Urgent help needed, got cashier number, then txt very strange but need help...

[GABBO GABBO GABBO]

ok guys i'll start from the start i guess lol...

For a year or more now i've been going the same supermarket (coles), mostly cause i live near it and easy to get too... over this time coles has had some pretty hotties which i've tried chatting up, and some i've even asked out, gotten turned down with some and others have liked me just on my looks alone...


Now recently i did something creative that is'nt that popular but i got the idea from Fast Seduction 101: Art of Pick-up and Seduction...

I wrote out a note to this one girl who i've been wanting to ask out for a long time lol, but every time i go see her i find it hard to talk normal cause there is never enough time... So i decided to write out this note, this note said..

Hey HB8 i know this is very cheesy, and i don't normally do this kinda of thing but i've been wanting to ask you out for a while now haha, but everytime we get a chance to talk, your either busy, or theres not enough time so i thought i'd try some thing different and hope to put a smile on your face..
It's me Gabbo from yesterday just so you remember, ( i asked her when she's working next so i could deliver this note). I was wondering if you'd be interested in tagging along with me on sunday night for a game of pool, or on wednesday i plan on going for a game of putt putt, if so send me a txt on XXXXXXX and i'll get back to you asap... Cya for now Gabbo... oo

Now with that note i went to the flower shop in the same building and asked if they could take this note and deliver it with a flower, i got her an Orange rose,instead of red because REd means you love the girl etc etc..

I did this today and was'nt expecting a txt for a few days, but its now 10:00 pm and here is the msg she send me...


Hey Gabbo, it's Hb8 from coles. I never knew that was your name firstly i just want to say, the flower was really nice, no one has done that for me before, i get where you are coming from, it's hard for me to chat at work dealing with all the customers and all... I've known you a bit now for a few years though, well not personally but you know what i mean, I'm really flattered, i really am. I mean it when i say that. But i'm have to say no to meeting up you. I'm sorry Gabbo i'm sure you are a good guy, you certainly seem like one and i have been single for years now. sadly lol. But sorry Gabbo.
I'd love to chat to you at work or through txt though ... HOpe you understand. And sorry about texting late. i've been busy at work. I have so much shifts now that i'm on holidays from uni. Anyways good night gabbo Mwa xoxo


Thats what her reply was..

NOw how on earth would you guys respons to that?... and how long would you wait to reply back? i was thinking of tomorrow afternoon...


Thanks for your help..

cheers big ears

P.s just about evey time she sees me she is always smileing, even last week she waved at me like crazy ? she always gives me IOI's

I was thinking of replying back to this..

Me: Hey hows things? oops my bad i thought i gave you my name haha i'm kinda of a social guy and meet tones of people so i can't remember every thing i say to everyone... Thats cool about not meeting up with me i'm sure you are really nervouse meeting up with such a good looking guy like me & of course busy, I'm glad you liked the flower as i was'nt sure which type to get as red roses is more for love etc and so i decided to get orange with the help of the lady from the flower shop of course... I'm more then happy to get to know you through txt n still chat to you at work, but i just moved to (few suberbs away not far though) so i thought i'd do this as you seem like a really cool gal to hang out with and have a few laughs with...

i HAVE'NT SENT ANYTHING YET..

IS THIS SALVIGABLE?

[DeadEyeDick]

You have one-itis.

Props on taking the bold move, but you may have mis-read her interest. She also may have been a little freaked by the flower/note.

Move on, but good initiative.

[GABBO GABBO GABBO]

Yeh thats what i was thinking, all good..

I'm actually starting up a journal of all the aproaches i'm doing thats just the first one. 2 morrow i'm doing day game and night as its the weekend..

[mm_tris]

mannnn thats full on, extremely bold, but sending flowers, ouch... to be honest i'm not really surprised that she denied. it makes you look needy in my opinion...

i think you should've asked here on how to go about getting her number, you could've perhaps had more positive results with a direct, but toned down approach lol.

Well done none-the-less.

[alex121]

Firstly, kudos for having the guts to do it.

Ok, difficult to chat, flirt and number close - could you have asked her for some advice on flowers? You might have been able to monopolise her a bit there? Just a thought. I agree that the flower probably came across as a bit toooo much - what has she done to earn it?

