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what i am trying to ...
someone please help me out?? i nvr seen this before!
what i am trying to do is to get out with this girl. She's one of them super attractive ones (Now i dont really have much exp with woman and need help). I first met her on Facebook when she friend requested me. For a few months we talked once in awhile, but then a couple weeks ago she gave me her number. We texted and a week later she visited me at work. After that we hung out. Went to a park holding hands, went back to her house and swam in her pool (holding each other in it), made out for awhile then cuddled. It was a great day for both of us. A day later she came to my place for a few then we made out before i went to work. she left and ut her head out of car window wanting a kiss.
After that day she's been acting strange. She doesn't text me as much, she ignores my texts when i ask her to go out etc. so i got sick of it and was straight up about it to her.
Me: "Look, I can tell that you're attracted to me and I the same to you. Let's see where this goes, because I'm getting tired of being just friends "
after that she texted me, "i know but here's the thing i just broke up with my bf and i feel like in some way im rebounding with you and that's not fair"
*i ignored it*
then got a text from her again, "or say nothing"
Me: "is that your way of saying you cant handle me?its ok i respect that, dear. i wont try to change your mind "
her: haha no im sayin lets not rush this to where its a rebound thing and not something more meaningful. bcuz my ex was a rebound that lasted 6 shitty yrs
me: im not your ex and i can assure you i can pack alot more excitement in 1 day than he did in 6 yrs. buttt we'll see if you're up to test that. if not i don't blame ya
her: well what im saying is i dont wanna do that to you, i wanna take it at a good pace.
me: oh ya? prove it. you and me this saturday night at 10pm. otherwise im taking it you just cant handle me. whether it's my eyes or abs. (inside joke)
her: haha whatever
i ignore her rest of day then get a text "hey stud".
it was a quick text chit chat then later i texted her, "im going to applebees tomorrow. ill pick you up at 10pm"
she denied saying "im not going at 10 and i dont eat at 10 but nice try ha"
wtf is her deal?
She feels like a slut due to just having broke up with her BF. It's understandable.
Keep going, invite her out again, and persistently plough through.
You are sounding pushy and borderline needy. Assertive is an invitation/recommendation, not a command or obvious dare for your benefit.
so what do i do when she keeps ignoring my texts to hang out? ill ignore her then she sends me random texts "hey handsome" "hey stud" "what you doing?" or comments on my pictures saying "handome or hot" etc. when we are together we have a blast. but when i ask her out she either ignores it or rejects it.
Looks like she is just checking if you are still there. She is setting a slower pace because she needs/wants it... but notice that she indicated she still wants to spend time with you. OK, so what do you think she would like that is a slower pace? Walk in the park maybe? Before I do that though I would go do something really fun with friends and post it up on Facebook. Look around for a concert and post a photo or two, this way she can see what she is missing. When you do ask her out don't demand anything, just be like... she is weird, she keeps passing up good times, oh well. It's her loss.
Don't immediately respond to her texts to you. I had a girl with a bf all over my FB business because I barely responded to her. Then her BF got uptight and curbed this behavior. Was I gaming her specifically? No, just didn't want to deal with her at the time.
ya that does make sense. i am actually just ignoring her at the moment. Making it so she has to text first.
Originally Posted by Love Monkey
she's a HB10 type of girl and some ppl are advising me to attract her with curiosity. Make her wonder why i am not texting her that much or putting time into talking to her. Since most guys that talk to her either just hit on her or are a doormat. if that makes any sense.