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    dilemma need advice

    ok guyz, i have 2 gurlz that think they are my girlfriends, but i just like fucking them...lol. i have noticed that women tend to do or say stuff that are inappropriate. (for example, wear really short skirts and go to house parties.) i have noticed that it is done to get u mad/jealous.
    i really dont care wat they do, but i do not want them to think that i do not care about them.... i just want 2 know that when situations like this happen should i set my foot down and tell them no or just tell them to do whatever they want?
    when they want go out with their slutty friends...should i give a fuck or not give a fuck? say ok or say ur not going anywhere?


    "things will come for those who wait, but only those things that left be those who hustle."

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    women use:
    jelousy-to keep the power in relationship
    drama-to keep the realtionship
    games-to see if man is up to the challange
    look, once u know this, u take their little mind fucks for what they are, like moskito bites, annoying but no biggie.
    but if it bothers you to much (short minis, etc) just be straight up abot it, tell 'em. like, badboy says, you cand do it 3 times. 1st, last, and never again. but make sure u follow through, and they'll come back begging for forgivness most of the time. and if not, oh well, more reason to sarge!!!
    Luck=opportunity+preparation

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    A girl needs to be able to have some power. No relationship will work unless she has SOME power over SOMETHING in the relationship.
    If you don't give her something, she'll pick the most powerful thing...sex.
    I like to let girls fight over whether we watch Resident Evil or Underworld for a movie. Or over whether I wear one black shirt or the other black shirt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smilez
    ok guyz, i have 2 gurlz that think they are my girlfriends, but
    i just like fucking them...lol
    To us your saying that you just want them as FB but as you read on, you dont write anything about what your feeling for them. Are they trash or just friends that you care about?? Do you take them out on dates on a regular occasion or is it just emotionless sex??
    Quote Originally Posted by smilez
    i have noticed that women tend to do or say stuff that are inappropriate (for example, wear really short skirts and go to house parties).
    Define what deems inappropriate to you. What you said they all do and unless your amish or from the amozon where the fuck have been.
    Quote Originally Posted by smilez
    i have noticed that it is done to get u mad/jealous. I really dont care wat they do, but i do not want them to think that i do not care about them.... i just want 2 know that when situations like this happen should i set my foot down and tell them no or just tell them to do whatever they want?
    Dude you cant have it both ways, you ether care or dont! You want them as MLTR or not. You like fucking them so thats basically thats it, thats what they are there for sex!
    Quote Originally Posted by smilez
    when they want go out with their slutty friends...should i give a fuck or not give a fuck? say ok or say ur not going anywhere?
    Your asking for advice to control the relationship you have with them. Why?? You get sex be happy if thats all you want. What your asking doesnt feel to me like its the whole question you want to ask. You havnt said your views and what you would like to happen. You've mentioned what you like about them thats all. For a detailed answer there needs to be a detailed question.
    peace

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    I like that you are asking what we think YOU should feel. It brings out one very important detail about your frame of mind. You lack conviction. That's okay, it just means you're still working out your principles.
    You obviously have feelings for these girls. You're trying to maintain that you don't because you think you shouldn't. You also have feelings about what their behavior means. All of these feelings are based on your perceptions: how you see the world and the way it ought to be.
    But what are your perceptions based upon? Where are those feelings rooted? I suspect that your new lifestyle is calling a few of your beliefs into question. When you question your beliefs, you end up on shaky ground for a while. That's okay too. Think of it as a revolution of the spirit. Every now and then a man has to examine the way he lives his life and whether the yardstick he measures it by is the right one. You've got to be honest with yourself about what you feel, first and foremost. It's ok if your feelings don't make sense in your logical views. Then you have to decide how you are going to act on those feelings.
    I offer a few tidbits.
    • Women dress to impress each other, not you. If they dress slutty, it's to get attention, sure. But would they dress like that if there were no women around to see them? Not likely. So take the miniskirts as a compliment. You're seeing some sexy girls.
    • If these women both think they are your girlfriend, and you are acting otherwise, then their behavior is justified. It's unfair for you to expect them not to use jealousy against you when you put them in a position to do so. Don't be a hypocrit.
    • You go out to parties to meet girls. Girls go out to parties to be social. Don't let your insecurities get the best of you.

    If you want to be unconstrained, don't expect a positive reaction to putting constraints on them. Be honest to yourself and them about your intentions and feelings. Odds are, you can continue your MLTRs and still keep them from seeing other guys. How? By doing nothing. Be high value. Women are naturally inclined to be monogamous. So don't stress it. But if you try to prevent them from seeing other guys, they'll resist and you'll push them into another man's arms.
    I suggest you get yourself sorted out before dealing with them. Figure out what it is you want. Discover if what you want is possible, given your beliefs. Get yourself congruent with your principles. Then act accordingly. It may not be instinctual at first, so expect conflicting emotions. Just make sure you act in allignment with your principles, eventually your reactions will become reflexive.
    Love,
    Rain

    "In matters of the heart, it's the heart that matters."

