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    Text: What To Do When She Stops Responding?

    This has happened to me a few times. Lets say you initiate a text convo with a target, and things are going great but then you assert too much of a sexual frame in the last text message and she stops responding...is there a default text message to send to get back on track again? Maybe something like "Gosh you are a slow typer, I'm falling asleep here."

    Or should you wait 1 week then try to re-initiate? Any ideas?



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    May be you are setting the sexual frame a little too soon. If they always stop replying when you set a sexual frame then I'm sure that's your problem. You have to make sure they are really attracted and comfortable if you want it to be successful. If you are setting a sexual frame right after getting their number you are probably coming off as weird or creepy. Lately, I am getting all my texts returned. The key is to be congruent.
    You should read the stickies and (by popular demand) 'Classic Writings'; it's not that hard and saves everyone time.

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    setting up sexual frame on text without kino escalation has never worked well for me.
    You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.

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    Is this a sexual frame that I was trying to use?

    Me: Hey there bam(Referencing to Alabama) chic...
    Her: Hey just in class, what you up to?
    Me: Are you sure you can focus on the teacher and text me at the same time? I had a free day
    Her: Haha Yea well I cant ever focus on this teacher no matter what I'm doing! Boring...wish I had a free day I have to go study for 2 tests! Ugh
    Me: I can never concentrate so I just draw lol. On a side note its good to see you made it back from bama in once piece. Did you do anything you were not supposed to? lol

    I think that last question did it for me but just wanted another's take on it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shaq420 View Post
    Is this a sexual frame that I was trying to use?

    Me: Hey there bam(Referencing to Alabama) chic...
    Her: Hey just in class, what you up to?
    Me: Are you sure you can focus on the teacher and text me at the same time? I had a free day
    Her: Haha Yea well I cant ever focus on this teacher no matter what I'm doing! Boring...wish I had a free day I have to go study for 2 tests! Ugh
    Me: I can never concentrate so I just draw lol. On a side note its good to see you made it back from bama in once piece. Did you do anything you were not supposed to? lol

    I think that last question did it for me but just wanted another's take on it.
    the lol at the end of the last text did it for you. NEVER lol. especially at your own jokes.

    "Did you do anything that you werent supposed to do? Trouble maker"

    that would of probably gotten you a good response.

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    if she does it alot..

    what are your guys opinions on sending a

    "...?"

    like an hour later.


    --
    get back at her later that week

    You- heyy whats up
    her) blalbalbla you?
    you (just dont reply)

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    Quote Originally Posted by shaq420 View Post
    Is this a sexual frame that I was trying to use?

    Me: Hey there bam(Referencing to Alabama) chic...
    This is fine. Could have been more a little exciting, something like this, "hey there bam chic....you won't believe what happened BLAH BLAH BLAH"
    Her: Hey just in class, what you up to?
    Me: Are you sure you can focus on the teacher and text me at the same time? I had a free day
    She's in class and quite possibly bored and not paying attention lol. Why are you asking her if she can pay attention to you or not. "I had a free day" doesn't cut it man. She probably gets it from all the other guys out there. You had a free day....YAWN. I am actually surprised that you even got a response to that.

    Quote Originally Posted by shaq420 View Post
    Her: Haha Yea well I cant ever focus on this teacher no matter what I'm doing! Boring...wish I had a free day I have to go study for 2 tests! Ugh
    Me: I can never concentrate so I just draw lol. On a side note its good to see you made it back from bama in once piece. Did you do anything you were not supposed to? lol
    Again, this is mundane texting. She gets these kind of 'typical' messages from her girlfriends and most other guys. Too many lols. Text messaging should be light, fun, more exciting than whatever she's doing at the moment. IMO, you are seeking to build rapport. Send her something more outrageous than "on a side note its good to see you made it back from bama in one piece". Something like, "Word on the street is the bama state police is now looking for you. What kinda trouble did you cause there?" is waaaaay better.

