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Hey guys. I've dated a ...
5 month relationship... running out of things to talk about?
Hey guys. I've dated a girl for 5 months, and I'm already running out of things to talk about with her. It's beginning to become less fun to talk to her. We talk maybe 4 days a week on the phone for an hour or so..
Is this normal? Is it a serious problem? How do I keep her occupied with other things to keep her liking me?
Cut the phone calls shorter! Take up new interests in life, start researching new and exciting things. There is a shit load to learn out there! Also, if you love stand up comedy, find yourself a favorite comedian.. I have quite a few and love to impersonate them with everyday things in life with a little comic spin on them. I don't flat out copy them - but I do steal little subtleties that I like about them.
More importantly, read the thread in my signature. Find some new activities in life that are fun to you, and stick to it! That means letting it's importance be greater than that of a missed call from your girlfriend. I find that a change of scenery always fuels me up - if your always doing stuff, you'll always have stuff to talk about.
I usually like keeping phone calls relevant, just long enough to catch up on things, but want to leave a lot out for when I see her, or will make plans on the spur of the moment to see her that night, go for a short drive somewhere and talk in the car for an hour, and tell her to just throw some sweats on.
Change of pace and keeping things spontaneous, even if it's during the week... if she's that into you, she'll enjoy those short times. And a lot can happen in an hour without getting out of the car.
I also want her to expect me to be busy vs being busy all of a sudden and finding other things to do, all of a sudden. That can raise suspicion. But if she has an idea you're in a routine, she's usually going to feel a little more comfortable and not wondering about "fishing trips" that started coming up more and more.
Originally Posted by sh4rkb1t3
Or have you thought that after you ran out of "seduction materials" and routines, you realised you two have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IN COMMON?
When all routines and gimmicks run out, this is what happens: two 2-dimensional people without any distractions
Figure out what you have in common with her. Not everything has to be "attraction material". Sometimes you just talk. Talk about normal "AFC" stuff.
Show some interest in what she does. If she is not interested in anything, or shit that she likes you hate (i.e. music, sports, going out, books, movies, politics, vacation, work, etc) then you should reconsider why you really dating her?
The ghost of pua's past.
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