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I was seeing this girl for a while, ...
Can't get her out of my head!
I was seeing this girl for a while, started off as just a FB, but turned into kind of a relationship.
Anyways, we are out drinking one night (pretty heavily) and we get into this huge drunken argument over some pretty stupid stuff. We both said some stuff we didn't mean, and acted childishly.
I called her a couple days later, and left a voicemail apologizing. It's been almost one month now, and I've heard nothing from her.
Since then, I've been sarging like a mad man, having a shit ton of fun. However, I can't seem to get this girl out of my head.
It's starting to really piss me off, because I want to move on, yet all i can do is think about this dumb girl, and it's fucking up my game. I can't even focus when I'm out, I feel as if I'm a fog.
Would contacting her again be too needy?
obviously this girl made quite an impression on you. you guys had a special connection and I was all blown because of a dumb fight.
you probably feel like there is unfinished business.
call her, nothing is worse than not trying and feeling like u did not give it a shot.
disclaimer tho, it's been 1 month. don't get ur hopes too high , but u have to try again. at least if u fail, then u will have closure
truth be told...this has happened to me as well. I think it's something every guy needs to experience. I had ended things with a girl over a really foolish decesion made at the wrong place, wrong time.
It caused a great amount of grief, to the point where friends were thinking something was waaaaay off, and funny thing about it. Is that it wasn't about getting back the girl (despite doing so, and months later calling it off, ha!) it was about closing a door before opening a new one.
Like stated before, you have unfinished business with this girl. Rather then going out and sleeping with 10 women to forget about 1 girl, which in this case would not even do anything cept for a good time and stories to tell, I suggest finding a way or method of getting it off your chest. Look, if it's been a month since you've last spoken I am pretty sure it's more then over, and I think you would agree with that.
But it appears you still have something on your mind, get it off your mind and then learn to move on. Hold no regret or remorse, just continue on forward.
That is exactly how I feel. She was pretty disrespectful to my friends, and I said some mean shit to her. But I was still man enough and apologized.
Originally Posted by gr8t100
I feel like I can't move forward from it without this closure, but at the same time, I feel like a giant loser for holding on.
don't feel like a loser. You aren't a loser for having emotions; granted, too many emotions labels you as a pissy bitch, but this is normal. Just like gr8t100 said, we all go through that shit. You need closure, even if she isn't interested in you anymore, at least you'll have it off your chest, It'll be easier to forget her, and it'll definately improv your game.
Originally Posted by Weezer
+1 Red Hot E
Look, would you rather feel like a loser because you got too attached to your pride or be miserable for god knows how long before it ever goes away. Yeah, it will go away at some point but what sacrifices will you make in doing so.
Losing some friends?
Not opening new and more interesting sets/girls?
Lowering your own self-worth?
Yes, we are told to have solid inner game and out game but as mentioned before, we're fuckin human to. Shit happens and it's up to you how you want to spend the next couple of days, weeks, months dealing with it. Know what you want out of the situation, not just the girl, and aks yourself how you can get that done.
Just to share a little insight on how I closed the chapter in my life that resembled what you're going through. I pretty much saw that nothing would work in a way that would benefit myself or her, so I made sure that upon my last time of contacting her, I get exactly what I needed to off my chest, make sure my intentions were clear, and walk out with my head held high. It wasn't for blood, or for vengance, it was for closure and for myself.
Alright, that should give you an idea as to what you need to do. Good luck man.
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