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    Its difficult to say. You don't want to get into the position where you are overthinking every move you make, that's a sure path to failure. A general rule is to wait at least as long as the girl takes to text back, or perhaps slightly longer. But don't be predictable, send some right away, then some a few hours later. I.E. just like you generally would anyway if you're a busy guy. Sometimes you happen to have your phone, others you don't have the time, etc...

    Just be as busy as her. If she is making the effort then you are free to match it, and you should or else she will feel scorned.

    Yours is a difficult situation as I re-read through this post. Its hard for us to know exactly where the two of you were or how close you had become in your six weeks together.

    Best we can give is blanket advice. And that's all mine is. You know where you lost attraction, that's the real lesson to learn here. So how do you time travel back to before that moment? Eh...that's hard. By now acting differently you really risk coming off as incongruent. Meaning if you change the way you act now as opposed to how you were before it will seem to her like you are two different people. That won't mesh well with her and she'll be very offput. That's why the advice is to leave her be for a few weeks or months then start over, if you still want her.

    I know, you just want to sleep with her to recitfy your situation and regain your 'lost alpha status' or really just to know that you can if you want to. Its just hard to reapproach a situation that you were in so deep for a decent amount of time.

    To answer your question though, text her whenever you want to. Don't let her dictate your movements. Frankly if you have to try so hard and act differently than you would otherwise like to get her....do you really want her? Really?

    And even if you do the actual best way to get her back is to move on with your life. Show her that you are a dynamic person with a great life, in fact better than hers. Then she will want to be a part of that.



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    thanks..didn't say anything yet,,then she texts she didn't see me but saw my 2010 mercedes s-class in the parking lot..wtf..i know she saw me..













    i made up that part of the benz,,but the rest is true.lol

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    She's trying to avoid the situation so that it will recitfy itself. She doesn't want to hurt you. This shows that she feels she is in complete control of the situation. Read: cares less/less outcome dependant. That is the position you would like to be in so you need to flip that around. Reframe. Note that this is just to get her. If you actually do move into a relationship then there really shouldn't be a dynamic like 'power' or 'control' just a free moving two way street. Its tough to balance that and sometimes impossible to work out, but its just so damn much better when you don't have to constantly worry about things like that. Even if they come easily to you, its better when you just trust someone.

    Good Luck though. I hope this works out for you.

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    thanks for the help guys

    but rumor has it shes with another dude..like everyone said, she would just move on real quick to a guy that would pound her. and it looks like a punk dude.. lol just the opposite of me whos a clean cut fed officer.

    owell keep on sargin

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    Yeah but again, its a valuable lesson learned. Will really improve your game down the stretch.

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    its kinda funny..i had a gf for a few months that ended in october..my first real GF..normally if a girl proposes a relationship i run..but i gave it a shot cuz im getting older.once that one ended i had oneitis 10x's this one.for 2.5 months i was obsessed with her.

    now that girl finds out im single again and gives me a call..but im not interested anymore.lol. when i was dying for her to come back before i met the recent x.

    now i know why i just gamed them when i was younger.

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    Yeah, its a drag gettin old, lol. Honestly though, its pretty necessary for me to date younger girls now as most my age are taken or bat shit. Sad truth of life. Or they want to get married right away and have kids tomorrow. I'm fine with marriage and kids, but the time frame bothers me.

    And that is how it usually seems to happen when you have oneitis. Hence the advice to cut it off for a few months then revisit it. Usually you don't want them back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gh15 View Post
    i didnt notice her not noticing me because i was too busy ingnoring her to see if she was or wasnt ignoring me...better? ok.. i only know that i didnt pay attention to her..so i didnt even see what she did.
    One step forward, two steps back. Its part of life man. You need to show restrain. Movies as well as TV has fucked up with men every where. You got 4yrs on me and I wont pretend to tell you that i figured it all out but, I assure you, unlike the movies and TV with these elaborate schemes to win a girl back doesn't work in real life. Your best bet is to challenge yourself and her with distance. Escape your exceedingly high interest level and focus on her. You begin the relationship as a bad ass player. Leader of men, pick up women kinda guy. Times passes and now your the guy all about his emotions and feelings. Your not all about other women. You've put down the sword. You've stopped looking else where. Now, she is looking else where. If a girl, a woman has high interest level in you, you are set. If you combine that by challenging her, you further strengthen the relationship. My best advise, lose her name & number. meet other women. remove her from msn, email, fb. post tons of pics with you and other girls. Have her come to you. Other wise, it is all over!

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    Quote Originally Posted by gh15 View Post
    its kinda funny..i had a gf for a few months that ended in october..my first real GF..normally if a girl proposes a relationship i run..but i gave it a shot cuz im getting older.once that one ended i had oneitis 10x's this one.for 2.5 months i was obsessed with her.

    now that girl finds out im single again and gives me a call..but im not interested anymore.lol. when i was dying for her to come back before i met the recent x.

    now i know why i just gamed them when i was younger.
    Relationships are hard man. I'd prefer to have that happy ending man but, its not the way the game is play brah. Its all a about constantly stepping it up, bettering your life, and being happy with or without a girl man.

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