I live in a college town. I am 39.
good night game, phone game sucks - how to get creative?
Last thursday out in a student bar, I number closed a girl HB9, 23yo I'm guessing from her college year.
Strong eye contact, made a move to go to her, she actually came to me, I pulled her in by the hand, early kino, good social proof etc. etc.
Anyway long and the short of it is that after 5mins she typed the # into my phone. I then dialled it to cement it, and so she would have a record of my #.
I called her on Friday night about 9.30pm. No answer. At 11pm the number called back, I missed the call and they didn't leave a message.
I called her on Saturday afternoon about 4pm. No answer.
I called her tonight, Monday, 10.30pm. No answer.
I sent a text message Monday, 10.36
"Well! Saying as u don't seem to use your phone, what's your email address so we can chat on fbook? I have something I wanna invite u to......"
(*the invite was to a salsa class on wed night, didn't say upfront to get the intrigue effect)
the number called me back 10.41pm
I let it ring for about 10secs (*not being needy) then picked up
She had already put down (I know cos it showed up as a missed call in my cellphone)
the nmber replied by text, 10.42
"Hi, who is this?"
my text reply, 10.43pm
"<my first name> from the <bar> on thurs"
I wasn't sure if it was her or a flaky or false number, so I called her again. 10.43pm.
Girls voice answered after 3 rings, backround sounded like a bar.
"Hiya its <name> from the <bar> on thurs"
"do you remember me?" (* massive fail? or just fail?)
"er... No..." (* lies methinks, she didn't seem that drunk)
"Um... ok... well thanks! (ironic laugh).
This is.... <HB name> ok? right?"
"Ok, so at least you were being honest then. An honest girl !" (* cringe... shuda used good/bad girl polarity here ?)
anyway she gave a muted laugh here...
"So you really don't remember me then, I was the guy who made a living from risky business?"
"Well, I guess if you don't remember me then theres no point having this conversation!" (said directly and decisively like I was the one attiributing whether the call should go down or not... but still.. backed her into a corner here, because...
In hindsight I think she did remember me and the I don't remember was a shit test which I failed.
I basically prompted her to give me that shit test anyway by asking if she remembered me.
At least I salvaged some value/esteem from the interaction by not accepting a conversation with someone who "doesn't remember me", or pretends not to.
Or did I?
Any advice, tips etc. for moving forward?
How dead is this one on a scale of 1-10 ?
Because she was out of my usual league, it was a breakthrough to get the # and also to get a conversation. But then I was not in state enoigh to avoid cocking up, which I wouldn't have done with a HB7 or HB8. Still good to have the breakthrough and the reference experience.