Thread: Reacts Game, How do you calibrate your closes?

Here's a POF of my Online Game, I've been really miscalibrated lately and I went for the #-close too soon, in this situation do I just dial my interest down and wait for her to give me the number, or what?

I thought I was golden, but lately I get these really warm reactions and I'm not used to seeing them so much.

It's long, my stuff is usually shorter.


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You seem like a classy girl, you're variety of interests speak volumes about you. What is your stance on Koala bears? Personally, I am against them.

-React


Koala Bears- Oh my! But they eucalyptus and who doesn't like to say that word? Hmm- maybe you don't like trees with possible herbal powers!

-HB

She sent me two messsages from the opener, here is the other:

I don't know if I would like Koala Bears maybe there angry little bears- or maybe they just have an itch and want you to scratch them behind there ears! I haven't personally met a Koala bear so maybe one day I shall see what I think of these Eucalyptus eating bears.If they get along with my dog then there golden and will be my best friend ever, next to my dog of course.

-HB


Hahaha, I'll have to tell you my koala story later then. You've got a dog! is he/she well trained, or do you spoil them? I've been on an animal kick since last week when I discovered that Red Pandas exist.

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lol- really now. My dog is a she and her name is Booda- is about 4 yrs old and is
around 50 lbs I got her from a shelter when she was a puppy and she knows how to
sit, stay, shake, and I'm working on getting to have her heel and not run away when I
let her off the leash- grr, she doesn't listen as well when I let her off- haha, bad dog! I
love animals so I'm glad your interested somewhat in them- Red Pandas, eh? How'd
you get on them exactly? What'd you do for the fourth of July?

-HB


I was in knoxville for work and I saw one that was playing drums with a twig, Imagine a little red raccoon rocking out, it was awesome!

You are fun, and I'm pretty sure you aren't psycho - let's continue this over the phone sometime HBname.

-React

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even re-reading this I don't think this was poor timing.
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Haha so you can hear my rasphy voice LOL - Ohhh I'm not psycho LA LA LA, but I
am random at times and kindof odd- that's usually when I'm on the verge of getting
hyperish. I don't talk on the phone- I talk on into a can with a string attached- you'll
hafta locate that other can Sir- prior to any conversation. K!


Oh man, my best friend and I used to make those when we were kids and he would talk so loud I could never tell if I was hearing his voice in the can or from across the room. As much as I love scavenger hunts, I'm busy plotting to smuggle a red panda out of the zoo.
I don't talk on the phone either, I mostly breathe heavily and send sexually innappropriate text messages


LOL. So what your saying is your a pervert- *notes that incase info needed for later date-- So what's your plan to smuggle the Red Panda out of the Zoo- which Zoo's have Red Panda's anyways? Hmm, have you been doing research on these matters? You breathe heavily- maybe you have asthma?? So what did you do today?

-HB


Yes I'm a total pervert, I am a man after all. At work I had little to do so I worked on my "plan" my plans are typically poorly thought out, and are drawn on napkins with stick-figures - like something wile coyote would draw when hes trying to catch the road runner.

Are you always so friendly?, you must get along well with people.

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haha. No. I'm not always this friendly, but you've said things that I respond to rather
well, thus making it easy for me to continue rambling about something!

Stick figures are about all I can draw- and they look rather sad, but what are these
plans trying to achieve? So your using TNT as well and it keeps blowing you up oppose
to your boss or something? haha that tends to be what the road runner always did- it's
like you almost felt bad for him, that damn obnoxious road runner would be like BEEEP
BEEEEP! and speeds away, that's like in our time in day the alarm clock, and Im sure a
few of those have been smashed successfully unlike that darn road runner-

^ ramblings of Thena- Ahh the books I could fill with those!

So what have you been up to?

-HB

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I'm assuming she's really shy in real life and doesn't like taking risks, hence all this comfort she wants me to build. I didn't think you could build anything like comfort over the internet, but she is indicating to me that she needs comfort .
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You are a total nutcase! - and I find that oddly attractive. You're little rant reminds me of a Wile Coyote poem I heard in college. I spent the first two years of college on a writing scholarship before I switched to a Business major, I got to meet alot of authors and poets and take them out for drinks after the shows.

Ah look, you're ramblings inspire my ramblings, If we ever met in person security would come and escort us away for disturbing the peace with our crazed conversation lol.

-React

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Thanks I guess. I don't believe I'm a "nutcase"

So then I can do regular conversation as well- but I enjoy thinking, and deliberating on
things.

eh, I'm a nutcase. It's no fun to be normal. I get to do things that give me joy without caring what people think. Last week I grabbed a friend and a bathrobe and we hung out by the mental institutions "no hitchhiking sign" trying to get rides.

