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I've done some searching but can't find anything very applicable.
Theres this girl ...
I've done some searching but can't find anything very applicable.
Theres this girl I kind of know but not really. She sat in front of my last year in my math class but we never talked, this year I've seen her like twice, once at some school thing where she had to select names (so I just said "Common _____!" to choose my name) and she saw me in the hall once and said hey which was about 2 weeks ago. So basically we know who the other one is but have never really talked.
I feel like once I got talking it really wouldn't be too hard to get with her, I think she has a new boyfriend but she's had something like 3 boyfriends in the last 3 months so I don't think it's a big obstacle. Anyway what would be a good way to open this on facebook and get things going? She's cute (about a 7), and nice but also not some prude or anything.
I'm a little confused by your first meeting. Did you even have a conversation with her at all or was she just leading a group exercise or something like that? If you've never even exchanged names, it's going to come off as an IOI no matter how you try to open her on facebook, which might not be bad if you just want to be direct. But I would wait and try to at least say hi to her, get her name and at least have a quick convo before facebook friending her.
Personally, I've never used facebook to open a girl. It seems to stalkerish to me, but it is a great way to keep up with an inside joke/neg you talked about, especially if for some reason you didn't get her number yet. But if anyone has had success opening acquaintances using facebook, I'd be interested in hearing as well.
I'd prefer not to use facebook either but I pretty much never see her in school. The only time I see her is if she's walking in the opposite direction in the halls with people around her so there's no way to really do anything.
Originally Posted by SteveCT32
as far as that first interaction to get specific it was at a ping pong tournament (lol) a lot of people went so me and my friend signed up just for kicks and when we lost she could choose a card with names on it to get 4 groups back in so I was like "Common _____!" and she kinda smiled like she was nervous who she was gonna pick, she happened to pick our group as the last of the 4.
anyway like I said I'd rather not use facebook but I don't see another way and like I said I never see her in school for the most part and even if I did I don't see a great way to open unless it was about prior experiences which was basically 1-2 times
Do a search on Facebook game.
There's heaps of info on it within these forums. Click under on-line game and have a look at Cajun's thread. There are lots of openers you can use for your situation.
Don't forget this should be last resort though. If you see her on a regular basis then you should just walk up to her and opener her like your normally would with any girl.
Also, you sound a bit defeatist by thinking she's got a boy friend. Unless she's married with a ring on her finger then assume she's single and looking to get with you.
well the was i see it dude u gotta talk to her outside of school ...i knwo u must be like wtf..? but check these out i was in school a while ago and we always keep way too much stuff...she's probably got drama,agendas,friends problems.....image..fake personalitys to keep so the best way to talk to her i think is kind some1 who knows her and then one day just say hi then neg her while ur with the other person that knows her i mean if she's a seven remember that i know she might be a 10 right there and then but there is no women unreacheable if u wanna remember that know that style..the pua got britnys phone number on an interview ....so play hard dude and report back with results
Ok I'll keep looking around this section. I know it should be a last resort, my problem is that I don't think a normal opener would work in school because most openers seem best with people you've never talked to. I guess an opinion opener would work well now that I think about it, hopefully I see her soon not in the hallway
Originally Posted by Runway_OZ
wait so your saying to do it outside of school but neg her in front of her friend? Your post is kind of confusing me
Originally Posted by alex hooligan
Just my two cents:
I'm looking for advice on a similar situation...I've considered all my other options and I've decided FB is the best way to go. Now I'm searching the forum looking for a good opener. BUT it seems like every thread is someone asking a question and a bunch of suggestions as to better ways to approach the specific situation or somebody directing the asker to another part of the site or telling them to "look for the answer" because the situation has already been dealt with.
ITS SO FUCKING HARD TO GET AN ANSWER SOMETIMES...and this is nothing against anybody specific just writing this because I'm tired of reading a bunch of extra shit when ALL I WANT is a good FACEBOOK OPENER. Not advice...not directions to another 14 page post where my answer MAY be in 1 post in the middle of the 7th page just an opener. Doesn't anybody just have an opener???
Seven different posts on this page and not one solution for my problem. And there's no sense posting another thread asking for advice...I'll just be told to search here. Well onto thread #6 of the search results.
You're searching the forums for a canned, generic fb opener? If so...
1) If you expect anything from the situation, have a lil chit chat with the girl in real life first so it validates asking a question about hw or whatever as an opener online - otherwise it's just random and creepy. If you haven't established enough of a connection to where you literally can't think of anything to talk about, you probably aren't even ready for a facebook convo. There is no good generic all-purpose fb opener... avoiding being a social robot whenever possible.
2) How could you have possibly decided fb is the best way to go if you're still hung up on what your online opener should be?
3) Why the fuck would you bring back a dead topic from over a year and a half ago just to make the problem (if it's even a problem) you're mentioning worse? Life doesn't hand you all the answers to your life on a silver platter, so man up, do some more research (or just talk to the girl in person) and quit your bitching. If you're THAT worked up over this, just rub one off, pat yourself on the back, and/or smile. Attitude, outlook and understanding cannot be emphasized enough in this game (and real life), but that's another issue.
The sad part is you're making no effort to help us help you by giving us the specifics on YOUR scenario for advice - because you're not even looking for that.
Originally Posted by chances
See that's the problem...I didn't need your assessment of the situation. I didn't need your advice on a better way to approach. There's a million ways to approach every situation. There's ALWAYS another option. WHO CARES??? An opener isn't going to get you laid or make much difference in how successful the situation will be. IT'S A WAY TO START. And in this particular case we've decided to START on Facebook.
Originally Posted by wonderwall89
I didn't search the forums looking for options nor did this guy post for options. We didn't ask you how we can lay this girl or where we should take it from here. We want an opener that's it. If you don't have one then DON'T POST. You don't always have to throw your 2 cents in especially if you're not contributing.
If someone comes to you and says give me an opinion opener...they don't want to hear your opinions on the effectiveness of opinion openers, other types of openers, or the importance of getting your BL and tonality down before you approach...they want AN OPENER.
Give me an opinion opener...who cheats more men or women BONG question answered
If you don't get the point of me bringing it up again I suggest you re-read my original post.
P.S. Here's how you answer a question...Whats a good facebook opener?
"Hey I saw your profile and I'm not quite sure about you. I'd like to ask you an important question so email me back"
"Jesus Christ you are gorgeous"
"this is a real life friend request do you accept yes or no???"
"I DON'T KNOW"
"It's better to open in person"
"I prefer opinion openers"
"I like chocolate"