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    Did I come on too strong?

    So I've been talking to one of my coworkers, she seems to be into me. We banter back and forth, she makes excuses to come talk to me, play punches me from time to time.

    Anyways, today it was just me and four other girls working at my store and she starts feeling faint, so she sits down. Manager girl tells her to go to the back and get her stuff, she gets a few feet from her chair before falling on her butt, her girl friend holding her hand. I walk over and pick her up before throwing her arm over my back and helping her and her friend get her to the back. I took her phone and wallet from her hand and carried them for her. When we got there, she walked in with her friend, signed out; manager asked me to carry her but she was like, "I'm okay" and kinda' walked off without me; I followed with her friend and didn't care, flirted with her friend on the way back in.

    So she texts me like thirty minutes later (after she was driven away by her mom), "Im so sorry"

    Me: "You should be sorry. I can't tease you about working out anymore because I know for a fact you are made of solid muscle "

    Her: "Haha. Was I heavy?"

    (The only thing she had eaten that day was a pack of m&ms, we assume she was feeling faint from hunger)

    Me: "You were a pack of m&ms too heavy"

    Her: ""

    Me: "I coulda slung you over my shoulder; not heavy at all"

    Her: "Promise"

    Me: "Only if you tell me how me picking you up and carrying you felt, gumball (long story on that nickname) "

    She didn't respond after that. So I'm thinking that my last two statements were bad, am I right? Or did I actually do fine?



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    It wasnt the best text I have seen but there is nothing in that which can be taken as "too strong". Thats just normal texting for me.

    She has just went home feeling faint so not too well, so if she hasnt replied just take it as she is having some rest. No need to read in to it at all.

    Just my opinion but on

    Me: "You were a pack of m&ms too heavy"

    Her: ""

    I would have just ignored and moved on to something else as I hate it when a girl is trying to get reassurance from me. I dont want to be the nice guy who will reassure her and make her feel good about herself. I want to be that asshole that is making her have a good time.

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    Thanks for the response.

    I didn't text her for a couple of days and got this text this morning,
    "Thanks again for Friday," how should I respond?

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    I don't understand the texting, but I can say for sure that it wasn't coming on too strong.
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    You could tell her to make it up to you, or tell her that she does not have to pretend to faint to get you to pick her up.

    Of course I just text for fun, so I may not be giving the best of advice.

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    Me: "You know you did not have to pretend to faint to get me to pick you up."
    Her: "Dude...stop"
    Me: "k"
    So what is the deal? Incongruent personality? Not deceloping the triad enough? Her?

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    Quote Originally Posted by AzureVista View Post
    Me: "You know you did not have to pretend to faint to get me to pick you up."
    Her: "Dude...stop"
    Me: "k"
    So what is the deal? Incongruent personality? Not deceloping the triad enough? Her?
    To me, it feels like you were clinging to that line of conversation too much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluesc View Post
    To me, it feels like you were clinging to that line of conversation too much.
    Agreed.

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    The deal is that you need to show a bit of caring. You haven't asked how she is or why she fainted. you haven't expressed any concern about, you've just used it as an excuse to game her.

    I mean the girl faints and you just flirt with her friend and insult her weight because that is good game?

    Don't insult a girls weight, ever. Don't even insinuate it.

    In short it is called romance and the game and romance are not mutually exclusive. You need to come back after this and say, in person, "I was a real jerk over the phone about you fainting, and I want to tell you that I was really concerned, and I am glad you are al right". Do it looking into her eyes, in a sincere and direct way, and don't tag a fatty joke on the end.

    That is what my instincts tell me but if you want it to be backed up my material then remember that you need to demonstrate the traits of an alpha male, and one of them is the ability to protect her and be considerate of her emotions.

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    Thank you for your responses. I am very new to this so I probably swung a bit too far to the other extreme of caring. I will try your idea Birthday and see what happens.

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