POF Relationship status - Single/Separated/Divorced?

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    POF Relationship status - Single/Separated/Divorced?

    I have been technically separated for about 7 mo, on my way to a divorce (could be awhile still). For reference, I am 35 yo and going after 25-39 yo women.

    I have my POF relationship status set to Separated. On OKC, single is really the best option so that is what is listed.

    My OKC reply rate is pretty high....60-70%. My POF reply rate is about 25-30%. Otherwise, I do everything the same between the two sites...same picks similar profile, same type of messages. I have two kids and disclose this both places.

    Could the relationship status of Separated scare women off?

    Should I change it to Single or Divorced? Separated is the most technically accurate and I am usually very honest online. I don't want to explain myself later, but the lower response rate sucks.



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    i think your over thinking it bro..... my myspace says im in a relationship it does not affect my game at all.... in fact women rarely ask me if i have a gf..... it all depends if your game is tight or not

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    Maybe overthinking. I am sure my game could be tighter. I am pretty new to online or pick up period, but learning fast.

    My ability to convert a response into a number/date is pretty consistent...about 50%. I would like to get my POF response rate up and the whole relationship status thing seemed like the only difference.

    Oh well, not going to worry about it too much.

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    Preposterous - just choose single all the time. For me the only status' that would scare most of women/girls off are Its complicated/Married

    You're going to have to let people know your secret of getting high response rate on OKCupid

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    I follow the advice in the Net2Bed ebook. I do short two-three line custom messages based on their profiles,and I always end in some sort of question.

    I am mostly just throwing out funny questions and never comment on appearance. The creative writing sometimes takes longer than it should, but proving to be more efficient than real life. When I go out it is only with co-workers and married friends, so approaching women is a very small part of the evening.

    Best response rate is 30-39 yo at 60%. Honestly, 25-30 yo response rate is much lower (probably 20-25%).

    when a woman has a super generic or short profile, I write something like "I am not sure why, but there is something weirdly creative or exuberant about you. What are you holding back in your profile? Are you in the witness protection program ;-)" This gets a very high response, even if it does not go anywhere. Almost like they can't help but answer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preposterous View Post
    I follow the advice in the Net2Bed ebook. I do short two-three line custom messages based on their profiles,and I always end in some sort of question.

    I am mostly just throwing out funny questions and never comment on appearance. The creative writing sometimes takes longer than it should, but proving to be more efficient than real life. When I go out it is only with co-workers and married friends, so approaching women is a very small part of the evening.

    Best response rate is 30-39 yo at 60%. Honestly, 25-30 yo response rate is much lower (probably 20-25%).

    when a woman has a super generic or short profile, I write something like "I am not sure why, but there is something weirdly creative or exuberant about you. What are you holding back in your profile? Are you in the witness protection program ;-)" This gets a very high response, even if it does not go anywhere. Almost like they can't help but answer.
    Thanks I'll have to try that angle. I've just had THE lamest and most unresponsive time doing online game through a dating 10 replies out of 200! And those 10 replies have stalled - one looked promising but I haven't persuaded her to take it into the real world. I will add that usually I run a quick check that anyone I contact has been online within the last week to prevent wasting lots of time on people that have given up, timewasters. I didn't this time and it shows. Funnily the online game for non-dating(?) sites has picked up. I met one girl from Tagged - she could be a pricktease - she even wanted to kiss me at the end of our first meet - well she did kiss me, I'm seeing her this evening (suspect she will flake though) Also I added a girl on Facebook someone I had gamed last year - we couldn't meet due to some fuck up - I saw her details on Facebook by accident added her about 2 weeks ago sent 1 generic how you doing type message - now she's messaged me for meeting next week.

    I really need to wean myself off online and get someone to kick my ass and do approaches

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    I totally need to get out and just approach too. I absolutely hate going out by myself (although I did it tonight to listen to some live music), and just don't approach when I am out with existing friends.

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    POF Relationship status - Single/Separated/Divorced?

    Yea. Approaching is so much fun in real life. I don't have the patience for online game. It's sink or swim in the field you get a rush going out alone. Even if you fail miserably you learn really quick what works for you and what doesn't. The first time I went alone I needed 5 beers before I could even talk to anybody.. Gradually the drinking has become less of a need. But yea read a bunch and watch you tube videos and just go out and do it. Even if it's a bad night you will feel like less of a loser than data mining POF for girls.

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