She only wants to text, should I next her?

[WhoIsDuncanIdaho]

I'm going to try and keep this short because I don't think anyone cares aobut all the signifgant details.


I'm kind of caught up and won't be able to meet chicks in IRL for a little while, so I thought I'd try and find some online to chat with just for fun and to see if anything happens.

I met this chick off a website, we emailed a bit, and my email game was pretty solid and she was like "hey let's text." I wasn't really into texting so I kind of put it off for a while because I didn't want to jump through her hoops. AFter about an evening I gave in and texted her.

I think I'm playing a pretty decent text game, that's not what my problem is. The problem is I hate texting and my phone sucks with texting becuase it doesn't have a keyboard or anything. I prefer email or instant messaging, and I've tried to get her back to email by just not texting her, and it's worked.

So here's my question: Should I next her? She's not the only chick I've got around by far, but she's not bad, she's kind of sweet.

What would you guys do?


(Newbie question, I hope this isn't asking for game on a silver platter, I just want to make sure I'm not getting one-itis :P )

[MikeX]

I had the exact same situation last month.

Some women, especially when you meet them online, seem to have no intention of following through. Can't say that's what you've got for sure, but the odds are good.

You could stop replying to texts for a while, and see what happens. Think of it as an experiment.

Mostly though, I think it'll come down to nexting her, or keeping going, to practise your text (or email, or IM) game, knowing there's a good chance that's as far as it'll go.

[Wolf359]

Technology like e-mail is great for meeting women because it's so convenient and pressure free, but it can be a little too easy especially for the girl. She might be willing to email or text a guy that she would never be willing to tlak to on the phone or go out with in real life. You can quickly fall in to the trap of just be an email buddy, somebody she sends email to whenever she is bored or needs validation. I've had that happen to me before.

My advice is, pull the trigger. Forget email and texting, it's time to ask her out. Set a time limit of two weeks; if you don't get a date by then it's time to move on.

[WhoIsDuncanIdaho]

Thanks for the replies, Imagineer and Wolf, you two hit it right on the head.

[InnFielder]

My advice is, pull the trigger. Forget email and texting, it's time to ask her out. Set a time limit of two weeks; if you don't get a date by then it's time to move on.

Yup just ask her out. I wouldnt next her cause she only wants to text. I would next her if she refuses to meet up, but you don't even know if that's the case becasue you have not asked her out.