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    what's the correct response to "are you mad at me?"?

    my gf occassionally asks me this. for example, we're out somewhere and we say we're gonna fuck when we get back home, but then we get home and she's sleepy or something and then she's like "are you mad at me?"

    or once i randomly txted her and invited her out to do something (very last minute, super random and spontaneous) and she couldnt make it so i was like alright cool. and then 5 min later i get a txt: "are you mad at me?"

    i can't help but think this is some sort of shit test.

    once i said something like "no, why would i get mad at you for getting tired? you cant really help that."

    another time i was like (joking voice) "oh ya, im super pissed. we're in a fight." the i laughed and gave her a little hug and said "no, it's fine."

    im sure both of those were bad. what do i do/say in the future?



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    haha nothing to worry about i think your doing the right responses. sounds cute

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    txt back this: "YES! ROAR! >: D" lol
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    it's like, usually when she asks that I actually am a little bit annoyed, but hardly "mad." But she's pretty good at reading my vibes.

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    I usually answer in an honest and not-such-a-big-deal way. Then add a small joke to break the rest of the tension.

    We were amped to have sex when we got back home, but when the time came she had an early morning class and had to go to sleep. When she said, "I'm sorry, you must be mad." I've answered,

    "Nah, a little disappointed, but it's important you get your sleep. (lighter tone with a smile) Besides, it wouldn't do us much good if halfway through our passionate love you started going like this." Then I'd emulate her moaning and putting my fingers through my hair... and then go limp and start snoring.

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    Funny...them snoring halfway through happens to me all the time...I still finish and am able to make a quick getaway

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    Quote Originally Posted by dallsbeep View Post
    Funny...them snoring halfway through happens to me all the time...I still finish and am able to make a quick getaway
    Haha, dude that's all sorts of f*cked up =P
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    Its good that she asks this. It means she cares and is seeking validation. Its something an AFC guy would do.. always ask "are you mad at me", "Do you still love me", "did you miss me today?"

    Funny how girls can get away with this shit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FemmeFatale View Post
    Its good that she asks this. It means she cares and is seeking validation. Its something an AFC guy would do.. always ask "are you mad at me", "Do you still love me", "did you miss me today?"

    Funny how girls can get away with this shit.
    Truth. That's why for something small like this I like to address it normally, but finish up with a smooth transition so the conversation can't possibly snowball into a silly argument at a later time.

    For example, if you two get home and she says, "I'm tired, I need to sleep" (and you can calibrate that it's not a shit-test, she really went through a lot) and she sees the guy furrow his brow and she asks "Are you angry?" Imagine you answer "Yes, I am because of xyz" and then roll over and go to bed. You've basically laid down ground-work for a fight later on because there's that air of passive-aggressiveness.

    You don't have to make a joke in the end like I did. That's just my personal style to deal with it.

    That's for something small. Of course if she ever came to you and said "Hey, I f*cked your best friend, are you mad?", then we've got a whole new thread on our hands and a show for Jerry Springer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tempus X View Post
    That's for something small. Of course if she ever came to you and said "Hey, I f*cked your best friend, are you mad?", then we've got a whole new thread on our hands and a show for Jerry Springer.
    Then you answer with total indifference "why would I be? I've been fucking [name of a hot female friend of yours that she knows or knows of] for a few weeks, I didn't know you wanted to be exclusive."

    As far as answering small "are you mad" questions, the way you answer them just gives off a beta vibe to me. You basically said "no I'd never be mad at you your highness." It's all about indifference buddy. Girls like knowing they can affect your emotions and it kills them when they can't.

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