I guess for a "normal" person you're still cool, so what's better snow fights or tickle fights? and would you be a bad loser when I beat you? :P

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closing line courtesy of Mungojerry
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hmm. snow fights- because I'm ticklish like hell and would probably like pee myself
while laughing- and that wouldn't be so fun. Ohh yeah I hate losing, you wouldn't beat
me- ha i'd devise a plan to defeat you prior to our engagement! Mwahahaha!

I'm not normal either, and I know that- just nutcase isn't a word i'd want to be
described with, I'm eccentric, introverted, odd-

-HB

oooh, no plans that's cheating! I bet you leave lil horns and a tail behind when you try making snow angels :]


SHHH that's my secret!! haha- only sometimes!

You seem like a nice guy- why are you on this site? I'm surprised your not dating
someone. Although maybe it's just the people, it seems like its hard to find a decent
person thats genuine.

So anything exciting your doing today?

-HB


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Uh oh! She called me a "nice guy"! GAME OVER MAN!!!!
Just kidding. Do I close or just keep my distance looking for green lights. These look like green lights to me, but maybe you can judge. Thanks guys.

I would ask again, say your busy and will text her. (Notice she said she doesn't talk on the phone, but never said no texting ) and if she flakes again and won't give her yours, and use one of those lines like:

'I know you won't call.... blah blah'

and than just don't put anymore effort into this one.

Originally Posted by S0N1CE

I would ask again, say your busy and will text her. (Notice she said she doesn't talk on the phone, but never said no texting ) and if she flakes again and won't give her yours, and use one of those lines like:

'I know you won't call.... blah blah'

and than just don't put anymore effort into this one.

That's what I needed to hear thanks man. A man's gotta be busy.

This is why I was always IM close first. You also forgot one important tool--the false time constraint.

"My mom is busy selling crabs, and needs me to carry the baskets, so I need to run. Do you speak text?"

or, what I normally do:

"My boss just called. I need to drive a few hundred miles to fix her financial server. Do you have Facebook or IM? I promise to only send you nine, creepy, inappropriate messages per hour "

I *always* Facebook girls before I talk to them or meet them. This way you get all the weird tagged photos and you can make sure they're not a whale or in a wheelchair.

Originally Posted by bplturner

This is why I was always IM close first. You also forgot one important tool--the false time constraint.

"My mom is busy selling crabs, and needs me to carry the baskets, so I need to run. Do you speak text?"

or, what I normally do:

"My boss just called. I need to drive a few hundred miles to fix her financial server. Do you have Facebook or IM? I promise to only send you nine, creepy, inappropriate messages per hour "

I *always* Facebook girls before I talk to them or meet them. This way you get all the weird tagged photos and you can make sure they're not a whale or in a wheelchair.

I think using a false time constraint online is kind of a waste of words. You're too busy to log into your computer and respond. There is your time constraint. The purpose of using a false time constraint is to keep a set from wondering how long you are going to stay around. When you approach its one of the things a woman wonders. There is no reason to use it online.

The text close is a solid low commitment close if she isn't ready for a phone call. They seldom are. I dont have time to bullshit around with chat programs - its a pointless extra step you take just to get her phone number. I'm not that interested in making things hard for myself just because a girl is too scared to give her phone number on a DATING website.

That was a good read. You're game is good, but you missed some obvious escelation points. 3 times she asked you what "plans you have", and you only responded once, with a description of your plans, but you failed to show Social Intuition by reciprocating the question (a chance for her to Qualify ). You didn't get the # close right away because you didn't qualify . That final line where you ask her if she likes snow fights (snowball?) or tickle fights, that's a small qualification hoop. I'll throw one out there like that really early, and then I'll go back to DHVing and banter. Then I'll qualify with a larger statement, until I can ask her "so what do you have going for you more then your looks"

Originally Posted by Zak_Attack187

That was a good read. You're game is good, but you missed some obvious escelation points. 3 times she asked you what "plans you have", and you only responded once, with a description of your plans, but you failed to show Social Intuition by reciprocating the question (a chance for her to Qualify ). You didn't get the # close right away because you didn't qualify . That final line where you ask her if she likes snow fights (snowball?) or tickle fights, that's a small qualification hoop. I'll throw one out there like that really early, and then I'll go back to DHVing and banter. Then I'll qualify with a larger statement, until I can ask her "so what do you have going for you more then your looks"

Good advice, I avoided the "what are your plans" questions because I had plenty of shit to talk about that wasn't small talk and I didn't want to let her lead the conversation into the ground. I alse have two other HBs giving me similar responses, I flipped a small talk question one gave me back onto her and it lead nowhere. I was hesitant to do it again for that reason, but it would have been a good play for this target in retrospect.