun and bond developing than learning new things together. You can also try any other sport that you both might like, but it must be exciting, nothing boring like jogging or anything like that. When you engage in a activity, be supportive towards each other. And always remember, there’s nothing wrong with smiling and having fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by a11111 View Post
    Is this true, or is it just what she believes? If I start arguments with girls who already somewhat like me, will it make them feel closer to me afterward?



    "develop a greater emotional connection" as in build comfort? or do you have specific things you do to do this?
    Develop an emotional connection= her feeling understood. She has to feel like you 'get her'.

    And no, lol, don't start fights...remember this is all subconscious, and she'll throw those darts only if there isn't enough of a connection...that's symptomatic of the deeper issue...which is that she doesn't feel understood.....you have to refresh things like that weekly or so. Comfort is a part of it yes. Maybe all of it depending upon how you define the term.

    Remember women cope with stress by becoming subjective with it...talking it out, crying, etc... Men need to get past all of that to a place of objectivity...if I do A then I can deal with this, etc...

    Its also true that when a woman shares an emotional experience with even a complete stranger then they are far more likely to find him attractive afterwards...there was a British study with a blind date meeting up on a bridge that swayed in the wind or sth.

    But no, don't start fights. And yes, it may make them feel closer to you afterward.

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