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    Quote Originally Posted by open_view
    To us your saying that you just want them as FB but as you read on, you dont write anything about what your feeling for them. Are they trash or just friends that you care about?? Do you take them out on dates on a regular occasion or is it just emotionless sex??
    Define what deems inappropriate to you. What you said they all do and unless your amish or from the amozon where the fuck have been.
    Dude you cant have it both ways, you ether care or dont! You want them as MLTR or not. You like fucking them so thats basically thats it, thats what they are there for sex!
    Your asking for advice to control the relationship you have with them. Why?? You get sex be happy if thats all you want. What your asking doesnt feel to me like its the whole question you want to ask. You havnt said your views and what you would like to happen. You've mentioned what you like about them thats all. For a detailed answer there needs to be a detailed question.
    peace
    first of all, i do not type alot because i am not good at typing. secondly, im on my laptop so sometimes i get signals and sometimes i dont. finally, i see these gurls as practice, i really do not give a fuck about them. they are not the kind of chicks that u represent 2 ur parents, but i am just asking for advice because i know that 1 day i will find the right girl and i wouldnt like to fuck it up or get stuck in the same position that i was before. i hope that u understand me now and if u still dont, then i do not know what 2 say.
    im just asking for advice and some help because that was the same question that i always asked myself. now, r you willing 2 help me find the answers 2 my questions because i have problems with maintaining relationships and i am just asking for help. well thats what we all r hear for, aren't we? to help and be helped with woman. we are like a big family, just backing each other up.
    much luv,
    smilez
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    My apologies if I came across in a negative way

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    Quote Originally Posted by open_view
    To us your saying that you just want them as FB but as you read on, you dont write anything about what your feeling for them. Are they trash or just friends that you care about?? Do you take them out on dates on a regular occasion or is it just emotionless sex??
    Define what deems inappropriate to you. What you said they all do and unless your amish or from the amozon where the fuck have been.
    Dude you cant have it both ways, you ether care or dont! You want them as MLTR or not. You like fucking them so thats basically thats it, thats what they are there for sex!
    Your asking for advice to control the relationship you have with them. Why?? You get sex be happy if thats all you want. What your asking doesnt feel to me like its the whole question you want to ask. You havnt said your views and what you would like to happen. You've mentioned what you like about them thats all. For a detailed answer there needs to be a detailed question.
    peace
    well from what i read i under the man i think u have no idea what he is saying cuz u cant read right what smilez i believe is asking u is for edvice on how 2 go about being with 2 girls that think they "wiffy material" and if he should act like their man and care about what they do even though he really doesnt care what they do or if he should just let them be and act aroudn them like if their a bootty and not stress himself... so all u really need 2 do is give the man an edvice on what can h do in the situation that he is in this curten moment.
    no hard feeling might have mist understud the ghetto ny termanology
    much luv pimp hoes !suzpect!
    Last edited by Suzpect; 05-18-2006 at 09:55 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Suzpect
    well from what i read i under the man i think u have no idea what he is saying cuz u cant read right what smilez i believe is asking u is for edvice on how 2 go about being with 2 girls that think they "wiffy material" and if he should act like their man and care about what they do even though he really doesnt care what they do or if he should just let them be and act aroudn them like if their a bootty and not stress himself... so all u really need 2 do is give the man an edvice on what can h do in the situation that he is in this curten moment.
    no hard feeling might have mist understud the ghetto ny termanology
    much luv pimp hoes !suzpect!
    What?
    You're criticizing his ability to read a post, yet you post something like this? Your reply makes little to no sense. Ghetto terminology or not, it is incomprehensible. Try exercising your right to use punctuation and grammar in your replies. Maybe follow some sort of syntax format like a sentence or paragraph. No one will take you seriously if you post nonsense, especially when it is purely to antagonize a disagreement.
    Love,
    Rain

    "In matters of the heart, it's the heart that matters."

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    making pplz happy

    Quote Originally Posted by Rain
    What?
    You're criticizing his ability to read a post, yet you post something like this? Your reply makes little to no sense. Ghetto terminology or not, it is incomprehensible. Try exercising your right to use punctuation and grammar in your replies. Maybe follow some sort of syntax format like a sentence or paragraph. No one will take you seriously if you post nonsense, especially when it is purely to antagonize a disagreement.
    here is the editted version asked by request...
    well from what i've read, i understand the man, i believe u misunderstud what he was trying 2 get across. What smilez is asking u is for advice on how 2 go about being with 2 girls that think there "wiffy material", and if he should act like their man and care about what they do(even though he really doesnt care what they do), or if he should just let them be and act around them like if their a booty call and not stress himself... so all u really need 2 do is give the man an advice on what can he do in the situation that he is in this current moment.
    no hard feelings, might have misunderstud the ghetto ny termanology.
    much luv, pimp hoes, !suzpect!
    PS. to someone, thankz for the adivce and also the whole purpose of beening on this site is not 2 try to "play or snap" on each other but to help each other out, because we all here for the same reason. if one of us can understand the other individual better and better articulate their though we should help that person and not bring them down

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