What is with girls not calling back?

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    What is with girls not calling back?

    I mean, this is even for girls that I am not trying to game at all.

    Whenever I ignore phonecalls, and just dont call back, its because I really just dont want to talk to person X.

    When girls ignore my calls, is it that bad? Should I just give up and stop calling them because I already lost, or should I just expect that as normal girl behavior and try again later? Can someone try to explain this to me from a girls point of view, that would be so helpful.

    I am all down for trying again, i just dont want to dig myself into such a big hole that girl thinks i am such a creeper that she has to share with all her friends.

    I have noticed that my game is progressing, i am getting more # closes, but blam, I am now at this big 'girls dont want to answer my calls' wall.

    Anyway keep up the hard work gentlemen



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    If you're at that wall then your game may not be progressing as well as you think it is. (take no offense and please read on)

    When I ignore a guy's call and do not call back it is usually because I do not wish to speak to him. If I like a guy, I will make sure my ass usually answers the phone or I call him back later. (but I wait a few hours because I do not want to seem too eager or desperate)

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    I have watched with my own eyes girls giggle because the boy they like is calling them and not pick up.

    I have also watched girls take out the phone, look at the person ringing and say in disgust "ugh, why doesnt he just give up, has he not got the hint"

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    Quote Originally Posted by SilentFire View Post
    I have also watched girls take out the phone, look at the person ringing and say in disgust "ugh, why doesnt he just give up, has he not got the hint"
    Whoa, guilty The best is when they call from a private number after numerous attempts and we have to struggle for the most random excuses on the planet to hang up with them. I've actually yanked my dogs tail and said I had to go walk him when he starting yelping. Sorry, but some guys just do not get the hint!

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    Do not let it phase you. Be persistent. There are a million reasons she could ignore you and/or not call you back. It could be because she genuinely IS busy. It could be because she likes you and wants to play hard to get. It could be because she's not interested, and it could be because she IS interested, but not in a huge way. There's no way to tell, BUT NO MATTER WHAT THE REASON IS, being persistent is still the best thing to do IMO.

    Whatever you do, don't get mad at her for not picking up or calling back. When you finally DO get her on the phone, act as if you didn't even notice she didn't call back, and/or it didn't phase you one bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rastotaust View Post
    It could be because she genuinely IS busy. It could be because she likes you and wants to play hard to get. It could be because she's not interested, and it could be because she IS interested, but not in a huge way. There's no way to tell, BUT NO MATTER WHAT THE REASON IS, being persistent is still the best thing to do IMO.
    I know this wasn't directed towards me but I am bored at work and therefore feel compelled to answer

    Why on Earth would you be persistant? Even if she IS busy, being persistant will annoy the crap out of her. It's annoying even when she is not busy and even if she is playing hard to get, you are putting her in complete control over the situation! It makes you seem completely desperate and in the palm of our hands which is a complete turn off.

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    comes down to your perceived value in her eyes
    “Everyone is dying all the time. Everyone is also living all the time. It's all in your perspective which one you're experiencing! Choose wisely.”

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    There are a million reasons why girls will not return your phone calls.

    Sometimes she's really just busy and forgets about it.
    Sometimes she read something dumb in Cosmo like "wait for a guy to call you three times before answering".
    Sometimes you left a crappy voice message and made her thing you're weird.
    Sometimes she just missed your call and figures if you like her you'll call back.
    Sometimes she doesn't recognize your number and won't answer.
    Sometimes she's just not that into you.

    Obviously, the last one is the most common for new guys. Back in the early 90's, before cellphones and call display when you got a girl's phone number it meant something. But now it doesn't. Women often give you their phone numbers just to get rid of you, and never intend to answer your call.

    But in the same vein, a lot of the time girls don't call you even when they like you. Think about it: have you ever not called a girl you liked because you didn't know what to say and put it off? Well, girls are twice as bad as guys at stuff like that.

    So, my advice is to call about three times over the course of a week before giving up on a new number, and with a girl you've been talking to, who suddenly goes silent, you need to use your head. If you think it's on, keep calling for a while, if your last phone call was boring and lacked energy, you're probably screwed.
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    Sometimes she's just not that into you.
    which is what I was saying about perceived value in her eyes. If HB10 calls me more than likely I'm going to answer. Now if HB6.5 (which is an oxymoron - HB6.5?) calls and I know in my eyes that I can bed her easily I'll probably let the call drop. If I'm super horny and its Friday night and I'm bored and my friends have ditched me then I might pick up. If I have to work at HB9 or 10
    to get any form of compliance then there's a bit of value.

    Again she's saying "whats his value? What are my other options tonight or any night? What can I get out of this exchange, etc"
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    Quote Originally Posted by truelies View Post
    I know this wasn't directed towards me but I am bored at work and therefore feel compelled to answer

    Why on Earth would you be persistant? Even if she IS busy, being persistant will annoy the crap out of her.
    Jeez, when I say "persistent" I don't mean call her and text her 9 times a day asking her why she hasen't returned any of my calls. lol. My definition of persistency is to call and/or text about 3-4 times a week. If none of them are answered or returned, do 2-3 times the following week. After that, wait maybe a week and try again. If this "annoys the crap" out of her, that's her issue.

    It's annoying even when she is not busy and even if she is playing hard to get, you are putting her in complete control over the situation!
    She is only in control of the situation if by being hard to reach she invokes obvious anger or insecurity in me which is expressed to her and made evident to her. If you are completely unphased and act as if you don't even notice, this is a huge DHV.

    It makes you seem completely desperate and in the palm of our hands which is a complete turn off.
    Several weeks ago, I was persistent with a girl who would only pick up the phone or text me back 1 out of every 5 times, on average. I decided to keep on plowing, and to act as if I didn't even notice. Soon after (about 3-4 weeks ago), I woke up naked with her twice in 3 days, and since then have seen her periodically on and off (she's pretty much not open to anything more at this point as far as I can tell and I have moved on). Do you think this would have happened had I not been persistent? Do you think that my persistency triggered a "Oh my gosh, what a desperate fool" in her? Oh, and by the way she was the last one to call me.

    Refusing to be persistent is for the fearful and insecure.

    When I say "persistent", I don't mean to call more than once a day, and I don't mean to ask her out every time I call. Persistency is akin to keeping tabs. Nothing desperate or needy about that, would you say?

    How many people do you know (guy or girl) who call you more than you call them? I reckon a lot. There are some girls I know who only call me, and I never call them. I don't think it's "desperate" of them. It's only a big deal if it is made into a big deal. If the other person thinks it's a big deal and that you are desperate or needy, WHO CARES? Worrying about what others may think is not a good frame to have.

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