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    Ughh this girl is so hard to take out...

    So I hung out with this girl twice and it's been 3 weeks since we last hung out. I thought everything went well the last time but she's impossible to make a date with.

    Me: Are you still alive in there? :P
    Her: Lol no she died
    Me: Damn she owed me coffee
    Her: Lol hahaha, sorry I've been so busy with moving(apparently she's been packing for 3 weeks cause that's what she said last time)
    Me: Yeah I've been busy too. Work is crazy
    Her: Yeah me too. ughhh
    Me: I should kidnap you for a bit then
    Her: I'd like that
    Me: What day are you free?
    Her: Lol I'll have to get back to you.

    Exactly how the convo went a week and a half earlier. Meanwhile I saw that she's back on POF although it says she's not looking for anything. Obviously if you have time for that you can spare an hour to chill.What do I do?



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    Hell, play with her.

    "lol @ that guy Affinity always trying to take you out. Doesn't he realize you're in love with me? Let's go to (whatever spot), take pictures and make him jealous. Try not to get too excited posing next to me though. I don't get physical until the 3rd date :P"

    Now mind you, this was COMPLETELY random, I'm running on ZERO sleep, and this girl is taking FOREVER to bring me my breakfast (in other words, my stomach is growling). So, this advice may be the best, or the worst thing you could do in your situation. I'm too tired/hungry to know right now. The way I see it though, she isn't seeing you anyway, so something this silly/stupid/playful could actually work. If it doesn't, it can't be worse.

    (Obviously, use your real name and not Affinity. lol)

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    Interesting experiment Qualitygame. Is it ever possible to call a girl out on her bull shit? For instance, I was trying to call her after she said she'd call me and she texted me, "Hey my aunt is going into labour, sorry" I feel that's complete bull because she doesn't drive and pretty sure labour lasts at least a few hours

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    She's not that into you.
    Freeze her out. Wait for her to contact you to go out - if she wants to she will.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Affinity_ View Post
    Interesting experiment Qualitygame. Is it ever possible to call a girl out on her bull shit? For instance, I was trying to call her after she said she'd call me and she texted me, "Hey my aunt is going into labour, sorry" I feel that's complete bull because she doesn't drive and pretty sure labour lasts at least a few hours
    It's time to call it quits with this girl, man. Every time you wanna hang out, she's blowing you off. (Instead of just blowing you.) That's not a very promising lead. I know you want to see her, but for whatever reason, she's not into you. And while it's POSSIBLE some heavy duty flirting or cocky/funny thru text could turn things it around, it's even MORE likely that this girl simply has it in her head that she's not going to see you (at least not 1-on-1).

    If I were you, I'd cut my losses. I had a girl last year who, according to HER, liked me, but at the same time, hardly showed ANY INTEREST. I got tired of it & sent her a text (from ANOTHER girl's house, which is probably why I had the confidence and the "I don't give a fuck-ness" about me to do it) The text said "Just thought I'd let u know that I'm deleting you. Wish I could've gotten to know you better, but that whole playing hard to get thing just didn't do it 4 me. Good luck tho!"

    Sometimes, it's NECESSARY to have to cut people off. Whether they care or not, is irrelevant. It's what's right for YOU that counts.

    This girl says her aunt's in labor. I doubt it. Women ALWAYS use a family emergency if they want their flake to seem legit. "Mom's in the hospital, aunt's in labor, cousin was in a car accident" etc. They know most men won't question it, so they can get away with it. And if he DOES question it, he'll look like an insensitive (as well as insecure) asshole.

    Now, you asked is it possible to call a girl out for flaking? Yes. It is. But you can't confront her DIRECTLY. It has to be playful.

    For example:

    You: "Hey. I need ur advice"
    Her: "What's up?"
    You: "Well, I know this girl (you can insert her name here if you want but it's not mandatory) who always flakes on me whenever we make a date. How can I make a solid plan with her that she won't (wanna) break?"

    Wait for her response. It's that simple.

    If she DOESN'T respond (after hours of waiting) say "Hmm. Interesting. I'll try that. Thanks." Then, delete her #, and never initiate contact again.

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    ^ Great advice man. I'm gonna text her that line. We'll see how she responds. My guess will be "oh I'm sorry I've been so busy" but she'll never allude to an actually date. Fuck it. I'm an awesome person to hang out with.

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    That's exactly what she's going to do, cause she isn't interested.

    Not trying to be rude, just straight up. Cut her out she isn't worth it!


    Did you escalate on your dates??

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    Quote Originally Posted by Affinity_ View Post
    ^ Great advice man. I'm gonna text her that line. We'll see how she responds. My guess will be "oh I'm sorry I've been so busy" but she'll never allude to an actually date. Fuck it. I'm an awesome person to hang out with.
    Good attitude (assuming you're really ready to let go)

    Let me know what she says.

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