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POF Profile - Can a big guy get a hot girl?
Hey guys, I'm new here but trying to improve overall in the women department, I'm 19, I live in Canada, haven't been out with a girl in over a year..
I'm trying the whole POF thing to meet some new girls and I'm getting nothing for responses, everything is denied or ignored..I'm using a profile similar to the one suggested in the POF sticky and am trying the milk with ice line since I live in a city where I'm guessing not many girls have heard it before. The only reason why I'm having a 0% success rate that I can think of is that I listed myself as a few extra pounds, I'm a fairly big guy, 5'11 230 lbs.. I'm not sure if that's the reason why or if I'm just being self conscious. I had a profile on POF before and it seemed like the only girls replying were 3's and 4's, whereas I'm trying to go after 7's and 8's.
Have any bigger guys here ever had any success on POF? I lost 20 lbs over the spring but I still have a long way to go and I'd rather not be single that entire time.
dude it is all about CONFIDENCE, girls can detect a guy with low self-esteem or lack of confidence. but yes it is possible
A few suggestions:
To test my profile... I use 5's - 6's. I send them a message with the subject of "Hi", and a message of "Hi!".
If they all respond, I know my profile is good. I know this because they were certainly not impressed by my messages. I also know, if a 5-6 is not going to respond... a more attractive lady probably will not.
I make the good girls bad, and bad girls worse;
nice guys are last 'cause I’m always first.
I’m a freak show sucker for how it feels;
turn the girl next door into hell on heels.
I’m red-white-blue tattooed and just don’t care;
I’m the all American nightmare.
-Hinder, All American Nightmare
It seems to me from your post that you need to work on your confidence more than your weight loss, but self improvement always helps, so good luck with that. Don't worry about your size bro. I'm 6'4 and 290lbs, not sloppy though as I have an extremely big frame, and still get to the gym at least 3 days a week. I have my self listed as a few extra pounds also, but have things in my interest, and pictures that show I am active. I've been roughly the same size since my college football days. I'm 30 now, and not nearly as in shape as back then, and I consistently pull 6's-8's online, and one solid 9 that I dated for over a year. First thing you need to know, and this is a fact, there are a ton of hot women who like bigger dudes, obviously not as many as who go for the jacked up meatheads, but still there are many out there that prefer a guy like me and you. But if you play it off right you won't have to bank on those girls. I've had plenty of women tell me while we were together that they never dated anyone big like me, or even considered it, and usually only date skinny guys. Those same girls always say shit like I feel so safe around you and blah blah blah. Maybe its just a novelty thing they want to try out, like me with asians, but I don't care I'm usually not in it for the long haul anyway.
Originally Posted by SaskJames
Just like in the real world its all about confidence. Have good pics posted, don't slouch in them stand tall and proud. Take time on your profile too, and make sure its funny, and you come off as a confident man. Remember though even to the guys who are great at online game its still just a numbers game. I usually send out like 5-10 emails a day when I'm on, which is probably 3 days a week, and get back 2-3 in return. Of those 2-3 I might actually meet one girl, but like I said in another post I have f-closed every girl I've met off that site on the first meet, with the exception of 2. I do live in a major city though, Philadelphia, so that may help my cause a bit, but I don't see how it wouldn't work the same on a smaller scale.
I really don't use any of the canned openers. A lot of times I don't even ask them an open ended question, but just make a funny remark about something in their profiles. In my experience if they will check the profile first then read the message. If they liked the profile you will most likely get a response to anything but "hi."
Simple Answer YES! I have had VERY good success with POF. Its bloody brilliant its free.
What are your openers? Ironically I have to hit the gym very soon but here are my best openers...Give them a try and let me know how you get on...
So, obviously you passed the aesthetics test or shallow men (such as myself) would never contact you, but a buddy of mine was looking over my shoulder and claimed that – without a doubt – your profile looked to have been written by a guy; it’s just too perfect, minus the incompletion. He claimed that any account with so little information is a dead giveaway. I came to your defense, of course, but now we’ve got a £20 bet going as to whether or not you’re real. So I wondered, just between us, am I about to lose £20?
Haha… I should really devise a test. I could ask you a question about Twilight or Sex and the City
, but one, there is the problem that even if you did answer correctly, I’d have no way to know if it was right, and two, if you were a girl, and were just an awesome one, you wouldn’t know the answer anyways… what a dilemma. How would you test yourself to know you were really a girl? And what do you do most often in your spare?
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If your answers are worthwhile, we might even mission a venture
to save you, should the time come.
So, a friend and I have this theory that the way a woman treats her nails has a lot to say about her personality. We’ve managed to isolate some commonalities, but only among our female friends. Some women keep them short and cut (the sporty/athletic type), never with much colour, although sometimes glossed; others keep them long and natural, obsessive compulsively maintaining their colour; others still keep them on, but not too long, and may have one or two broken ones, these women often have chipped/unmaintained colour as well. There are many others, but for the sake of time…
I’m guessing that you’re a nail biter, and might even go so far as to wager that you use acrylic nails when the occasion calls for it. Am I right? If you tell me truthfully, then I’ll let you know what it says about you. It is for scientific prosperity sake after all ;-)
I haven't read any of the other replies here... but a few things:
1) IF you watn 7-8's, then you might want to get YOURSELF within that range. 5'10 and you're 230 pounds? Hit the gym. Lose some weight. Work on yourself before you think you're going to get some 7-8 girls. Not saying you can't in your current situation, but it's not likely and you'll have to go through a lot of failure before you even get one. Girls care about looks. ESPECIALLY online when that's what it's almost all based off.
2) Don't follow the POF guidelines on good profile and good messaging. It's garbage. I tried it. Failed. And I'm quite good looking (at least my mom says so).
I've always thought it would be good for a big guy to parody the typical POF guy, you know the one with the abs pic.If you could get the humour spot on I think you'd be swimming in poon.
Milk with ice is a subject line, not a pickup line. Your weight isn't the issue. Read Magic Bullets.
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