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    Hey guys,

    So I have attempted to contact several plentyoffish girls using the following message. One part was taken from a thread I saw here and liked. The issue is I have gotten zero responses to it and am trying to figure out if the entire message is bogus or if some part of it is wrong or any other number of things.

    my message generally goes like this:

    Subject: Not your generic message

    Message:

    Normally a guy would write something in here about how great he thought your profile was or about how awesome he thought your pictures were or about how (insert comment on something from profile)...but a hundred guys have probably already done that and look where it got them...

    So I am going to ask you one very simple and interesting question and see how things go from there...

    If we were to rob a bank, would you rather be the shooter ooorrrr the driver?



    Thats how the message goes. It varies slightly from girl to girl but is generally the same. Again, I have gotten zero responses to this message and am looking on how to improve so let me know what you guys think.

    Thanks,
    Elytis


    "Show me the rules of the game, and I'll show you how I'm gonna win"-unknown

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    Re: POF message

    I don't like the way the message goes or the longevity of it, the most succesful openers I have used are completely random and unusual just to get a reply

    Remember openers are exactly that, u get there attention and run with a routine, keep the opener short and to the point an move on


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    I use a 'you're cute opener' That is it. They either like my pic of they don't. The ones who do respond. The ones who didn't have higher standards online then they do in real life. I usually get a reply. Or I look at their profile and if they leave an opening to say something funny, I will. Like a girl said she wanted something different. I said poopie and now I have her phone number and we're texting and I'm trying to get a meet up.

    That opener is pretty bad though. It sounds boring. I wouldn't respond to it.

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    I like where you are going with it, but I don't think it reads easily. Maybe cut it down so it is easier to ready.

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    Don't take this personally because this routine isn't a reflection of your personality but this happens to be the worst one I have read in a while. lots to learn from. you're actually doing a lot of bad thing subtely. comments in bold.

    Quote Originally Posted by Elytis View Post

    Subject: Not your generic message

    you're qualifying to her right off the bat (1), in addition to being a bad thing it builds an expectation of being impressed (2). This is sometimes useful because if you can tell some one something cool is going to happen and something cool does happen it shows value like a cold read even if you are qualifying to them it's beneficial overall.

    Message:

    Normally a guy would write something in here about how great he thought your profile was or about how awesome he thought your pictures were or about how (insert comment on something from profile)...but a hundred guys have probably already done that and look where it got them...

    this frames her positively (3) and qualifies some more (4), also it shows a lack of social intelligence indicating paranoia, girls don't get hit on by "hundreds" of guys online they get hit on by "dozens" of guys, there a difference. women will go "wtf" to this minor detail believe it or not. Imagine if you get hit on by 8 men that month (a real confirmed POF number from the girl in my avatar actually) and some one says hundreds of guys hit on you, you'd either be flattered or think the comment made no sense (5)


    So I am going to ask you one very simple and interesting question and see how things go from there...

    again more qualifying (6)

    If we were to rob a bank, would you rather be the shooter ooorrrr the driver?

    not only is this very incongruent to everything you said (7), it's not even playful because you removed that element from the original routine, and it's incredibly disappointing (8) to everything you built up, furthermore the original routine is designed to be snappy and quick, you also removed that element which makes it make no sense. (9)
    So basically you have

    pros:

    - none

    cons:

    - incongruent (7)
    - lame (9)
    - disappointing (2) (8)
    - qualifying to her (6) (4) (1)
    - framing her positively (3)
    - wtf (5) (9)

    and all these things are before even talking to her and you even prove these negative traits multiple ways.


    Here's one with a better structure to it:


    Subject: your typical generic message

    Message:

    Most guys would write something in here about how great they thought your profile was nice or about how awesome your pictures were and about how your cute curly hair...but 999,999,999 guys have already done that.

    This is why it's my lucky day. As messeger # 1 billion I am the grand prize winner!

    I have 3 things to say as just a formality:

    1 - your profile is great

    2 - your pics are awesome

    3 - nice curls

    what should I buy with my $25,000?

    her: blah blah blah

    those are terrible purchases. I should have just been the 1000th guy to have sex with paris hilton instead of hitting on you,.

    i need more cash to buy better things. we're robbing a bank. wanna drive or shoot?

    her: blah blah blah

    that's a terrible choice! remind me not to put you in a position of leadership. you definitly won't be picking the restaurant on our generic date. just sit there and look really cute and play with your hair


    Hope that points you in the right direction
    Love

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    haha ok then...I guess (to look at it positively) at least I tried something. Thanks for the advice guys and I'll have to rework the message.
    "Show me the rules of the game, and I'll show you how I'm gonna win"-unknown

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    Yeah you kind of mixed and matched two different routines and the result was quite bad. Go with Lv3's advice and post up the results!
    the_sLiDe

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