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Hey guys I've been using this new quasi dating app called Tinder for the ...
Hey guys I've been using this new quasi dating app called Tinder for the past two weeks and so far it seems like a pretty easy way to get the girl who are already into you or could be convinced to be into you. Basically its a hot or not type dealio and if two people like each other you are presented the option to text one another. I think it has potential especially near college campuses. I just want help exploring it and how I should go about texting random girls. Also so far the way I've been opening is by saying "Hey I know this is forward but here it goes…hi" so far it has worked for a good portion of the girls who have responded. So please leave your opinions, comments, concerns, questions, or whatever I'm not you dad I'm not gonna tell you what to do
Nice opener. I have been using Hinge (http://hinge.co), which is more or less similar to Tinder.
Originally Posted by Yachtz
I've been getting solid matches but have been struggling opening. Any other goods ones? (this is more a bookmark for me to think about them and post them here).
Well I just try to stay away from normal safe conversation like Hi, how are you, whats up, do you believe in aliens. you know regular stuff. Honestly though I'm not to sure what else to say I just try to grab their attention.
Yeah, the plus with tinder/hinge is that they (supposedly) are already interested with you. This makes them short fuses, and I try to move to meet up as quickly as possible without sounding like a abductor.
I still do struggle with keeping it fun, but less game-y at the beginning. It's hard when you are essentially blindly approaching. For some reason I always revert back to "where are you from?" and "how about we grab a meal in the city?" Both of which are pretty bland and make the date seem like a scheduling a doctor's appointment.
I guess getting the number quickly is good, so you can hit the text game and make it more than an online relationship. I've used variants of these lines with some success --
"I was gonna send you written note but my carrier pigeon is sick today. Gonna try alternative means, do you have a number I could reach you at?"
"You passed the anti-stalker test, congratulations! I think its safe to give you my number (XXX-XXX-XXXX); text me something funny so I know its you."
Once you're there you can transition to regular in-real-life game tactics.
Being one of the few people in this world with no desire to own a smart phone, I can't speak on the pros & cons of these apps. I know SKOUT is one I've heard of. My current girl was using that when I met her. The problem (for me) is, none of these are "usable" from a PC that I know of.
I think you have a really good point with the short fuse thing, I find that the app pushes you into step up to the spot immediately, as the girl can move on to a new guy with 1-click access, and geetting her attention and number must 1st and 2nd priority.
Then a simple "hi" or "Politely aking for permission to speak with you" just won't do it. I usually go with "Hi beauty<3!" or a humoristic opener.
You've got to remember that most of the girls are just on there to raise their confidence
I must say that those are 2 genius ways of getting their number, cudos to you! Great job, I'm gonna be using that in the future for sure!
Originally Posted by tallguy
It's been a long time since you posted this, so I'd like to hear how it went for you guys, if you mind
This one has 100% success rate for me:
"Hey [insert name] it looks like we won this tinder game. Any idea what prizes they are handing out?"
Transition to something relevant next is key though.
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Being a bit of an online game addict I think I need to give tinder a try haha. These are some great openers!
I've actually had some pretty good success with tinder. I have historically been decent with holding conversation with women, but struggle with the cold open. After seeing the type that I've matched with has given me that extra boost in confidence. I've met up and subsequently hooked up with a few super cool hot personable chicks. Again because of this boost in confidence I have even been making the transition to cold opening with girls on the street, in the subway, basically wherever and whenever I see them. Some have lead to names and numbers others haven't. That fear of rejection isn't really much of a concern to me anymore. Simply as a tool to practice cold openings, and to see what type of woman you can truly acttract this app is great. Growing up with that fear of rejection limits who you think you can approach when in actuality it's mostly in our own heads. Give it a try, don't get frustrated to quickly not every positive match has responded right away. Sometimes days and weeks later, just don't get clingy when you get a match. Use every other technique taught here and success can be attained. As for openers I've used, I try to comment on something stupid and incidental about one of their photos, or profile, use the neg, there's nothing to make anything awkward. How would you treat her if you've known her forever? Have fun don't over think, chances are they're there with their friends egging each other on in the same fashion you and your friends are. I can't stress enough about how this stupid, superficial, egotistical app has opened a whole world to me for the better.
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