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    From PUA to boyfriend

    I've just entered a LTR that I WANT and I want to keep it. However My gaming was getting VERY good just as we got together and I have always had a very hard time saying no to sex. During the first week of dating this girl I slept with two other women (one ex and one fb) and she knows about this. She has abandonment issues from her childhood as well.

    So now I want an exclusive relationship with her, and she does as well, but she has trouble trusting me. Besides just giving it time and not sleeping around again (I actually prefer to do that than to lie to this one), any suggestions you guys can give me?


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    no offense, but are you looking for a recipe for not cheating?

    Personally i think its an attitude and a belief.
    I dont know if it will be possible to supress feelings (aka sleeping with other women), if they are sincere (the feelings to fck many women).
    You´re just pulling them under a rug and one day they´ll come up again.

    This is imo different to a guy who doesnt want to cheat, but does end up cheating (cuz we all do mistakes\ are no robots). But his attitude makes it easier for him to not end up cheating.


    I want to fck many girls i walk by on the street, too - no doubt. up to now the feeling for my girlfriend was stronger. I hope it will stay this way.


    - so yeah, i think if you want it, it will automatically work! Helpful is ofc to not stay overnight at other girls place and all that kinda stuff.
    But i think you know that anyways. Having long talks with ex gf is prolly also not helpful...

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    Question?

    How does she know about you sleeping with other girls. That's not "honesty", that's BULLSHIT.

    Solution?

    DO NOT CHEAT. You can't have an EXCLUSIVE LTR and hookup with other females. Doesn't mean you have to stop gaming, you should never stop gaming, that's LIFE.
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    Precious...your response was useless..... but thank you Perikles.... The problem is I seem to attract women now without even trying and i have ALWAYS accepted any offer for sex before and so its hard to get out of that habit....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Precious View Post
    Question?

    How does she know about you sleeping with other girls. That's not "honesty", that's BULLSHIT.

    Solution?

    DO NOT CHEAT. You can't have an EXCLUSIVE LTR and hookup with other females. Doesn't mean you have to stop gaming, you should never stop gaming, that's LIFE.
    Truth.

    Getting married... My game has shiffted to continuing to build my social circle and devolp business relationships. The Game never ends until your dead. I am not a cheater.... I have had open relationships with a few FBs at a time, but when Im exclusive, I dont cheat. The morals in me I guess.

    A girl with abondonment issues can only take so much. Do her a favor and dont cheat on her.
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    Yeah i get it...dont cheat... but any way to help me do that? anyone else experience this problem?
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    Ah, there actually is a question in there.....

    And you insinuated not cheating....wow.....

    Well response aside (though you need to be aware of your error in suggesting the Game applies purely to picking up new women, which is very elementary...) I shall try and help

    How to break the habit: Try and adopt an abundance mentality.....you say you were getting "VERY good", well then have some standards first off.

    The highest of those standards is to devote your time to this one girl, and to feel good about it in not just being true to her, but to your own standards.

    Focus on doing lots of things that aren't sex. Learn who she is. This will deepen the bond.

    Do little things that show you care, let her know you think of her and she's important.

    Maybe even, at first until more trust develops, let her know what you're up to and spend good amounts of time with her. Do these things as YOUR choice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tomthemachine View Post
    Yeah i get it...dont cheat... but any way to help me do that? anyone else experience this problem?
    How the hell is it hard not to cheat? DONT GO LOOKING FOR PUSSY. That simple. And if you cant do that, then leave her be, move on.
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    I call shenanigans!

    Quote Originally Posted by tomthemachine View Post
    I've just entered a LTR that I WANT and I want to keep it.
    now I want an exclusive relationship with her...
    No you don't!

    If you did, you wouldn't worry about sleeping around. It wouldn't even be on your mind.


    Also this:
    She has abandonment issues from her childhood as well.
    RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!

    You don't want broken girls. If she has issues, you don't want her. Don't kid yourself, this *WILL* turn out ugly at some point in your relationship.
    The ghost of pua's past.

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    Wow that was a really weird progression of posts... out of all the ones since my last look it was Precious that came around with the goods... thanks mate!
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