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    First, good work on the freeze out.
    I agree with Charlie - the plan B should have been spontaneous when you got there, also adds value to you that you can suddenly come up with good alternatives - like you're such a fun and active guy there are hundreds of things you can think to do (note: cinema does not count as fun or active ... or even a good date).
    Telling her you had a plan B already means you've obviously been strategising this for a while - all power back to her.

    Next: honesty... Certainly lying is not the rules of the game, but learn the difference between sincerity and low value pleading honesty (Which I don't think Charlie meant anyway). I've seen too many guys confessing too much, too early, in the sacred name of hollywood honesty... and it just backfires like a 1950s banger.
    You can make your feelings and intentions clear, while still having control...

    Finally, she's stringing you along? NO... no no NO..... NO ... hang on... NO
    You are allowing her to string you along.
    She is being a coquette. Get used to it, learn to love it in fact. But, do not let it dictate your actions. I love girls thinking they're stringing me along, i love it when they think they have control.. it's part of the process and part of the fun... and as i'm actually in control, it's a powerful frame to have (but complicated to explain the logistics of - part of its power in fact).
    In any case, if you don't want her stringing you along.. do not let her. Take the power back. Go find other women, other flirts, other fun... enjoy yourself and make her one of a group that you currently have 'on-the-go'... string her along just as much. let the sexual tension build as you both power struggle, then let it explode happily

    I think you stand a real good chance with this. Keep your frame, control, and senses... and begin the new year very happily


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    Thanks for the replies guys, I really appreciate the great advice!

    In terms of taking power back, how can i do this and more importantly how do I convey this to her?

    And how do I go about rearranging the date? What should my next move be?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jonny5252 View Post
    Thanks for the replies guys, I really appreciate the great advice!

    In terms of taking power back, how can i do this and more importantly how do I convey this to her?

    And how do I go about rearranging the date? What should my next move be?
    I think your move is no contact again. She cracked last time, she'll likely crack again. It's a big cycle.

    What do you think? Do you feel semi-content waiting for her to re-initiate with you?

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    Yeah, I think I'll just go back to no contact for now. Well I just sent out a mass new years text (her number included), but from now on lol. Trying to see if I can get any response from some old numbers as well.

    Happy new year!

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    Ice skating is a good date, I've been using that lately. The night before the scheduled date I usually text "I'm looking forward to taking you skydiving tomorrow!" That is really weak that she bitched out on your plan b. If you have other girls that you can see I would try to arrange a date with them first and don't text that girl back for at least a couple days, and see if she texts back.

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    Well she actually responded to a mass news years text I sent out. She explained that her new years wasnt great as she spent it in hospital... I replied saying "hope you get well soon etc..", and she replied saying she was feeling better. And thats about it really.

    And regarding the text she sent about rearranging the date saying "we'll think of something else to do, something fun!". Do you think I am supposed to follow up on this and plan another date? I need to take back power somehow, seeing she was the one who initially asked if I wanted to go out. But im thinking that I should probably leave it, as already suggested earlier.

    I need to get her from a medium to a short fuse somehow.

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    Woah.... let's stop everything a second.

    If she was in hospital (And be considerate of her privacy), does this affect her responses to you?

    For instance, was it visiting someone, or for her herself?
    In either case, this can affect her mentality and focus - meaning her behaviour so far could be fine.

    If the hospital visit was for her, and something she knew was coming, then cut her some slack -who the hell wants to play coquette when their life/health is on the line.

    So, before we offer more advice, i think we need to be better informed.

    In any case, I agree with your view, actually - start getting the other numbers in your phone primed.. and then go get some more numbers.
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    Basically the day after we were supposed to meet she wasn't feeling great (she actually said that she wasn't feeling great anyway when I suggested plan b the). She then went to the doctors and she got antibiotics. She had a bad reaction to the antibiotics and had to go to the hospital in an ambulance. And I learned of all of this when I got a reply to my new years text. (she sent me a really long text explaining everything at about 3am, I think she was still in hospital at the time, not 100% positive though)

    She is now out of the hospital and she says she is much better now.

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    Cut her some slack for avoiding plan B then. I'd even write it off of the 'anti' sentiments toward her regarding this
    Who wants to go dating when you're that ill (ill enough for antibiotics).

    From that point, all her interaction is understandable. The fact she text you at 3am from hospital (or even from home) is a big IOI for you... Cut her some slack. Show her some care and support, and game again in a week or two.
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    Thanks for the reply.

    Do you think in this circumstance I should perhaps give her a text in a couple days or do you think it's best to wait for her to initiate?

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