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    Reopening text after f-close and 3 weeks of silence

    Made out with a really hot babe last summer, but couldn't hook up again as I got back together with my ex. A month ago I dumped the ex and got the old flame revived. Met her once and we went straight to my place f..... for a good two hours.

    She said she didn't want a bf as she was going abroad in a few months. The sex was exceptionally good (pure 10 body), but I decided not to act needy and didn't write back for two weeks besides a quick 'thanks for tonight' kind of text the same day.

    My silent treatment didn't work at all, so saturday night after two weeks of no contact I asked her if she was out on town. 'Nope studying for exam on monday' was her short reply

    Haven't done anything since (about 10 days). Last year I had great succes leaving the girls hanging, but it doesn't seem to work at all on this chick, so unless I start doing something active nothing will probably ever happen again.

    I am completely blank on the best way to reinitiate contact. Questions about how her exams went seems lame and boring, and asking straight out to meet again seems a bit needy...

    Any ideas?



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    You gave the answer... Do something active. Invite her. Done. Done fall for the girl, she seems happy with the f-buddy arrangement.

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    Quit being a player .. she figured you out that you don't want her. Just keep playing an asking her to do stuff and hook up that's all you got

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilovemygirl007 View Post
    Quit being a player .. she figured you out that you don't want her. Just keep playing an asking her to do stuff and hook up that's all you got
    Wow, lots of hate there! Actually I would like it to become more with this girl, but she was the one saying that she wasn't looking for a relationship and was going to study in Australia in 4 months, so didn't want to scare her away by being pushy/needy. Thought it would be better to let her come to me, but that unfortunately didn't work.

    And yeah I am a male slut sometimes, see nothing wrong with that. As long as you don't play on peoples feelings and promise shit you can't deliver it's all good imo. Btw. all good relationships I've experienced started out with a hookup without long term motivation.

    uxi

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    Listen

    I'd listen to her. In my own experience I had a girl that initially told me she wasn't ready for a boyfriend, and me being me I wouldn't take no for an answer and REFUSED to be lumped into the friend zone. So I 100% shut her out, which lead to her coming back after about a month. I gave myself a pat on the back and thought my game was so tight that I could even change the mind of a girl. Well joke was on me when four months into the relationship we broke up because she didn't want a boyfriend and needed time to by single after her relationship prior. Nobody knows a person like them self... and part of playing the game is realizing that not everything a girl says is code, some of it can actually be taken at face value.

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    Thought I'd just share what happened. I went down a very simple route, sending a little feeler text about how things were going and if she wanted to hook up sometime.

    She replied with a long message about various stuff but also said that she was actually seeing someone else that she was kind of in to. Even though it couldn't turn into a relationship with the guy, as she was travelling soon. Even though she would like to see me, she felt it would be unfair... kisses

    And that was it basically. Sometimes even the best laid plans or game doesn't make the slightest difference.

    In the end it was better to get it cleared, rather than going around hoping she would write soon...

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    I dont see the logic behind freezing her out for 2 weeks... If everything was going fine I dont understand why you would just cut contact? That just makes her feel awkward and allowed some other jackass to swoop in and snag her.

    Sure i understand her saying "I dont want a bf" but as savoy always says, why are you listening to her logic? Don't change her mind changer her emotions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by uxi View Post

    My silent treatment didn't work at all, so saturday night after two weeks of no contact I asked her if she was out on town. 'Nope studying for exam on monday' was her short reply
    She is doing you a favor

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    Move on and meeet new gals.Rules of the game is simple..its always moving forward...there is no looking back... meet more gals..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Broodlez View Post
    I dont see the logic behind freezing her out for 2 weeks... If everything was going fine I dont understand why you would just cut contact? That just makes her feel awkward and allowed some other jackass to swoop in and snag her.

    Sure i understand her saying "I dont want a bf" but as savoy always says, why are you listening to her logic? Don't change her mind changer her emotions.

    Broodlez, you are absolutely right. It was a misguided attempt to let her come to me, as I was very aware of being pushy after she said she didn't want a bf. I did listen to her logic and that was a major fail!

    Cheers for the reply!

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