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    girlfriend signs up for dating site, wtf?

    So I went on my computer and my girlfriend had left her gmail open and I see that she signed up for a paid subscription to a dating site and had initiated communication with several guys a week ago. I closed it quickly because I didn't want to snoop and because I was shocked. I casually bring the topic up later since I knew she had been on another site before we met and she said she had closed all her subscriptions.

    We've been together 4 months and things are seemingly going well, shes acting normal not weird or distant as if she were going to leave me.

    I ask my sister who is 24 and dated many guys and she says shes probably just seeking validation or she might be getting bored. But my gf did lie and my sister says to figure out what shes wants from the relationship before making any decisions. And she said just to wait and see what happens

    I don't really care if she doesn't try to date any of the guys but I was just shocked that she'd go through the effort of actually signing up for a site and paying $100 for it when she seems happy with me now. She lives an hour away so I'd have no way of knowing if she really does meet up with one of these guys.

    worrying too much? drop it? dump her? wait it out?



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    I'll lay it out right here, of course she is looking for other guys, I know single people who won't shell the money for a dating site.....

    She is not your GF, she is a fuck buddy, you need to start backing off and making her chase more.

    Also, do not get advice from girls, it's purely emotion based and is very unhelpful, even if it is your sister....Every girls advice is the type of crap that gets you into LJBF zone and comes off very AFC
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    Dude,

    From what i read the fact's are this.

    1.The girl you call your girlfriend is on a dating site.So your friend's,her's etc can see this.Which isn't bad.Except you saying she's your girlfriend.

    2.You actually asked her about this and she lied.I don't like liar's.Men or women.So for me i would bail.Sure we all want validation.Dude your giving her that validation and when someone who she think's is better come's along,your toast.

    She is paying money to get that "validation" don't forget.

    Peace.

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    lol this is the kind of situation where I would've followed through and snooped. If you had a reason to dump her, you would've found it right there.
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    It's not working for whatever reason and she's looking elsewhere. She's going to drop you hard when she finds what she's looking for. She has already made up her mind since she shelled out the big bucks and it's obviously something she thinks is big, a deal breaker, and/or can't be fixed. Until then she's too chicken shit to be straight with you or to dump you until she finds something better.

    Leaving her personal information open on your computer with the incriminating evidence out in the open is her passive aggressive way of saying, "Wake up dummy you're not giving me what I want/need, please break up with me because I can't bring myself to do it."

    Either that or she's really that dumb. I doubt it, women are so much better at creeping then men are.

    I'd bring it up once more being specific and see what happens. Just keep in mind this is likely to be a breakup conversation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Precious View Post
    Also, do not get advice from girls, it's purely emotion based and is very unhelpful, even if it is your sister....Every girls advice is the type of crap that gets you into LJBF zone and comes off very AFC
    God You got that right! Last week my sister and I were discussing her douche bag boyfriends of the past, and the swamp thing she's dating now. She says the best way to get girls is like her ex's: by buying girls drinks. Even suggesting dropping up to 100 dollars at every bar, on drinks.
    She also tried to say girls don't like magic I've got pictures of girls I've showed magic to, that would make a french whore blush.

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    Be straight up with her, don't get emotional no matter what just ask. And if you don't like what you hear be prepared to unleash the most powerful word in the English language, "No." As in, no more. This shit is unacceptable, its like she's laughing at you man. You have to be better than that.

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    good advice in the thread

    dont brush this under the carpet. bring it straight up to her and be ready to dump her on the spot if you dont like what you hear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by giantpanda View Post
    So I went on my computer and my girlfriend had left her gmail open and I see that she signed up for a paid subscription to a dating site and had initiated communication with several guys a week ago.
    Next her and move on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DeadEyeDick View Post
    Next her and move on.
    Yeah.

    Sorry this happened, but there are free dating/netowrking sites out there if she wanted the validation of male attention. There are also bars. Paid sites = Looking for real options.

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