    Quote Originally Posted by shaq420 View Post
    I think that last question did it for me but just wanted another's take on it.
    I don't mean to be harsh on you. This is the way I look at text messages: I send them bait messages to increase my chances of a reply. When you message a girl you are gaming always text her something that will bait her into replying. Keep in mind all the other guys out there send messages like, "Hey, what's up?", "how's it going?, "I am not too busy" etc. You get the idea. Use the big list of text messages. Once you get a feeling for those kind of texts you can make your own exciting texts (which I have started doing with considerable success).


    PS. You are not even close to setting a sexual frame, so I don't think you need to worry about that .

    Quote Originally Posted by AFK_Tron View Post
    if she does it alot..

    what are your guys opinions on sending a

    "...?"

    like an hour later.


    get back at her later that week

    You- heyy whats up
    her) blalbalbla you?
    you (just dont reply)
    Please, don't do this. If she doesn't return your text message don't send her this, "...?". This shows that are waiting for her reply. If she doesn't reply who cares. You got better shit to do. Sending her that is a big DLV. Also, getting back at her is a bad idea. You are in this to meet women and have fun with them, not to get back at them just because they didn't reply to your text.
    You should read the stickies and (by popular demand) 'Classic Writings'; it's not that hard and saves everyone time.

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    Good post by TheSlayer.

    Shaq420 I don't think your text were that bad. There could be a million reasons why she didn't respond. Maybe her class was over, maybe she had to do something in class and just genuinely forgot about the text, maybe she thought you were lame, maybe her phone died... seriously anything could have happened.

    Since she didn't answer your text don't write her back that day. Just give it a day or two and text her back.

    Remember don't ever text a girl unless you are doing it with a plan.

    When I text a girl I am either building comfort/sexual tension/making plans to hangout. Not just randomly talking about our day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phillippe View Post
    Remember don't ever text a girl unless you are doing it with a plan.

    When I text a girl I am either building comfort/sexual tension/making plans to hangout. Not just randomly talking about our day.
    When I text a girl it's almost always because I'm bored and don't have anything better to do (sitting in a traffic jam, in class, watching a movie, etc) so I just talk to them to entertain myself.

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    Closing and smashing pussy isn't difficult for me. I've been picking up for years. This isn't to say i don't have areas to improve in. Phone game is probably one of them. I don't get approach anxiety but, calling seems awkward. I remember being in 18. I had just graduated high school and I was out with buddies. The i spotted this HB 10 (dark hair, big ass, thin waist, big chest). I know this cause she wasn't wearing much clothes in the summer lol. Any way, we got her out with a bunch of friends. Most of my buddies were gaming her okay friends. Not me. I had to work early the next morning and she was making excuses why I should spend more time with her. Having been ignorant of the game, I was still negging the shit out of her wanting me to stay. I stuck around a little longer, and then I dipped but, not before I asked for her number in front of everyone, her friends, and my own. She said it was ballsy and that, most men don't do that with her lol. Any way, I called her and it wasn't a flake. We were just hit and miss. I worked or she would. We were both going to diff school so, it was just a fling. No strings. I will say though, my call over to her was pretty awkward. My game is better but, phone game is def an areas I should improve on. What i can say that helped me a lot was the following:

    1) I call for a specific purpose (no fluff calls with no specific intent)

    2) When I call, its short, and sweet! (not poetry and corny shit)

    3) I set up a hangout leisure session (not a specific date)

    4) I do it in a mutual setting, away from friends, family, or anything serious or awkward

    5) If a woman can't reciprocate positively to an invite, she is cut.

    Too further elaborate on #5) Its as simple as this, my time is valueable. I have no time for flaky women. They come a dime a dozzen. The only alternative too ever seeing her again is a freak coincidence at a different venue or in the inevitable and likely scenario that, she calls me up to make it up too me with an alternative. This isn't base ball. No 3strike rule.

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