Some thoughts on the note:

"Hey HB8 i know this is very cheesy, and i don't normally do this kinda of thing" - if it's cheesy, why would you want to do it - this sounds like you're not very confident also.
" but i've been wanting to ask you out for a while now haha, " - declaring your interest too early. And the "haha" - it's not really a line that's open to a funny interpretation.

"but everytime we get a chance to talk, your either busy, or theres not enough time so i thought i'd try some thing different and hope to put a smile on your face.." - yeah, that's kinda cute I guess. But you could have put a different slant on it - how about saying that YOU are the one who's too busy? Just a thought...

"just so you remember, " - lacks confidence.

"I was wondering if you'd be interested in tagging along with me on sunday night for a game of pool, or on wednesday i plan on going for a game of putt putt, if so send me a txt" - "I was wondering if..." lacks confidence... the two choices - not so sure about - do you know what she's into? I mean, get her into your world, but she might not like either? Why not "On sunday night I'm going to ... for a game of pool - if you'd like to have some fun, come along and join me" - i.e. you're already doing it, so she can either come with or not, you don't care.

"i'll get back to you asap... Cya for now Gabbo... oo" - ditch the first bit? What's with the "oo"?

Hope this helps, and again, well done for making the approach. I bet you must have been really nervous to do it, and it must be upsetting to have not met with the desired result, but it's a chance to learn, and at least you can say you had the balls to try.

[flexxx77]

All the flower and cute note shit is what you do after you've gotten the girl.

Why not approach and be direct with her? Lack of confidence?

Women like confidence, that might be why you didn't get the girl. Props on making an attempt though, but you took the wrong route. Keep your head up!

[GABBO GABBO GABBO]

hahaha thanks guys for all the help i'm still going to persue this girl as i think she just wants to get to know me first, so i'll send a txt back and see what happens, if nothing comes from it lesson learned...

oo ... hugs n kisses but with out the kisses i know that was bad, but still thoght it was worth a shot, at doing something bold.

I don't actually like asking girls out on dates so i always say things like hey i'm going on such n such you should tag along... Yes giving her 2 options were bad another fault and lesson learnd.. (i'm not going to get caught up as i'm not that worried, plenty of fish in the sea ))..

I could of sworn this girl likes me and still think that way, with all the IOI's i mean seriously with her waiving n smileing at me 80% of the time, and now with that txt msg she sent me about telling me she's been single for years now sadly etc etc i'm still going to give it a shot... I know this is a one itis thing, but my goal by the end of the year is to have at least 3 hb8 or higher as FBs so in a way it's not one itis but then again it is lol.

OK with the flower thing, the girl at the shop i talked to her about which to get and i said, i'm not a fan of red roses as that means you love the girl etc etc and i don't love her as i don't know her, so she suggested Orange rose, and i thought aweseme as Orange is my favorite colour...

It was just the one Flower not 2 or more it was just "ONE"...

I even told the flower shop chick about that aproach in Fast Seduction 101: Art of Pick-up and Seduction where you get a note write down, YOU HAVE A SECRET ADMIRE, then when you go in there next you have on a shirt, I AM YOUR SECRET ADMIRE, but dont ' know anywhere where i live where you can get a shirt done like that.


Thanks guys all good, i'll let you all know how it turns out if it does..

CHEERS BIG EARS!

[flexxx77]

Dude just my opinion on the secret admirer routine. That's creepy as fuck.

You're overthinking this.

You don't need flowers or custom made t-shirts or fancy gambits or games to wow her into dating you. Have confidence in your self, open her, show her your an interesting guy and tell her that you two are going to hangout, and shes going to wear her cashier uniform because you think its cute.

It's that easy.

Good luck bro!

[GABBO GABBO GABBO]

Man i just sent the dumbest afc txt msg ever lmao, oh well it will be interested to see if she replys back lmao....

[MiLLo]

Man i just sent the dumbest afc txt msg ever lmao, oh well it will be interested to see if she replys back lmao....

You mean after agreeing, and reading all the advice to move on - you've now sent a lame text message?

Delete her number, find another branch. Seriously.