Long Distance Relationship : How to keep the attraction?

Hello Guys,
I need some advice on how to keep the attraction in my relation. First of all, let me explain a bit my situation, I met my gf at my work place( when we met she was with someone else) and even if we didnt see each other for 9 months, on our first meeting, we got completely mad of each other, talking all the time and we started dating, she lives in another country, we usually meet 1 time per month and talk everyday at work and on skype. But since some past weeks, she is telling me she is suffocating in our relationship and she finds me way too serious with her,i talk too much about my feelings and she feel a bit trapped, she wants to breathe a bit... she is also telling me what we only talk about serious things and dont talk about futile things anymore. Its a true statement if I analyse my relation. She changed a bit compared to some months ago, i feel she wants to be more free in some way. Can you tell me how to keep the attraction, what should i do for her to still want to be with me? She says she needs to fight for me... I really need your advices if you are in the same situation as me and a more general question how to make a distance relationship work, the DOs but also the NOT TO DOs.

Thanks very much

S

Originally Posted by sitingbull

Hello Guys,
I need some advice on how to keep the attraction in my relation. First of all, let me explain a bit my situation, I met my gf at my work place( when we met she was with someone else) and even if we didnt see each other for 9 months, on our first meeting, we got completely mad of each other, talking all the time and we started dating, she lives in another country, we usually meet 1 time per month and talk everyday at work and on skype. But since some past weeks, she is telling me she is suffocating in our relationship and she finds me way too serious with her,i talk too much about my feelings and she feel a bit trapped, she wants to breathe a bit... she is also telling me what we only talk about serious things and dont talk about futile things anymore. Its a true statement if I analyse my relation. She changed a bit compared to some months ago, i feel she wants to be more free in some way. Can you tell me how to keep the attraction, what should i do for her to still want to be with me? She says she needs to fight for me... I really need your advices if you are in the same situation as me and a more general question how to make a distance relationship work, the DOs but also the NOT TO DOs.

Thanks very much

S

there are not rules...u make the rules with her.

try to talk daily for 2-3 days...then take a break for the rest of the week.

too much communication can get boring...the lack of it ...keeps both of u in each others mind.

Yeah, tone back both the frequency and the depth of the conversations. I get that you're looking for a soulmate and thrilled with your gf, and she likely feels the same about you, but not every conversation needs to change the world. You've set a pace that's impossible to maintain. Its very common in LDRs.