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    I hate my girlfriend

    and I know I love her; but sometimes I really really hate her, strongly. And not the passionate, I'm-gonna-fuck-her-brains-out hate; this is a deep, gut level feeling. I hate her attitude, her smart-ass one second, play dumb the next attitude. I want to call that shit out, but I'd let it all out if I did. I'd tell her how lowly I think of her at that second for mind-fucking me, and being the emotionally derailed rollercoaster she is. That wouldn't be a pretty conversation.

    But the good out-weighs the bad. The love, the love is there, and the love is good. Despite the derailment, she is the most beautiful person I've known. Not only physically, but spiritually. Which yes, is a contradiction that I'm aware of. Everything she does contradicts itself at one point. And I'm not saying I'm the example of consistent; I've taken my part in questionably fucked up contradictions.

    But...

    Is this beyond normalcy? Is it humanly possible to live like this forever?



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    That's what most relationships are man.

    Basically we don't listen to our own advice, others advice, or the adice of those whose research has changed our lives.

    We get better at getting girls, we understand them, and our interactions with them, a little better; and then we settle for a girl that puts out essentially.

    We may have loved the girl, we may still love the girl.

    Fact of the matter though is, she is not the right one. Maybe there is no right one. Whatever.

    Just as every other socially accepted "norm" has been blown out of the water by The Community.

    Is it possible to live like that forever? SEE: Almost every relationship there is.

    This sentiment is basically why girls say guys are cheating dogs/pigs and guys say girls are sluts/whores/bitches.

    Guys are with girls that piss them off, are total psycho nutcase bitches. They can't even handle their own problems, let alone contribute to a healthy relationship. Guys get tired of playing Daddy and seek comfort/relations elsewhere, consequently they are dogs, even if it was not an exclusive relationship.

    The thing is, we are distant, live our own lives, attract, give comfort to, and seduce the shit out of a girl. She is all over us, loves us, we are the best at this, that, and the other. She wants us so bad. She wants us around more. She wants us to commit.

    She doesn't know what she wants.

    All of these things will begin to turn her off. Her feelings will tell her: He has nothing better to do? He doesn't have his own life? He likes ME this much, what's wrong with him?

    Enter female beginning to take advantage of our loyalty and sentimentality. Enter disrespect. Enter confused and returning to AFC man, confused.

    Relationship Management, Relationship GAME. These are the new things that need to be taught. These are the things that are more important to the majority of men.

    Remember "Sweater" in The Game? He attracted his dream girl, got married, and lived happily ever after....right? NOT AT ALL!!

    He basically stopped doing what he did in the first place to get her.

    Do not assume, do not expect, the game never ends.

    Apply everything you learned to get her to keeping her. Apply all those things that attract and re-attract her to you, to maintaining attraction.

    Never stop seducing.

    I applaud you if you made it this far. Commitment to excellence is necessary in any pursuit worthwhile.
    Be the Alpha! Be the Prize!

    Carpe Diem! No Regrets!

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    That was a tremendous post precious.
    It's a good reminder, "Never stop seducing."

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    Hey there,

    Hating somebody is not love. You don't like this person very much, but you're afraid to dump her because you haven't done a lot of dumping. The fact is she's batty and you haven't had enough adult relationships to realize there are hot girls out there who aren't batty.

    You've had like 20 threads about this girl where she's being quite unreasonable. Just break up with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Precious
    That's what most relationships are man.
    Most of the shitty ones, maybe. Healthy LTRs don't have all this drama.

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    Sounds like you love her, but are not in love with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vapor View Post
    Hey there,

    Hating somebody is not love. You don't like this person very much, but you're afraid to dump her because you haven't done a lot of dumping. The fact is she's batty and you haven't had enough adult relationships to realize there are hot girls out there who aren't batty.

    You've had like 20 threads about this girl where she's being quite unreasonable. Just break up with her.
    You're absolutely right. I don't think I've ever dumped someone who meant a lot to me, I wouldn't even know how to do it properly. Or even how not to fall back into it afterward.

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    Sounds like you're compromising man. There are people out there you won't hate. Everyone has quirks, but not that you should HATE. You've been with her long enough to feel comfortable and essentially you've become addicted to her. Flirt with new girls at bars, see how it works out. Maybe once you start throwing yourself out there you'll realize that the relationship isn't as good as you think.

    Good luck

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    Ahhh love this feeling. How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

    I've experienced this love/hate situation which occured by me breaking trust boundaries. Everything went well till that point. And it never recovered. She never trusted me again so I ended it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zero_Z View Post
    Sounds like you're compromising man. There are people out there you won't hate. Everyone has quirks, but not that you should HATE. You've been with her long enough to feel comfortable and essentially you've become addicted to her. Flirt with new girls at bars, see how it works out. Maybe once you start throwing yourself out there you'll realize that the relationship isn't as good as you think.

    Good luck
    You're right man, I see myself compromising and always looking around the corner for something better. Which is entirely selfish of me. I meet women and seriously consider going farther, but it is always when the our relationship is in a good stage and it doesn't seem worth it. I feel like I would regret it, and losing something amazing. At other times it's like I'd be leaving a mess behind. But yes, essentially I have become addicted.

    Quote Originally Posted by monopoly View Post
    Ahhh love this feeling. How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

    I've experienced this love/hate situation which occured by me breaking trust boundaries. Everything went well till that point. And it never recovered. She never trusted me again so I ended it.
    I've been with her a year, and it's only been like this recently. No trust boundaries were really broken. But I do feel there is a lack of respect and consideration for me on her side. I'm resentful towards that, and it's something I hate.

    School me on some love/hate situations brother lol

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