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    A website for hookups/ DTF girls

    I'm surprised this site never got any mention:

    http://www.fetlife.com/

    You can join groups and find chicks into whatever in your local area, and events. I've been on it for a long time, I was pulling off of it before I had even read MB, FWIW. Totally free too.

    It's good for a hookup, at least. I wouldn't date one of them, though!


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    Women have two types of toys: teddy bears and vibrators. Teddy bears are for when they are emotional and want to watch romcoms, and vibrators for when they want to get off. What toy are you?

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    Checking this out now. A lot of fatties, but also some really hot girls, some of which have no problem posting topless pics.

    I'm wondering if online game on a site like this should be played any differently than from traditional d\ ating sites like OKC or POF, due to the nature of the site and community. It's obvious (more obvious than on pof or okc) that everyone is there to get laid, so I'm thinking that basic rules of online game

    So, how do you run online game on sites like Fetlife, Boston?

    I.e.
    -what's the attitude you take in writing your profile
    -the way you open and talk to girls on there
    -what kinds of pictures do you post (for example, I'm not about to put up pics of my dick, but I'm wondering if shirtless pics might actually help rather than hurt here)

    I'm curious to get started, but something tells me my standard approach to online game won't be as effective on Fetlife.

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    As a member of FL, I'd say that traditional methods won't work exactly. The women that you'll meet there, aren't your typical women. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you won't have success using various methods, but make sure to read their profiles. That's a key element because as the old saying goes "Things aren't always as they appear".

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    Yeah, I figured. Right now I just copy+pasted my POF profile into my FL one, but it already looks out of place, and not in a good way. I figure you don't have to be as indirect and play so many games on here, but at the same time I don't think messaging a girl "i want to fuck you" like all the AFCs on POF and OKC is going to get me anywhere.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLucidDreem View Post
    Yeah, I figured. Right now I just copy+pasted my POF profile into my FL one, but it already looks out of place, and not in a good way. I figure you don't have to be as indirect and play so many games on here, but at the same time I don't think messaging a girl "i want to fuck you" like all the AFCs on POF and OKC is going to get me anywhere.
    Yeah, you have to change it up a little bit. There's women on there that you can just be "direct" with, but a lot of them are not going for any of that. Along with that, you have to know what you're getting into. It's why I say READ their profile.

    You don't want to meet up with a woman, only to find out she has some very different plans or intentions than what you were prepared for. I had a friend of mine learn that the hard way on FL.

    With everything said though, there's some great women on there that's completely different compared to the women you find on PoF and OKC. They usually are easier to communicate with, which is more than can be said on other sites.

    Another thing, you don't have to be nearly as creative to message them. You can't exactly mass message women on there though, as they have limits setup. After you message around 10 women or so, the system will stop you from messaging.

    That's only for a couple hours and is set in place to keep people from spamming. Anyway, good luck and have fun on there.

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    What's the general attitude to take with your photos, profile, and messages if not C+F?

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    You gotta ask yourself --- why would a hot girl take her chances on the website and meet someone with a exaggerated profile and a pic from 10 years ago?

    They could just go to a bar and assess the guy in real life and pick the quality ones.

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    You'd be surprised at the amount of hot girls on dating sites. You just have a better chance of gaming them in real life because they usually won't respond to your messages unless you have a really nice body.

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    It's cool that Fetlife is free, compared to adult sites that are all pay based, to send out messages, but it's a difficult site to get results from.
    You'd probably need to attend fetish related events in your city, to get 'accepted' into the scene, except like most dudes here, I'm not interested in wearing any weird clothes.

    Cut and paste mass messaging on it won't work, unless a lady's profile says nothing at all, plus most women messaged on it with a decent personalised message, having correct spelling and grammar, don't respond back anyway. You have to
    personalise what you say, according to what a lady says in her profile, but that probably won't help much either, in terms of getting a reply back.

    Since not all females on it have a photo up, mass messaging women on it who look reasonably attractive, won't work. If in case she's not into sex, you have to read a lady's profile properly to see what she's into, as UnknownDrWho mentioned and some women on it have lengthy profiles.

    Also most of the more hotter females in my location (in Australia) mention in their profile that they're already taken, that they're only seeking friends and/or are only seeking women to play with.
    If a lady has any up that show what she looks like, you also have to look at a lady's photos very carefully, as there's also a lot of female fatties on it, who need to go to the gym.

    Fetlife stupidly mixes female F category profiles with male ones, so to go through the first 30 pages for my location, took me 6 hours. A lady from the US who 'welcomed'
    me on it, said when I mentioned how badly organised the site is, that it's more of a site to use for friends to stay in touch with, rather than one to find a sex partner,
    so there's little chance of genders being separated, for easier searching.

    Unless you already mention being into personal growth and self improvement, without being a smartass, if you took a normal and/or smartass type profile and standard photos you use on a
    standard dating site onto it, it's probably not going to work and the same mostly applies to having a profile on pay based adult dating sites, most of which are scams.

