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    flaky girlness, need experienced help!!

    This is my first day on the Attraction Forum and I have read a good deal of Mystery's Magic Bullets and listened to his DVDs. I hope you can help and assist me with this one issue.

    A girl hit on me a year ago and asked me a few questions, but was brief. She is actually pretty hot and we were both on the cheerleading team. We then got in touch on Facebook and we have been flirting for most of the year, that is until I graduated last May. Now when I try to flirt, she seems more distant.

    I noticed her picture change the other day, and I decided to neg her on Facebook saying "I have to comment...that's a cool outfit! but I think it is a little too exotic..." I feel like we are still in the introductory stages... after a year. I asker her out one time but she said "I would love to go out sometime. Let me know if you want to." and never gave me a phone number. I decided to back off and still flirt, but I feel like I am stuck in this stage. She also has a boyfriend, but from the pictures she does not look like she is so serious with him. After all, she did want to meet me...

    Well just a couple of days ago, I said "flaky flaky girl". After 5 months after congratulating me on my graduation and not saying anything to me or my messages, she said "what?". what should I say next? Was that a good decision to say that neg? How should i take this further? Please let me know. Thanks.

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    its possible that she just got bored because you never made a move. i've been there.
    yeah i'm pretty sure your flaky comment just confused her. i wouldn't explain myself about it, just blow her question off and talk about something else.
    see if you can strike up a convo
    don't just keep flirting and negging, get her to talk. get her to tell you stories, tell her DHV stories...eventually get her to qualify.
    and A YEAR is too long to have a SOLELY online relationship. You need to be getting her number and things.
    but first you have to develop the attraction that you apparently lost lol

    i'm still pretty noob at this too, but this is what I think. perhaps wait for someone more experiences to give more advice.

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    Help with negging and attracting this girl

    Yeah, she wasn't in my classes or anything. We were on the same team, but i haven't seen her since April or May of this year. So about 1/2 year on facebook. what kind of things could i ask?

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    Kaver, I've read your other posts, and I sense that this is confusing and frustrating for you. Instead of trying to figure out the nuances of these online interactions you've been having, I think you gots to chill and learn things step by step. Read the thread below (linked in my sig) on how to learn seduction.

    It will give you a sense of how to master things step by step. It will also be less confusing.

    It can definitely be overwhelming in the beginning learning a lot of new things and trying them all at once, but, like when you sample too much at a buffet, it can give you a stomach ache.

    Slow down and try it a step at a time.

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    GET OUT OF THE HOUSE BOY.
    Stop obsessing over girls on facebook and interact with people in the real world.

    You'll enjoy yourself, trust me.
    Ability is what you're capable of doing
    Motivation determines what you do
    Attitude determines how well you do it.

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    for nightflight7

    dude, read my private message... please. thank you

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    Quote Originally Posted by kavepower View Post
    dude, read my private message... please. thank you
    Thanks for the message. BUT, my above advice still stands.

    - You said it yourself that you're still in the "introductory stages" after an entire YEAR.
    - She never you her phone number.
    - She apparently hasn't talked to you in five months.
    - AND she has a boyfriend.

    Persistence is one thing, but it's time to let this one go man.

    Quote Originally Posted by kavepower
    I noticed her picture change the other day, and I decided to neg her on Facebook saying "I have to comment...that's a cool outfit! but I think it is a little too exotic..." I feel like we are still in the introductory stages... after a year. I asker her out one time but she said "I would love to go out sometime. Let me know if you want to." and never gave me a phone number. I decided to back off and still flirt, but I feel like I am stuck in this stage. She also has a boyfriend, but from the pictures she does not look like she is so serious with him. After all, she did want to meet me...
    What we call that around here, is a bad case of one-itis.
    Ability is what you're capable of doing
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    Attitude determines how well you do it.

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    nightflight7 and deadeyedick

    dude, yeah i know. the skill will come in time... read my bar story in "opening and transitioning" too. peace
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