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    Applying lovesystems guide to online dating and magic bullets to okcupid

    Iíve read the emotional progression model in magic bullets and Iím curious about how to apply it to okcupid. Iíve also read the guide to online dating and it seems the emotional progression model works a little differently when you do online dating. It seems that you need to build more comfort before you ask the woman out on an actual date.

    When do you do each phase? Should you do both the attraction and comfort phase before you ask for her number? Or should you do the attraction phase, ask for her number, and then do the comfort phase over the phone?

    What kinds of things should I talk about before the comfort phase? And what should I talk about in the comfort phase? Iím having lots of trouble with this.

    I first ask them random questions like what are their quirks, and what is a special talent that they have, and if they give me a witty response, Iíll banter with them for a bit (but not many women banter). In the comfort phase, I ask them what they do for work, where they live or what their weekends are like.

    What do you do when you make a witty comment but the woman doesnít make a witty comment back? Is it a dead end if you canít banter? How should you talk to the woman if you canít banter? In the online dating book, all of the examples use banter, but a lot of women who I contact donít banter and give basic responses (but they still respond).

    Also, if the woman doesnít ask a question at the end of her response (in an effort to continue the conversation), does it mean that she isnít interested? Or should you keep the conversation going anyway? What is the best way to do that?



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    Magic Bullets unfortunately doesn't work for me. I have read it. Women judge you by your looks and your age. They are incredibly superficial. I hate to say this. Conversational skills are important too, but those skills take a back seat to sexual attraction. You just can't win. The advice I've gotten here is near useless for me. You either have it or you don't - it's something you're just born with and cannot learn.

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    Applying lovesystems guide to online dating and magic bullets to okcupid

    Quote Originally Posted by 327ren View Post
    Magic Bullets unfortunately doesn't work for me. I have read it. Women judge you by your looks and your age. They are incredibly superficial. I hate to say this. Conversational skills are important too, but those skills take a back seat to sexual attraction. You just can't win. The advice I've gotten here is near useless for me. You either have it or you don't - it's something you're just born with and cannot learn.
    Magic Bullets is a foundational guide rich with information about a great many topics. To say that it doesn't work doesn't really make sense. That's like saying a book about gravity doesn't work. It's not supposed to "work", it's supposed to provide you with information.

    Are you instead saying that you don't agree with the information? If so, that's a different premise. I would argue that the information is quite good. I agree that women do focus on age and looks, but that's not to say that you can't or shouldn't play to your other qualities as Magic Bullets suggests. We're all forced to play with the cards we were dealt. Sometimes you get amazing cards; sometimes you don't but you still win the hand because you're a masterful player.


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    Cajun made a guide about online dating that has some good info in it... As far as Magic Bullets goes, as someone who's getting back in to being single and having just read the book, I'd agree that not a lot of it is applicable to getting matches in online dating however there is still a lot of good info in there for in person meetings. Also, there's a chapter in Bullets that is on grooming and style, which would help you with your profile picture for obvious reasons.

    I'd recommend at least giving Cajun's guide a once over. Generally speaking, it wasn't as helpful to me as some of the other books, but it still aimed me in the right direction I think. He has good examples of what you should be looking for when setting up your pictures, and provides you with example pictures he uses.

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