    In both your profile and in your messages, you have to be more direct about your sexual interests in a reasonably articulate manner, rather than just have up, or send photos of your penis, or
    of yourself nude and/or with your shirt off.

    I'm not sure how to successfully qualify a lady on a site like this, if she answers back, but I'd appreciate any tips.

    If you've read Robert Greene's 'The Art of Seduction' book and any other similar books, that'd definitely help with what to say on a profile on this site and also with your messaging game on Fetlife,
    as you have to be more direct and know how to sexually escalate in writing in an articulate way, which I'm not that very good at myself.

    I don't know what the app costs, but most are very cheap, there's one called Blendr, owned by the owners of Grindr, that's for gay dudes. Blendr is a hook-up
    app for straight people, masquerading as a dating site. I don't currently have an iPad, iPhone, or a Touch, nor do I use Facebook, otherwise I'd try it myself.
    If anyone tries it out, let me know.


    http://blendr.com/

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    As UrbanKnight007 is saying, traditional methods simply don't work with great success on FL. You can read a million books on seduction, lust, or whatever else and still no get success. The reason for that is due to the different mentalities for the women on FL. While one woman might be looking for a sex partner, another is just looking for friends. Which in my opinion, is sort of odd considering the type of website it is. As I said in an earlier post, you CAN have success on FL and I know this for a fact.

    Putting up shots of your crotch is NOT going to make it happen though. When you're on FL, I suggest you learn the art of role playing. You DO need to customize your messages to grab the attention of the woman you're attempting to contact. Giving a woman compliments is NOT going to work at all, so don't do it. In fact, you need to be somewhat of a douche, except in a humorous way. A lot of things that are great to say on other sites, just don't normally work on this one unfortunately.

    Just like UrbanKnight007 was stating, searching for women on FL is the most difficult aspect of the website. Genders of men and women are mixed into the search. Therefor it can take awhile to go through and look up a lot of women. I'm not sure why you can't search based on gender, but regardless you have to add a lot of effort into your search for women on FL. There's simply a lot of men out there that won't put the type of effort required in snagging a woman on there.

    Once you find a woman on FL, you have another obstacle to face unfortunately. Those of you unfamiliar with BDSM, I suggest you take a moment to get related to the terminology BEFORE joining FL. I've known all these things for years BEFORE I ever joined FL, only because certain aspects of BDSM interest me and to be honest, there's elements that can take you to new heights where you would never want another "standard" hookup. Believe me on that one.

    The other obstacle is dealing with women that are "owned" on FL. Yes I said owned. There's a lot of women that require you to contact their "Owner" before you can even send them a message. Just because their owned by someone, doesn't mean their not available for "playtime". In my personal opinion, leave these women alone on there. It's WAY too much effort than it's worth. At the end of the day, it's better to look for women that are "not owned" and work from there.

    When I said learn the terminology of the BDSM world, I mean it. Learn everything you can, otherwise you might meet a woman on there, go to meet up with her, and then find yourself in a compromising position. I've had a few friends that learned that the hard way. There are some freaks for women out there and I'm not talking in a good way. Also don't get a misconception about what BDSM is all about. Most people get the wrong idea about what it's all about.

    When you join FL, make yourself a profile and put up a picture or two. Create your profile and then select your "role". There's a ranging amount of things you can select. On FL, I suggest using "Dominate". There's also Domme, Switch, Submissive, Master, Mistress, Slave, Pet, Top, Bottom, Fetishist, Kinkster, Sadist, Masochist, Sadomasochist, Vanilla, and Unsure. Again, learn your terminology to learn about the others and see what applies to you the best.

    Then you need to select what you're looking for. This is where you can eliminate certain type of women or at least ward them away from you. You have:

    A Lifetime Relationship LTR
    A Relationship
    A Mentor/Teacher
    Someone To Play With
    A Princess By Day, Sl*t By Night
    Friendship
    A Master
    A Mistress
    A sub
    A slave
    Events

    Again know your terminology and select each element that's applicable to what you're looking for. Hopefully this information will help some of you that are curious about the site. I know some of the things I've said might turn you off from giving it a try, but it's a free legitimate site to find women, but you just have to approach it in a different way than the normal way. It's worth a shot IMHO. Also feel free to PM if you have any private questions you want answered. Good luck!

    P.S. Also join TONS of groups on there and become active in the discussions. That will help take you further in hardly no time at all.

    One more thing, put this on your profile at the very end...

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    You do NOT have my permission to use any of my media content OR information from my profile, or anything I post in any of the forums or groups on this website in any form or forum both current or future without prior WRITTEN AND VERBAL consent. You do NOT have my permission to copy, save, print, or re-post my pictures or information without prior WRITTEN AND VERBAL consent. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to all legal remedies. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice as well.

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    You'll thank me later for this!

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